Canadians were the sport of choice amongst lesbians in your day?
― totally unnecessary bewbz of exploitation (DJP), Wednesday, 18 December 2019 21:35 (four years ago) link
I've got the scars to prove it
― that said, I’d prefer a single serving of you (flamboyant goon tie included), Wednesday, 18 December 2019 21:39 (four years ago) link
i have to be honest that i have a deep aversion to guys using the word "dude" it like revolts mei can't pinpoint exactly what it is.......
― surm, Wednesday, 18 December 2019 21:41 (four years ago) link
:-(
― totally unnecessary bewbz of exploitation (DJP), Wednesday, 18 December 2019 21:48 (four years ago) link
omg i'm sorry! i mean, i'm trying to work on it
― surm, Wednesday, 18 December 2019 21:50 (four years ago) link
also who cares what i think really
― surm, Wednesday, 18 December 2019 21:51 (four years ago) link
It's okay, du- um... bud?
― totally unnecessary bewbz of exploitation (DJP), Wednesday, 18 December 2019 21:58 (four years ago) link
hehehehe i like bud!
― surm, Wednesday, 18 December 2019 21:58 (four years ago) link
the gas station parking lot was a complete mess last week so I ended up pulling up next to the air pump, and sure enough, someone pulled up as soon as I got out of my car needing to use it. "dude, are you using that air compressor?" "nah man, I'll move!"
hadn't been called dude in the wild for some time
― mh, Wednesday, 18 December 2019 21:59 (four years ago) link
really! i feel like it happens all the time did you like it?
― surm, Wednesday, 18 December 2019 22:02 (four years ago) link
I get "hey man" a lot more than "dude" and it was somewhat refreshing
― mh, Wednesday, 18 December 2019 22:25 (four years ago) link
For some reason I was thinking about my late grandfather this morning and how I grew up admiring him as a "tough guy who had a sensitive side" and thinking about how (according to his own self description) had been sensitive when he was young but had to be tough because of circumstances (growing up in a poor neighborhood, fighting in the pacific theater etc.). But then it hit me, aren't all boys born sensitive? There's no such thing as a tough baby.
― longtime caller, first time listener (man alive)
you have clearly not been watching enough animal planet
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DsVk7MNNAeQ
"hehehehe i like bud!
― surm"
everybody likes bud these days, even people who don't live in oregon
― Agnes Motörhead (rushomancy), Thursday, 19 December 2019 00:23 (four years ago) link
i've been called "boss" a few times but it's always when someone is trying to upsell me on an air filter at an oil change place.
― omar little, Thursday, 19 December 2019 00:24 (four years ago) link
like, half the farmers/fishermen i know write poetry, and most of the honours class lads still go home to play in the parish cups
― Banáná hÉireann (darraghmac)
i think there's something in that, tho of course the Irish acceptance and appreciation of poetry is hardly a universal
― a very powerful woman in the dog world (Noodle Vague)
ahem
www.fisherpoets.org
― Agnes Motörhead (rushomancy), Thursday, 19 December 2019 00:24 (four years ago) link
I hate "boss".
― Bublé in the changer, I wish I was dead (Neanderthal), Thursday, 19 December 2019 00:25 (four years ago) link
Jai Alai is the official sport of genderqueer
is _that_ why it's banned in the phillipines, i thought it was the rampant match fixing
― Agnes Motörhead (rushomancy), Thursday, 19 December 2019 00:25 (four years ago) link
― mh
you can have the best of both worlds
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9AaiQVAG0gQ
― Agnes Motörhead (rushomancy), Thursday, 19 December 2019 00:26 (four years ago) link
Likewise, and "chief" is even worse (I get that now and then).
― nickn, Thursday, 19 December 2019 00:38 (four years ago) link
My tortured joke above was for the "favorite board game" question. "Sorry" is a game (may be only cards, no board) and the joke was that Canadians say "sorry" a lot (and they pronounce it "soary").
― nickn, Thursday, 19 December 2019 00:40 (four years ago) link
i get 'boss' at the bodega; it's not great, but whatever
― mookieproof, Thursday, 19 December 2019 00:50 (four years ago) link
Lol, nickn. I had assumed your joke was "oh wait, lacrosse is the official sport of CANADIANS, not lesbians" since iirc lacrosse IS the official national sport of Canada.
― No language just sound (Sund4r), Thursday, 19 December 2019 03:04 (four years ago) link
― nickn
sorry about that
(nb i am not canadian)
― Agnes Motörhead (rushomancy), Thursday, 19 December 2019 05:06 (four years ago) link
I saw a film noir about a jai alai player who got murdered by one of his many mistresses, after he got her pregnant, then left to go pro in Cuba. He did not seem genderqueer.
― Frederik B, Thursday, 19 December 2019 08:49 (four years ago) link
when I worked in a caff we used to call the boss "chief" just to wind him up. "Squire" is even better for insincere displays of respect.
― mfktz (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Thursday, 19 December 2019 08:58 (four years ago) link
Can't beat 'big yin', ask Bobby Gillespie.
― Soup on my lanyard (Tom D.), Thursday, 19 December 2019 09:22 (four years ago) link
was watching a doc about Clarence Adams (black US soldier who defected to China after becoming a POW during Korean war) and he said how initially he was spoken to quite cordially (and often addressed in some Chinese word for comrade or something) in his first period in China, but then in the early days of the Cultural Revolution he noticed people started calling him "mister". And he said something like when you become a "mister" that means you are less than a human being and are in grave danger + you need to get yr ass out of there fast!
I chuckle to myself when Asian taxi drivers call me "boss".
