Canceling Ellen and the NFL: QUEER FALL of 2019

OMG I KNOW

like get out

my fb is pretty good about that, and i know i shdn't linger past 2-3 hrs

no i definitely don't
kinda like it when they ask me to spend the night tho
i may be too aggressive with the spooning

at least I can leave if I'm at his place.

I rarely spend the night.

i'm still trying to figure out that thing when someone shows up at your door and they are not what you expected
like usually i just go with it which feels unfair to my body
i just never have the heart to be like, i can't

I have kind of accepted it as a trade-off for having your meal delivered.

I don't do anon hookups very often but when I do, I enjoy smiling widely afterward and saying, cheerily "It was nice meeting you! That was very fun! Time for you to leave, now."

My last hookup was with a hammered longtime friend, so I felt guilty about subjecting him to my punishing before-dawn wakeup habits.

i thought at first u meant "subjecting him to your punishing" like you have a bdsm thing

if he'd seen me glaring at him while he snored past 7:30 a.m. you'd be right.

lol

this is the best ilx thread.

<3

Every part of his body fits perfectly into the corresponding part of my body and vice versa
The same for our personality traits
And the sex is making my head spin

amazing. so rare to find that!!! my fb down the street who i told you guys made me dinner a few weeks ago took me to the new Wegman's last weekend (lol) on one of those Revel motor bikes. it was my first ride on a motor bike! and i was holding onto him the whole time scared for my life
tonight he wants to take me to Spa Castle, where apparently the men get very free. this is a new thing for me, should i go???

omg. so i just agreed to go to one of those bathhouses tonight. i'm terrified. i'm not even a naked person. and supposedly people get it on in there!!!

can confirm, as someone who uh, may or may not have participated in that sort of thing before :x

ok but like, is it fun?? i'm freaking out. what if i look like an idiot!

i guess we can lock the gay TMI thread if surm follows through tomorrow

I've done that twice. The first time was highly personal. A really cute man took me by the hand and led me to a room and the sex was terrific. Reasonably good first introduction. The second time was highly anonymous. There was a pile of men just kind of fucking and sucking each other in a darkened space. I was doing a thing to a very enthusiastic bottom and I started to lose my erection; I couldn't help but think I was wasting my time, and wished I was at home playing my violin. I looked around and thought, somewhat spitefully, "don't these people have better things to do? I certainly do." So I left. And I went home and played my violin. Anon sex is not for me.

The good thing about those situations is that it feels like the structures of body capitalism are somewhat defanged. It feels as if age and race and physical fitness and dick size and bottom-roundness and height and so on are all kind of less important. There is an equalizing feeling to the environment that is appealing. But, like, mostly I just wanted to leave, and/or strike up a conversation with someone.

Other friends I have are super into it, even to a point of addiction. That said, I have been told myself that I am a lesbian in a gay man's body. This may be true.

this is terrifying

no, it's the best ilx thread.

:) apparently there's a bar there so i will need to drown my anxiety i think

Yerac, happy to have you here!

It was slightly terrifying to me, too. I was out for dinner the next night with a gay couple (who were squarer than I anticipated) and I joked that I'd picked up eight distinct STIs at the sex club the night before. "Can't wait to get home to get 'em all checked out!" They were not amused, and I was later told this comment soured the mood of the dinner party. Ennh. Whatever. I did feel somewhat "what if?" afterward but I came back 100% clean. I don't think I'll ever go into that environment again unless a partner desires for it. I myself would probably enjoy an audience in that scenario, but sex-with-anons has been tried and vetoed.

I did hook-up with a distant acquaintance about a month ago. He asked me afterward "so, do you have any STIs I should know about" and I said "I get cold sores" and he said "lol stop bragging" and I laughed, that's a disarmingly nice response.

Dan Savage makes me feel insane when I read his column. Why don't people like him again? I can't put my finger on what rubs me the wrong way. Maybe it's his "DTMFA" response to any minor transgressive sexual misstep? or resolvable issue? Maybe it's the fact that he always sides with the promiscué over they-who-feel-insecure-about-their-partner's-sexual-proclivities? Maybe I'm not just a lesbian but a prude lesbian at that.

my one bathhouse experience was very fun, but it took some patience

There are probably numerous reasons to dislike Savage, but I just got weary of his combative tone all the time. I haven’t read him in years.

