Is the Guardian worse than it used to be?

carry on with the taliban tea break, chaps.

(no real "defences" being offered here beyond the standard "some of my best friends are..." trope of the prejudiced)

grimly, yes. It's just strange to me that for a column that's all about her, to not really examine herself at all.

xp Because ad hominem attacks are much better right Dingbod?

I just can't see past the tone. It reeks of smugness and entitlement.

Which is exactly the columnist's point, isn't it?

That so many parents see having a child as their free pass to smugness and entitlement. To me, the tone is a way of throwing back this attitude straight back in their faces.

Not saying that *all* parents believe this ^^^^^^^ but clearly enough for it to provoke a reaction and be commented on.

(xposts) Sorry grimly, went a bit overboard with the paraphrasing. But apart from the admittedly irritating and vacuous "me! like Cameron Diaz!" tone, it seemed a fairly innocuous point of view which was promptly greeted by "BABY-HATER" remarks, and "I bet that a woman who expresses this belief will do something wasteful to the contrary of it in a decade" seemed a bit of an assumption, to me.

(Though I suppose it was really "I bet that a woman who has an opinion as un-examined as this one seems to be on a time-sensitive subject" etc etc, which, well, OK, it does a bit, but I am heading for that point while not daring to think about it myself)

Still, I haven't read her original piece and it sounds like I'd probably be a lot less inclined to stick up for her if I had. Also I am cranky this morning, but you could tell that already.

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Marcello, you're being unusually gnomic and irritating here. Are you seriously saying that we're all woman-haters because, umm, we happen to think that one particular hack is talking pish? Because that would be beneath you. Bottom line: if Polly Vernon was able to articulate herself even half as clearly as Kate or Suzy has here, we wouldn't be having this conversation at all.

We really need an ILX meme for the kind of article people read solely so they can rant about it on this thread.

That so many parents see having a child as their free pass to smugness and entitlement. To me, the tone is a way of throwing back this attitude straight back in their faces

OK, I see what you're saying. I guess I'm just an equal-opportunities curmudgeon who sees smug parents and smug non-parents as equally loathsome (and I'm pretty sure I've been the latter myself; I'd like to think I've grown up a little).

Actually, strike that. I just hate 99% of metropolitan newspaper columnists :)

vernon is basically a nihilist/misanthropist type, wouldn't pay her too much mind.

I like my lifestyle, my career, my body, my capacity to run off to New York at short notice if the opportunity arises. I like that my money is my own to squander. I like that my weekends can be slept away, or drunk away, or read away; that I am not sleep deprived, or if I am, I can remedy that easily. I like how last-minute my time is, how disorganised, how guilt-free.

good for you, enjoy it while it lasts, etc.

Marcello, I was just pointing out that all the critics of PV's opinion piece were male ad I just felt a bit 'what's your damage, Heather?'

The column is reactive: it's about what others think, and the foisting of their opinions on the writer. Doesn't make it good or interesting, but you can bet your left kidney 600 men have left misogynist comments on the Graun's site (this seems to be the way they judge the success of their female columnists and anyway, what's the male equivalent of Polly Filla?) so the writer and topic are set up for life.

Now, I have met this woman's editor in socially fortuitous surroundings and may do so again. I'd quite like to write for those Obs mags in question.

I just hate 99% of metropolitan newspaper columnists

I could get a little bot to post this for me on the thread once a week and save a bunch of time.

what's the male equivalent of Polly Filla?

phil space

dave spart

'a taxi driver writes'
'a doctor writes'

disgusted of Tunbridge Wells

Will Thisdo

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Hate the tone of the PV piece but saw someone on the train today reading a fertility scare story in the Mail which ends thus — "A career is all very well, but it can never match the sheer joy of seeing a little face crack into a wide smile just because you've walked into the room" — which made me realise what she's up against.

Although I wish female broadsheet lifestyle journalists didn't have to fall into the same tired old camps: Glenda Slagg, Polly Filler or a little of both.

Most, not all, I should say.

PV's disingenuousness is really something. "Was I antagonistic? Possibly. I tried not to be." Oh yeah, you tried real hard.

is it professional misconduct for a guardian journalist to badmouth another guardian journalist on a public messageboard?

No, I don't think so.

Categorically not. We're all citizen journalists now anyway, aren't we?

A career is all very well, but it can never match the sheer joy of seeing a little face crack into a wide smile just because you've walked into the room

Well, a career dealing ecstasy to dwarves covers all bases then, doesn't it? Next.

i was gonna say, that happens all the time in my career

is it professional misconduct for a whatever-the-hell-marcello-does to spend this much of their time save-a-ho'ing on the internets?

Is it professional misconduct for me to be spending so much time fucking all your mums?

(Sorry, just keeping with the general tone here)

For them it is.

Grimly F's post is funny!

'A career is all very well' - what a daft, sleepily vague thing to say.

and people wonder why so few women post on ilx.

oh well, carry on with the dismal cocktail of misogyny and envy, gentlemen.

i was gonna say, that happens all the time in my career

That reminds me: Happy rang for you. He wants another 100 pills. Oh, and Dopey wants a nine-bar, Sneezy wants six grams and Doc reckons he's come up with something that'll blow everyone's minds.

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the dismal cocktail of misogyny and envy

Shit, yeh: Grumpy wanted some of that, too.

Sorry I was away, I've been wolf-whistling at random women in the street. Did I miss anything?

What are you Marcello, a lesbian or something?

GUYS. Enough of the messenger-shooting and the LOL ironic sexism OK?

What's Dingbod a messenger of, apart from Godwin's Law?

suzy otm

on basically everything wrt this article

i don't think i even mind the tone so much

When the women did appear on the thread (someone alerted us and I had to drop my Knitting A Uterus class to intervene) Marcello happened to side with our comments. Also the next man who invokes 'save-a-ho' ought to be set upon by Erinyes who'll ensure he's wearing his nuts for earrings.

Marcello calling people "Taliban" for disagreeing with him is not very helpful IMHO.

And that's regardless of the merits or otherwise of any poster's arguments.

The latest piece is much less inflammatory than the first one, but stuff like this: the dramatic arc of all TV dramas, of all rom-coms, is dependent on someone becoming pregnant and finding true happiness as a consequence is patently pish.

clearly lots of ilxors would be happy if the guardian had no women writers so the taliban comparison is justified.

clearly lots of ilxors would be happy if they were guardian writers but after years of sniping at mostly female guardian writers instead of, um, getting off their arses and doing something about writing for the guardian (or anywhere else for that matter), this is unlikely to happen.

qed.

I'm going to pitch them a column - as Will Thisdo - lambasting, like, everyone for the prevailing definition of "interesting, cool guy" as a guy who is either single or divorced.

Dude, they've already got Tim Dowling. He's even American.

i have never seen such dreadful mis-use of the term 'clearly' than on this thread

xpost to Marcello: Dude, I had my chance to work at The Guardian a long time ago and decided against it: I wanted to stay in Scotland. You having fun there building your little collection of straw men today?

As for "no women writers": no rubbish writers of either sex would be nice, but that ain't gonna happen on any paper ever. The Guardian, mercifully, has enough good ones to make it worth reading.

xp and QED as well!

(Also: I can't speak for my subconscious processes, but the writer's gender is one of the last things I consciously consider when I'm reading a piece/ranting about how shit it is on ILX. Maybe that's because I'm a lazy patriarch who doesn't worry enough about gender politics, but hey. Like I say, I try to be an equal-opportunities arsehole.)

Of course, it's okay for Dingbod to go on about how rubbish he thinks Alexis Petridis is more or less every week cos he's a bloke!