"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

where u at dude?

I'm around! I'll be at the girls rock benefit @ mwm on sat if you're down for that. there will be a special guest appearence by ms e3...

At what point is someone a "girlfriend"?

I feel like you have to have the what are we conversation (as awkward as that may be) before you can officially call her that.

my gf is currently "engaged" to her best friend and there is no indication that will be coming to an end anytime soon.

I know a relatively new interracial couple that's in their early 20s. The younger black girl has 'in a relationship' with no designated boyfriend while the older white guy doesn't have his relationship status listed (but the status was quite specific when his gf was a beautiful blonde). I shouldn't stick my nose in other people's business (though that's the raison d'etre of Facebook) but I wonder if there's a racial or ageist dynamic in how they're (not) advertising their courtship - or how one half of a couple isn't advertising.

my gf is currently "engaged" to her best friend and there is no indication that will be coming to an end anytime soon.

What do we make of girls who make every other status update about their (platonic) love for one of their friends? Kinda cute, or creepy?

I've deliberately left my relationship status blank since my last relationship ended so I don't have to have the 'can I de-single myself yet' conversation again next time.

My best friend and I have been facebook-married since before facebook was available at most colleges, let alone public. We haven't bothered changing it when we actually get into real relationships. Just another way of putting "none of your business," I guess. (I have had a couple people think it was serious, but I've also had date requests via facebook, so it can't put people off THAT much.)

I made my relationship status blank again recently, not because I'm not committed or anything, just that I don't want to subject my girlfriend to all the click-throughs from every idiot from school that I don't even like very much.

i also don't want to be the subject of those "so-and-so changed her relationship status...do you know what's up with that?" conversations with people who don't actually know me well enough to ask. even though i've participated in them before.

What do we make of girls who make every other status update about their (platonic) love for one of their friends? Kinda cute, or creepy?

Neither. "Hide (user)".

I forgot about that feature. The problem is they're nice girls otherwise, they just have those weird updates.

yeah i'm kinda weirded out and uncomfortable that my ex is gonna see my "Justin is now listed as 'in a relationship'"

So set relationship status to none, or whatever it is that makes that part not show up at all.

Some shit is just not everyone's business!

(Big talk from me, I guess... if you search the ILX archives, you'll know more about me than I know about myself with a quickness.)

ok so it turns out I'm fb friends w/ a guy who used to post on ilx, but I don't think he's very active anymore, and as far as I can tell he's not friends with any other ilxors

so I am still curious about how fb in its infinite wisdom decided to recommend that I friend an ilxor from the UK?

I know y'all are curious too, I can tell

that actaully does inspire a tiny bit of paranoia, yes

Skynet is getting smarter

http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y176/edwardiii/TheTruthIsOutThere.jpg

it's weird how it keeps accessing your email contacts - i've used the 'friend finder' feature once, but new contacts that i've added to my email account since then have shown up in 'suggested friends'.

where we turn sweet dreams into remarkable realities (just1n3), Friday, June 12, 2009 3:52 AM (4 minutes ago) Bookmark

i lol @ this every time btw

it's weird how it keeps accessing your email contacts - i've used the 'friend finder' feature once, but new contacts that i've added to my email account since then have shown up in 'suggested friends'.

This would explain why my dad showed up in People You May Know recently, even though his only FB friend is his girlfriend.

i also don't want to be the subject of those "so-and-so changed her relationship status...do you know what's up with that?" conversations with people who don't actually know me well enough to ask. even though i've participated in them before.

yes i got this when i changed mine to blank, but i changed it from single to blank and for some reason a lot of people still messaged me saying "oooh so who's the lucky girl?" i didn't understand that.

What do we make of girls who make every other status update about their (platonic) love for one of their friends? Kinda cute, or creepy?

definitely creepy. it also makes me slightly envious that i don't have platonic friends who are all "I MISS UUUUUUU SWEETIE WE *HAVE* TO GET TOGETHER SOON," insincere or not. not that i'd want to be friends with people like that, i just like the ego-stroking.