― calzino, Thursday, 19 December 2019 09:22 (four years ago) link
guessing they called him "shifu" which is just used for taxi drivers and repairmen ime. if someone isn't referring to you as some sort of long-lost family member then it does sound like they are distancing themself from you.
― mfktz (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Thursday, 19 December 2019 09:33 (four years ago) link
my mom still calls some people 'cheap charlie'.
― Yerac, Thursday, 19 December 2019 09:52 (four years ago) link
Seamus Heaney was given a minute's silence before the All Ireland Final at Croke Park in 2013; can't think of many other countries where the equivalent would happen.
― fetter, Thursday, 19 December 2019 09:54 (four years ago) link
Not maleness/masculinity content but
As a PSA, I don't find it particularly informative or insightfulI mean have you seen one ever that like ~blows your mind~?
I mean have you seen one ever that like ~blows your mind~?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BtulL3oArQw&feature=emb_logo
― Sund4r, Friday, 27 March 2020 01:31 (four years ago) link
I don't think that worked: https://youtu.be/BtulL3oArQw
― Sund4r, Friday, 27 March 2020 01:32 (four years ago) link
nicely written piece linked to by cory doctorow on twitter. i don't personally identify with a lot of it but thought it was insightful:
https://hedgehogreview.com/issues/identitieswhat-are-they-good-for/articles/what-is-it-like-to-be-a-man
the original twitter thread for reference
Patriarchy's dirty secret is that it sucks for men, too. There's been an ocean of ink spilled over "toxic masculinity" but until I read @phil_christman's "What It's Like to Be a Man" in the @hedgehogreview, I couldn't crisply define it.https://t.co/EMmjV4AUWw1/ pic.twitter.com/s3xSKEOwsN— Cory Doctorow #BLM (@doctorow) July 12, 2020
― carin' (map), Sunday, 12 July 2020 16:43 (three years ago) link
that's a really good piece, indeed
― sound of scampo talk to me (El Tomboto), Sunday, 12 July 2020 17:18 (three years ago) link
I inexplicably think I should know how to install drywall, among many other things, and have the Hank Hill-esque insecure feeling when someone is working on my house. Luckily, I do not feel the need to hover over the furnace guy so I can say things like “oh, using a socket wrench there, huh?”It’s junk
― solo scampito (mh), Sunday, 12 July 2020 17:42 (three years ago) link
220, 221, whatever it takes
― Li'l Brexit (Tracer Hand), Sunday, 12 July 2020 17:45 (three years ago) link
xp - don't you have an older house that is plaster & lath? ... installing drywall, while a useful skill (i def need to brush up on it), in some cases is less relevant depending on the age and construction of a given building or buildings in a region ... and that is my butch nerd insight of the day.
― sarahell, Sunday, 12 July 2020 19:09 (three years ago) link
I've found that the best way to justify not being a DIY handyman-type is to own no more than a few basic hand tools, so I never have all the tools I need to do anything more complicated than, say, hanging a picture or fixing a leaky faucet.
― the unappreciated charisma of cows (Aimless), Sunday, 12 July 2020 19:16 (three years ago) link
Who purchases a Riverside Chaucer and a copy of the Go-Betweens’ 16 Lovers Lane before he gets around to pillows?
pictures of people who seem to have figured out how to live
― Guayaquil (eephus!), Sunday, 12 July 2020 19:20 (three years ago) link
I inexplicably think I should know how to install drywall, among many other things, and have the Hank Hill-esque insecure feeling when someone is working on my house.
― solo scampito (mh)
for the true male experience, bob dylan gives some tips on hanging drywall in the first episode of the second season of "theme time radio hour"
― Kate (rushomancy), Sunday, 12 July 2020 23:16 (three years ago) link
Don't think I even know what drywall is. it might be a us/uk difference thing though. I am extremely incompetent at most manual work.
― Anti-Cop Ponceortium (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Sunday, 12 July 2020 23:36 (three years ago) link
Aka plasterboard.
― pomenitul, Sunday, 12 July 2020 23:40 (three years ago) link
Guess we just don't put up as many walls as a nation. I have put up lots of shelves and hanging baskets, no walls.
― Anti-Cop Ponceortium (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Sunday, 12 July 2020 23:44 (three years ago) link
It's true, the Romans had to take care of it themselves.
― pomenitul, Sunday, 12 July 2020 23:45 (three years ago) link
Yes, plasterboard.
Was always confused by this when Dan from Roseanne would talk about it, I used to imagine him dry stone walling.
― koogs, Monday, 13 July 2020 01:12 (three years ago) link
This is the newest iteration of toxic masculinity: toxic male mystification
― wet pockets (flamboyant goon tie included), Monday, 13 July 2020 01:35 (three years ago) link
When hanging drywall you need to get a bit for your drill/driver that is like a Phillips head screw driver with foreskin.
― Heez, Monday, 13 July 2020 02:03 (three years ago) link
it's interesting the stuff that resonates w/ me about the Christman piece that resonates (lack of comfort w/ self, needless physical discomfort, defaulting to shoddinesss) and find totally alien ("each meeting of men can turn into a fistfight") though I'm sure it is describing real sensations, idk maybe that describes your homosocial interactions but it doesn't ring at all true for mine
― k*r*n koltrane (Simon H.), Monday, 13 July 2020 02:20 (three years ago) link
err too many resonates in there you get it
― k*r*n koltrane (Simon H.), Monday, 13 July 2020 02:23 (three years ago) link
Drywall was always called gyprock when I was growing up.
― Temporary Erogenous Zone (jim in vancouver), Monday, 13 July 2020 04:24 (three years ago) link
Sounds easy to hang tbh. Annoying/hard work but not difficult
― Temporary Erogenous Zone (jim in vancouver), Monday, 13 July 2020 04:25 (three years ago) link