Did the bathhouse thing a few times each in Toronto and Detroit, each time with my boyfriend-at-the-time plus once with a friend. The Toronto one was more like fgti’s second experience—lots going on but I wasn’t comfortable with that sorta thing yet, and we mostly just walked around and observed. The Detroit one was far more low key and the few times we went we were able to actually strike up convos with people before/after doing anything, or in some cases just talk without anything happening at all. I remember talking to an attractive older man for a quite a while; I was into him but we never ended up doing anything because I didn’t think my bf would be into it (I never bothered to ask him later, because the moment had passed anyway).

um i LOVE bathhouses / sex clubs and i'm eagerly awaiting a precis from surm.

i had the slowest sex i've ever had at a bathhouse. like everything was slow-motion. it was with an older gentleman who had an ex-biker / willie nelson vibe. it was really hot!

Thanks luv enjoy!

I’m going to smoke up and have sex for hours with a perfect man and tell him I love him afterward and cuddle him all night with the messy results all around us and make him breakfast in the morning while listening to Debussy

Speaking of Franch composers I extremely practiced the Franck sonata today in the hopes that we might one day play it together

Dan Savage is a huge asshole and supported the Gulf War

if Morbs starts cancelling ppl for being huge assholes, we’re living in a world nobody can recognise

(he recanted his 2002 gulf war support later, but is dumb/blinkered on politics & (incidentally) extremely bad on labor generally)

It was slightly terrifying to me, too. I was out for dinner the next night with a gay couple (who were squarer than I anticipated) and I joked that I'd picked up eight distinct STIs at the sex club the night before. "Can't wait to get home to get 'em all checked out!" They were not amused, and I was later told this comment soured the mood of the dinner party. Ennh. Whatever. I did feel somewhat "what if?" afterward but I came back 100% clean. I don't think I'll ever go into that environment again unless a partner desires for it. I myself would probably enjoy an audience in that scenario, but sex-with-anons has been tried and vetoed.

I did hook-up with a distant acquaintance about a month ago. He asked me afterward "so, do you have any STIs I should know about" and I said "I get cold sores" and he said "lol stop bragging" and I laughed, that's a disarmingly nice response.

― that said, I’d prefer a single serving of you (flamboyant goon tie included), Wednesday, November 20, 2019 10:27 PM (yesterday) bookmarkflaglink

um that is so stupid//i'm offended for you

wait so should i post the stuff about last night here or in tmi lol

Both!

I dont know much about Dan Savage but I do know that I despise "It Gets Better." I don't think it's at all inspiring to tell young people their situations will improve but only once they drastically change huge parts of their lives.

Either! xpost.

It doesn’t so much get better as much as one’s expectations get worse.

WELL. i had a real good time tbh. like the whole experience was very interesting to me. i was roaming around naked which tbh was hard for me but whatever. and my buddy had to really lead me around and show me the ropes. there was some showering, some soaking, some swimming with Hennessy margaritas. it was a nice place. then i wound up in the steam room with a bunch of guys and my friend and i found one really cute guy who was definitely packing. we ended up going at it for a while and he wound up with a mouthful from both of us standing over him in a cloud of steam. super fun to have an audience, i've always enjoyed that. so yes, would recommend.

o_O feel v exposed rn but i know this is a safe space!

yay!!

those saunas are HOT tho, my face felt like it was going to burn off
i liked the ice sauna!!!!

haha yeah it's like do i want more sex or do i really just want some water

never did saunas, just dank lofts or basements (with showers)

hot to cold immersion is good for your immune system and circulation while having other good times.

for sure, i love temperature therapy

I get hot reading this thread

tbh i get hot typing in it

so i've gotten into this new thing, and bear with me bc it's kind of embarrassing. i've become one of those people who gets into like a jo buddy situation. you know like i don't even need to do anything else. is that so stupid?

sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don't

i think jacking off with someone is surprisingly intimate because you get to see someone do this thing that they spend so much time doing alone. so not stupid.