fuck cancer

Condolences darragh

that’s awful. i’m so sorry deems <3

Sorry to hear that, deems. And fuck cancer.

Damn. I'm so sorry, darragh.

So sorry to hear that, darragh

Fuck cancer. D, I'm so sorry for you. 25 is no age to die. So fucking unfair. :-(((
The other week I attended a funeral of a 26 yo (drunk driver killed her). It's so fucking unreal. I still can't believe it.

How absolutely tragic, darraghmac. Please extend my sincerest condolences to your ex-gf; you're not meant to outlive your child(ren).

sorry to hear this deems

I have finished my 10 radiation sessions

they did not give me the mask as a keepsake

big ups morbs 🙏

yes

Keep On Morbsing 2019

That's a big accomplishment, Dr Morbius. Hoping only the best for you (and other ILXors currently struggling with/fighting the disease).

Morbs by god you will outlive us all, I hope!

that’s good news Morbs <3

Power on Morbs! ("")

bummed you didn't get to keep the mask, but finishing the sessions must have felt good anyway!

glad to hear it morbs

Great to hear Morbs!

I hope that's good news!

So 3 weeks ago my wife was admitted to hospital with suspected sepsis, then suspected chemo toxicity, but also maybe just stomach flu. She was told to cease taking her chemo until she could see her oncologist. Trouble is her oncologist right that very week stopped working at our hospital and we now have a new oncologist. Who only works Mondays and Fridays, so she couldn't see him for 3 weeks because of Easter. So she wasn't taking any chemo for 3 weeks.

We finally managed to see him today. When we went in he was playing with his phone. He stretched and yawned as if we were keeping him up, didn't answer questions, laughed when my wife said the previous oncologist said if she didn't take any chemo she wouldn't live to see Xmas and generally just didn't seem to give the slightest shit about anything. He said she should just go back on the chemo and come back in 2 months. 3 weeks waiting for that. In the meantime scans have shown more cancer progression in her bones and her liver. We don't know if that's directly because she had no chemo for 3 weeks but I doubt it helped.

Our brave NHS heroes once again setting new standards in caring. I don't know if these people start out as total cunts that have no business being anywhere near medicine or it's "the system" turning them into useless scumbags who just don't give a shit if you live or die but please try not to be ill if you live in the UK.

At this point I view doctors like I view Tory MPs, they are human vermin.

jesus fucking wept. my wife was supposed to go on a "sanctuary" away day on Monday through a local charity but she hadn't heard anything about when they were coming to pick her up so she emailed the charity and they fucking didn't book her on it, and said she never replied to the email, she forwarded them the reply from her sent mail but it's too late now.

why is literally everyone who is supposed to help us a fucking useless piece of shit?

Jesus Christ, CP, I’m so sorry, that’s just utterly shit and awful. Is there anything you can do yourselves that won’t take a huge amount of planning?

The terrible thing is you think to complain but to go through that process (I think as I might have mentioned in some ealrier post on this or some other thread) you are so emotionally consumed by the situation and the traumatic events that its just very difficult to follow through. The logging of it then writing etc. Not least because its entering another bloody process.

Very sorry to hear it.

if you do one thing, it's write all of this up into a book or something, or sell it to a paper. it's a tale that's probably getting repeated across the country and it needs to be told

it already basically sounds like 'Bodies' (old Jed Mercurio show which I'm currently watching and had hoped was exaggerated for dramatic effect). right down to combining my worst fears which include being at the mercy of a sociopath and having basic admin errors fuck everything up.
hope you're documenting it all.

I’m so sorry CP. How completely unacceptable and infuriating. Fuck.

I'm really sorry to hear that, man.

ugh cp that sucks so much

my wife wrote an email to her Macmillan nurse, asking about possibly getting referred to her old oncologist at her current hospital which is 40 miles away from where we live but my wife trusts her and she seems to be interested in the well-being of her patients, which is a start when you are a doctor. my wife explained what happened with her new oncologist.

the nurse wrote back and said this new shit oncologist is just a locum and is only supposed to be there for a month, so she won't have to see him again, assuming she has no more adverse chemo reactions, because she isn't due to see an oncologist again for 2 months. there will be another new oncologist by then. so fingers crossed that one isn't a cunt.

hey sorry for kindersplaining Bodies to you. really hope things look up!

Firstly I don't think you were splaining anything kinder.

We got a stairlift installed this week, this has taken various wrangling with our landlord/my BiL, but it's done now. This means we don't have to move house. It cost a fucking fortune but it is now done. We are lucky enough to live on a hill in Hastings with great views and foxes and badgers running around us. It might not seem like much but this means a lot. My wife doesn't want much but she loves living here and without the stairlift we'd have to move pretty soon because stairs wear her out already.

Hopefully this will give her some respite before the next round of bullshit the "NHS" throws at her

Small pleasures are important, I am glad you are able to stay <3

I agree with what VG says; thank goodness you were able to make the best of things, and I'm sure the stairlift will be an investment you'll be happy to have made. Also, I'm pleased to hear you live surrounded by an abundance of picturesque wildlife for your wife to enjoy for as long as she can.

hello. i am currently in radiation therapy (more than halfway through 28 treatments, thank fucking jeebus) for cancer. taking chemo pills, tho the infusions are done for now. worked all through the past six months since i was diagnosed, am now off for the summer and trying to figure out when surgery will happen. they're probably going to have to remove my whole lower intestine and i'll live the rest of my life with an ileostomy, but nothing is certain.

what is certain is that the prognosis is good and i'm doing pretty well despite occasional crying jags and just feeling tired a lot of the time. went on a five mile hike this past weekend, can still do 200 pushups in a day, etc. i'm in good shape and young, so that helps, but this whole thing really does suck. a lot.

i've written about it here, and am working on other essays (one on Yasunao Tone and MRI machines!) at the moment, too. http://www.full-stop.net/2019/03/06/blog/ted-rees/make-me-real-make-me-sick/

i should also write that i returned to ILX after years away because I have grown very weary of social media, but miss being a part of an online community of intelligent and interesting people. i hope that some of the more recent stories in this thread have turned out for the best. <3

Phew indeed. Glad things are looking well and hope that continues for you.

thanks, Ned! i'll let you know next time i make a trip to the Bay, would love to grab a beer or coffee.

My thoughts are with you during this trying time, the table is the table. I am heartened that you've chosen to be optimistic about your situation and hope this will augur good fortune for you and your health. In the meantime, I hope you're taking excellent care of yourself and that you allow yourself those "occasional crying jags".

oh wow, table. i'm sorry you're still in the midst of treatment. but there is a lot of hopeful news in there, too! seems like a really good sign that you're still hiking 5 miles and doing 200 push-up - that stuff is difficult for most people on a good day.

welcome back! :)

xxp Please do!

(i am ZS, btw. i think i changed my display name soon after you took your hiatus!)

hi ZS! i remember you.

there aren't too many new folks, it seems.

good luck with your treatment, table

thanks jim! (an aside: i have a lot of friends in yr fair city, will definitely look you up on my next visit!)

hi table, hoping the rest of your treatment goes well, and look me up if yr ever passing through Eugene

CP that is great news and I'm very happy for you

xp. :)

thanks sleeve. also great display name, made me giggle.

best of luck table

xp the DN came from how's life/kkvgz, credit where it's due :)

xpost thanks darraghmac.