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I have no problem calling you John in real life but that is not how you call yourself here. And I prefer to call people what they want to call themselves. And yet "Jaymc" is a mouthful and "Jay" is wrong. So, I have gone with "J.", which is almost a pun.

On another forum where I used this same nick, people called me "Cas", which was fine, except then when I started using it here people shortened it to "Casu", which I kinda liked, as it was a cross between "kazoo" and "cashew".

The other thing: I don't generally refer to people by name. In fact, my high school girlfriend (it didn't work out) got very upset because I never referred to her by name when speaking to her. Which seems totally odd to me, but then again, I never refer to anyone's name when speaking to them. Even when trying to get their attention, I'm more likely to go just "hey!" rather than "hey, John!"

― Casuistry (Chris P), Friday, 3 March 2006 20:59 (twenty years ago)

That was an xpost that ended up being on a related subject!

― Casuistry (Chris P), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:00 (twenty years ago)

"J." is cool, too. Nabisco and Eazy both call me that.

― jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:02 (twenty years ago)

xpost - I am the same way about referring to people by name -- it really bugs me when people always say "Hi Amanda" every morning. Aren't we sort of past that? We see each other EVERY SINGLE DAY. I know this is stupid, but it makes me feel weird.

On the other hand, I have to remember my students' names, which is sometimes difficult, so I have to keep saying them.

― The Milkmaid (82375538-A) (The Milkmaid), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:04 (twenty years ago)

ILXors with the initials JC:

J0hn Cunningh@m
J0rdan C0hen
Jeremy C00mbes

― jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:04 (twenty years ago)

J. is cool, but not Jay?

xpost I am also against saying "Good morning" to coworkers every day, as if it hasn't become one long ongoing blur. But I realize I might be in the wrong on this one.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:04 (twenty years ago)

matt perpetua loves to be called "matty beebs". no joke.

― chicago kevin (chicago kevin), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:05 (twenty years ago)

wait. is chris male or female? i thought chris was friends with nickalish . . .

― Sweet Tater (kelstarry), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:05 (twenty years ago)

Kanye West

― Jordan (Jordan), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:05 (twenty years ago)

sorry, chris. i just spoke about you like you weren't here.

― Sweet Tater (kelstarry), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:05 (twenty years ago)

Oh, I don't mind "Jay" so much online (since it is, after all, a contraction of my screen name) -- just in real life. I like "J.," though, because it hints at intimacy (I know your name is John) but doesn't want to be presumptuous.

― jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:08 (twenty years ago)

This Chris (a/k/a Casuistry, from Portland, Ore.) is different from that other Chris (a/k/a Dale, Cprek, etc., from Lexington, Ky.). Both are male.

― jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:09 (twenty years ago)

Jeez, and just an hour ago, I wrote up a Guide to Ethan Padgett Pseudonyms on the Stylus staff board.

― jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:10 (twenty years ago)

Jeff is my third Jeff.

And FINAL Jeff.

― Nutsy the Squirrel (pullapartgirl), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:10 (twenty years ago)

Also - put on your critical thinking caps, Chi-ILXors, and tell me what is wrong with this link:

http://www.volgagirl.com/2006wd/russian_brides_womensday2006.html

― Nutsy the Squirrel (pullapartgirl), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:10 (twenty years ago)

I am, however, maler.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:11 (twenty years ago)

xpost - It's this one dude in particular that bugs me. He says "Hi Amanda" in exactly the same borderline-lascivious way every day and it just gives me the oogies. He's got this pasted-on smile and a blank stare. It also seems like a very salesman-y thing to do, to assert that you remembered the person's name. Again, I know I'm being dumb in rebelling against this. Still, though.

http://i2.tinypic.com/qnwfme.jpg

― The Milkmaid (82375538-A) (The Milkmaid), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:11 (twenty years ago)

Also - put on your critical thinking caps, Chi-ILXors, and tell me what is wrong with this link:

"western-oriented man" should probably be "Western-oriented man"?

― jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:12 (twenty years ago)

The sad thing is that there is possibly nothing at all wrong with that link.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:13 (twenty years ago)

Using Women's Day to celebrate mail-order brides?

― The Milkmaid (82375538-A) (The Milkmaid), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:13 (twenty years ago)

Oh, right. That.

― jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:14 (twenty years ago)

ahahaha

― Jordan (Jordan), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:14 (twenty years ago)

Attendance at this dinner will have the anticipated effect to boost the confidence and morale of those involved, directly benefiting those men who are corresponding with them.

― Jordan (Jordan), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:14 (twenty years ago)

And then, at the bottom:

No longer an exclusively socialist holiday, International Women's Day is now a time to rally support for women's rights around the world, commemorate the progress we've made, and honor the efforts of individual women who have helped bring about greater equality for all.

― Nutsy the Squirrel (pullapartgirl), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:15 (twenty years ago)

BY SELLING RUSSIAN WOMEN TO WESTERN-ORIENTED MEN.