I think it comes up on their feed saying "Ste is no longer listed as single"

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it also makes me slightly envious that i don't have platonic friends who are all "I MISS UUUUUUU SWEETIE WE *HAVE* TO GET TOGETHER SOON," insincere or not.

I once had friends like that. It was great for a while. But then I had to kill them all.

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it probably beats girls who passively aggressively whinge about their boyfriends, because at least it's positive

I'll feel bad about posting this later, but this is an actual FB status update that I was treated to earlier this week.

emotions are like mountains to me... and i'm barefoot. i wanted to cry last night but nothing would come out.... i feel like a stone. have you ever looked at someone and knew that inside they were dying and there was nothing you could do about it. but you knew someone who could if that "said person" could just search Him out... she sat before me and played her song and i could hear all the inner paininside.

The last time I saw this person, I was kicking out of my apartment because if I didn't, I knew he would happily sleep on my sofa until he got old.

(That was 13 years ago.)

she sat before me and played her song and i could hear all the inner paininside.
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people who respond sincerely and sympathetically to status updates like that one bother me almost as much as the people who post them. but i think i'm just jealous of their apparent ability to be nice to EVERYONE regardless of how annoying other people are.

definitely creepy. it also makes me slightly envious that i don't have platonic friends who are all "I MISS UUUUUUU SWEETIE WE *HAVE* TO GET TOGETHER SOON," insincere or not. not that i'd want to be friends with people like that, i just like the ego-stroking.

It's so much weirder than that with these two girls. I'm talking "Sarah Misses Susan Smith", "Sarah wants to be in Wyoming with SS" "Sarah loves Susan Smith", "Sarah's world is dark without SS" and wall posts that are just "I love you."

And I see a couple of updates or published wall postings like that every day. Every day.

this social networking thing was all well and good until i posted a mildly funny, wholly inoffensive pol cartoon and now my brothr-in-law gets drunk and wants to "debate" it. on facebook. i don't think i want to play anymore.

I have a strict no politics & religion policy for facebook. It astounds me that I have friends who don't.

Are you sure Sarah and Susan Smith aren't actually in love? (Coincidentally, I had an...um...romantic dream about some fictional girl named Sarah last night. Weird.)

also, my gf's cousin (who's like in her mid-20s) is very concerned that neither of us has posted our relationship status and has registered her concern with my gf's family.

it's the next big step for you guys

adults acting like 11 year olds freaks me out

Are you sure Sarah and Susan Smith aren't actually in love? (Coincidentally, I had an...um...romantic dream about some fictional girl named Sarah last night. Weird.)

Yeah, they're both young straight Christian girls from small towns in the mid-West. Innocent as can be, which only makes the postings odder.

and hotter!

(sorry)

It's a love that dare not speak its nameexpress itself outside of status updates.

oh no i'm with will on this one

Why do some people make you send emails like this? This dude writes me out of nowhere, is not identified by the name I know him by, does not identify himself, I have no idea who he is, and he asks me to help him set up a proxy server to Iran? Even if I knew who he was at first, that's just an insane thing to ask. Like I couldn't possibly have anything better to do.

I think you misunderstand me somewhat. When I say that I don't know how to set up and host a proxy server for Iran, what I mostly mean is that I don't care. Please do not ask me to do time-consuming things before I even know who you are. And after that, please continue not to do it.

I mean, if I had the skills and the inclination, I'd volunteer.

The 'friend suggestions' box just came up with jaymc! I didn't even know his real name until now. No friends in common.

WTF?

Okay, is this creepy, annoying, or perfectly acceptable - I'm pretty ambivalent about this:

So this guy I knew about 4-5 years ago, and haven't really spoken to since about that time is my friend on FB. He's constantly inviting me to join causes - probably me and everyone else on his friends list. I know he also trawls friends' friends lists and will invariably invite them to join a bajillion causes. The other day, he calls me at 4:30am. I didn't answer the phone, but he left a message. He must have gotten my phone number from my facebook info, as I've never given it to him, and he was getting kinda batshit when I last saw him, to the point that I didn't want to deal.