things you once thought socially acceptable which now horrify you to remember

e.g. Here's some chick posting "chick" about some other chick. It's normal irl conversational usage. It doesn't make anyone a 1930's gangster for saying it.

https://i.imgur.com/qonSvGe.jpg

Plus "Bird"

untuned mass damper (mh) at 8:13 21 Jul 19

in manhattan it seemed like I was speaking a foreign language if we wanted a two person table divided into two checks!

honestly it's happened to me more than once in the last month where I'm out w a male friend and the check comes predivided

LOL, one of my friends says 'doll', it's such an old time Glasgow thing to say.

again donegal usage there too

Fuck that. Can't just let this slide by unquestioned. Normal people say "chick". It is 100% abnormal and weird to get worked up over it.

The only people I've known in real life who say "chick" wore popped collars well into the late 90s. I've also never heard it used non-dismissively.

"chick" is a derisive term afaik + if the person was trying to pay a compliment and used the word ("she's a cool chick!") i would probably find them uncool tbh

see: "irreplaceable" https://genius.com/Beyonce-irreplaceable-lyrics

I think the last time I used 'chick' I was 13 and not entirely over cooties.

Ime, it was still common when I was in undergrad, which might have been when you were 13. I mostly only hear it from women now.

It was never, like, a word you would use to describe your English professor.

"That chick Julie, she's truly dazzling."

probably a regional difference really, with 'chick'

i mean, it's never really been part of my vocab but i wouldn't get upset if someone used it in a non-derogatory manner

But e.g. hardcore/punk rock people would definitely talk about "chick bands" or bands having "chick vocals". It wasn't a popped-collar-exclusive thing here by any stretch. 3xp

What about 'chick lit'?

dog latin you wouldn't "get upset" because they would not be talking about you

How about "Julie is truly dazzling"

"that chick" is syntactically unnecessary and pragmatically fraught -- just leave it out! like the sugar in your coffee, leave it out. learn to live without it. it's actually making your sentence worse.

i've always found "chick lit" insulting

There isn't a non-derogatory manner, though. There's just contexts where offense might not be taken by the people in a conversation - if you can be overheard saying it, you're an asshole.

Chick Corea as well

How about "Julie is truly dazzling"

"that chick" is syntactically unnecessary and pragmatically fraught -- just leave it out! like the sugar in your coffee, leave it out. learn to live without it. it's actually making your sentence worse.

― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, July 22, 2019 1:14 PM (six minutes ago) bookmarkflaglink

I didn't make the sentence up! It's a classic movie quote.

That doesn't make it a good idea.

who cares?
leave it out!

broke: chick
woke: chuck

lads

ladies, even.

laddies is the preferred gender-ambiguous term. no need to speak to anyone, just lie on the floor until you die #ladsladslads

The linguistic hills people will die on always fascinate me

I feel like in nyc they just tell you that two cards is the max they will split a bill.

I had a male friend who used to casually say chick a lot in the mid 90s and i still remember the withering looks & responses he used to get, until he eventually scrubbed it from his lexicon, scared me off it for life.

jeez how many withering looks does it take? i tap out at around one

dog latin you wouldn't "get upset" because they would not be talking about you

How about "Julie is truly dazzling"

"that chick" is syntactically unnecessary and pragmatically fraught -- just leave it out! like the sugar in your coffee, leave it out. learn to live without it. it's actually making your sentence worse.

― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, July 22, 2019 2:14 PM (twenty-four minutes ago) bookmarkflaglink

No sure, but I guess because it's a lot less common a term in the UK, it would probably just sound a bit quaint and out of place to most people rather than rude

There were two years recently where I was calling everyone 'babydoll' and I have no clue why I was doing that.

Had you recently seen the movie Sucker Punch?

everything sounds ruder in an american accent tbf

The only time I hear it in day-to-day parlance over is when one woman addresses a female friend: 'Hey chick!', which is always taken as friendly.

I've never seen Sucker Punch. In college for one of the activities I was involved in my title was "chicktator". But it was college.

https://www.her.ie/lol/groovy-chick-where-is-she-now-315511

There were two years recently where I was calling everyone 'babydoll' and I have no clue why I was doing that.

― Yerac, Monday, July 22, 2019 1:40 PM (two minutes ago) bookmarkflaglink

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nnTUSgHzZx0

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I feel like in nyc they just tell you that two cards is the max they will split a bill.

xp at dog latinL that sounds like a different usage entirely, it's one of those terms where regionally I never heard it used as first person address, always second-person or as some descriptor

I haven't seen Tapeheads since college. I was calling people babydoll enough my niece started doing it.

I call everyone "weirdo" now and my spouse has been trying to get me to stop because I also call him that.

I am totally going to make a generalization here but I think asian owned places and super busy ones in nyc don't trifle with splitting your bill, running multiple cards. I was thinking of the sushi joints I have been in recently and some wine bars.

https://youtu.be/nEEiUr36zP8

it was once socially acceptable to sample The Smiths

The whole splitting the check thing seems like such a pain in the ass to me. But I am one of those luddite maniacs who still pays cash for things, so I would prefer to simply say to the person who's covering the check with his/her credit card, "Here's my share," and give them cash.

Most places using software to keep track of orders will have the ability to group all of the food ordered by a particular person at the table together so "splitting the bill" literally involves pushing a button to group everything by which people should go on which bill. It's literally a 30 second process and at the end you get a bill with all of your stuff and the tax you owe totaled on it so... no headache.

Ideally the restaurant would have those handheld card reader tablets that they bring to the table and they could just walk around and run everyone’s cards. Save all the confusion of how much goes on which card.

has this turned into a tipping thread already?

yeah it's a little strange that in the US we still allow random people to leave with our credit cards for like 5-10 minutes xpost.

Nor do you ever use your PIN.

i still see merchants outside the US being surprised when they run my card and I don't have to type in a pin.

Can you still pay for a worrying amount of things by just swiping the card?

xp well that's answered!