― Nutsy the Squirrel (pullapartgirl), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:16 (twenty years ago)

If becoming a mail-order bride really is a more "pro-woman" step up from their current situation, then maybe! But I don't know enough about the situation to say. A friend of mine (or, a friend of a friend of mine) was doing her PhD dissertation on this sort of thing, and, well, apparently she found it a litle upsetting at times. So to speak.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:16 (twenty years ago)

occidentally-oriented

― Jordan (Jordan), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:18 (twenty years ago)

Accident-prone.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:19 (twenty years ago)

But, see, I didn't KNOW Jaymc's "real" name was John until well after I'd formed a mental image. I cannot be held responsible for my mental images.

― Laurel (Laurel), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:19 (twenty years ago)

xp, yes exactly, amanda!

i have that annoyance at people who use your name a lot. i have a neighbor who has stopped by a couple of times, who i really just met. he immediately wanted to call me by a nickname, which i nixed. i go by 'julia', 'julie', or 'jules', (or JA, come to think of it), and isn't that enough?

and then he would pepper his conversation with my name, which is just all schmoozey and salesmanlike. it's one of those things they tell salespeople, isn't it--that you should use a person's name a lot to make them feel important or something?

i like being addressed by my name, but not when it seems all artificial and smarmy like that.

― Juulia (julesbdules), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:19 (twenty years ago)

"Mail-order bride" is more often than not a nice way to say "sex slave" or "domestic abuse victim." And mail-order bride brokers are more like human traffickers than, say, match.com-type services.

And no, being marketed, packaged, sold, and shipped like so much exotic Beluga cavier is not a more "pro-woman" step from their current situation, which may not be as great as say, my US current situation.

Ask yourself - what is a man who seeks a Russian mail-order bride really looking for in a mate?

― Nutsy the Squirrel (pullapartgirl), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:20 (twenty years ago)

Dumplings?

― Jordan (Jordan), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:21 (twenty years ago)

Sorry, I will tone down the fiery feminist rhetoric (not that I think opposition to human trafficking is really all that controversial a stance, but I recognize that's kind of a heavy topic for a Friday afternoon).

occidentally-oriented/accident-prone = LOL

― Nutsy the Squirrel (pullapartgirl), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:21 (twenty years ago)

http://www.hot.ee/iljaaa/PICS/pelmeni.jpg

― Jordan (Jordan), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:22 (twenty years ago)

The same thing that my classmate sought in his "data collection" from Thai prostitutes, I would imagine.

― The Milkmaid (82375538-A) (The Milkmaid), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:22 (twenty years ago)

EVERY DAY IS WOMANS DAY

― n/a (Nick A.), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:23 (twenty years ago)

SINCE THEY GOT THE VOTE

― n/a (Nick A.), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:23 (twenty years ago)

I DRANK COFFEE

― n/a (Nick A.), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:23 (twenty years ago)

O RLY

― Juulia (julesbdules), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:24 (twenty years ago)

EVERY DAY IS WOMANS DAY

― n/a (Nick A.), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:25 (twenty years ago)

WHEN IS IT MANS DAY?

― n/a (Nick A.), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:25 (twenty years ago)

GO GET ME SOME COFFEE, SUGAR BRITCHES.

― Nutsy the Squirrel (pullapartgirl), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:26 (twenty years ago)

SOUNDS LIKE SOMEBODY'S GOT A CASE OF THE MANS DAYS

― n/a (Nick A.), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:26 (twenty years ago)

THAT IS TRUE. I ALWAYS HAVE A CASE OF THE MANS DAYS.

― Nutsy the Squirrel (pullapartgirl), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:28 (twenty years ago)

ROCKIN OUT TO DON CAB

― n/a (Nick A.), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:29 (twenty years ago)

I totally (and obviously) agree with you about what happens to them after they get sold and married and all that. But I don't actually know about what their current, pre-marriage situation is. My question boils down to: Why do these women do this? And I realize they might not have much of a choice in the matter. But then I think, surely a horribly abusive situation in the U.S. offers more of a chance of escape than a horribly abusive situation in Russia?

Or do they never end up getting married off, and are just trotted out as escorts to desparate and horny Westerners? That could be the worst case scenario.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:30 (twenty years ago)

(xp) THEY ARE A MATH ROCK BAND. GIRLS CAN'T DO MATH.

― jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:30 (twenty years ago)

Oh, I mean:

JUST ANOTHER MANIC MANDAY.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:30 (twenty years ago)

GIRLS CAN'T DANCE TO MUSIC THAT YOU CAN'T DANCE TO

― Jordan (Jordan), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:32 (twenty years ago)

AND THEY DON'T LIKE THAT

BECAUSE THEY ARE GIRLS

― Jordan (Jordan), Friday, 3 March 2006 21:32 (twenty years ago)

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