I'm Also in the Library and It's Raining: WINTER 2018/2019 GAY THREAD

i'm sorry you had a bad night surm! i haven't been out in ages because everyone at the bars always seem to know each other and never seem interested in meeting new people

ummmmmmmmm i met someone

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M3qw2vcWSJs

omg! that's awesome. tell us more!

and clouds, i would totally be interested in meeting you. i'm usually really into meeting new people, i guess it just takes me a minute to back in the groove.

clouds is a sweetheart

yes, I was thinking about you the other day, clouds, as I was manicuring my pothos.

i had a very intense weekend with someone i'm now making lots of plans with / for

clouds is a lovely fellow who knows all the music

okay you want my advice? well, you probably don't but here it is anyway. TAKE IT SLOW.

After praising an acquaintance on Instagram for his gorgeous hair and wishing I could kiss him son, he texted and said he'd been in eyeing me for a while. We made plans to meet at a friend's birthday celebration at a bar tomorrow night. He's a congressional aide.

speaking hair to power

I read “kiss his son” and I thought “wow that’s some power flirting”

Same

speaking hair to power

Something Alfred and I know all about.

I met a lovely man, Benjamin, from Ghana who now lives in Scotland (it was actually a hook up rather than a date). He's a foot taller than me lol. We spent the night together and hung out the next day. I hadn't realised that English was the lingua franca of Ghana and was his first language so there wasn't a barrier or anything like that, which was good and he was funny and very charming. Anyway, we made loose plans to meet up a week or so after but, In the interim, I got a message from another prior hook-up to say that he had chlamydia, christ. So I knew I had to get tested, which meant I'd have to wait a few days then a week for results and also knew that I'd have to contact Benjamin and he was very worried because, while he's single he is not out (homosexuality being illegal in Ghana). I kinda talked him out of his worry, chlamydia being easy to treat with antibiotics, but I think I might have fucked it and I had been excited about it. He's a big shy man with little experience, I'd guess. I hadn't asked, of course but I could sense it. I don't know if I have it but I have been tested and now have to wait for the result. I guess I'll see what happens but aaargh...

oh i don't know, jed, when they're skittish like that ... in any case it sounds like you're doing it right imo.

okay you want my advice? well, you probably don't but here it is anyway. TAKE IT SLOW.

― surm, Thursday, March 7, 2019 9:11 PM (yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

thanks surm :). i should know this pretty hardcore by now. let's just say i'm not going to make any big-risk decisions up front like i have in the past. i've honestly needed to hear from someone who can offer me a little perspective, because i'm feeling bewilderingly luv-high rn, so thanks again.

Thanks map!

<3 i mean jed, the thing is, there's always the "if only" with someone exciting but like, life doesn't operate on if onlies. he sounds wonderful but the truth is you will probably have chlamydia again. and yeah i think map nailed it, like if he's scared off by chlamydia.... so think long game i would say.

and map as a great woman once said have so much fun just don't have amnesia!

I am going to Boston TONIGHT to see my beautiful boyfriend for 5 days!! We are going to see Robyn on Monday, too.

You are going to LOVE Robyn! I was having a miserable Tuesday and she turned it the fuck around.

Also, I gave up alcohol for Lent (not for religious reasons, I just think Jesus would want my body to look as good as his), and damn it's been sobering in more than the obvious way.

omg i'm going tonight! (to Robyn)

I"m, like, a medium Robyn fan? She's OK. I'm sure the show will be fun but I am not like zomg so hype so stoked

Eric what's the most illuminating thing about not drinking?

I haven't had a drink in 2 weeks, but bcz i have been a mucus factory.

I've considered a month-long detox for the hell of it but I'm in the best shape of my life now. My yearly checkup's on Monday, so we'll see.

how can you tell? up to 6 martinis/day?

Those martinis keep burning fat and leaving muscle + bone.

Breakfast of champions!

Eric what's the most illuminating thing about not drinking?

Well, I'm only my third day in and it's felt like a week. So that's a reality check.

Also, I've never been in worse shape than I am in now.

I'm not a major, major Robyn stan either, but when "Dancing On My Own" kicked in, it was a jolt.

ugh i don't think i can hear that song tonight i'll be a messss

this morning ended well

not over yet!

not to every drug store has sold its last pill

Do tell, Alfred

I'm one light fixture away from being set up in my new apartment with my boyfriend, the dog loves it here, we love it here. Last night I sat down on my new rug in my new library next to the teak bookcases we got for $200 and lit a bunch of candles and listened to records with my friend M and ate blueberries and small cubes of cheddar cheese.

I suspect what did it for us was dancing to "Silent Morning."

dancing, ugh

so my long-distance partner (A) whom i haven't seen in about 5 years is coming up to visit today and meeting my boyfriend whom i live with (E) for the first time ever apart from online interactions. he'll be staying with us for a few days so we finally all get to be in the same room. i really want us all to be together like a big gay ferret pile so i'm excited and nervous!!

At the faculty clinic this morning for my yearly checkup a medical student conducted the preliminaries. I was pretty sure he's gay, confirmed by the quickest of glances in my direction when I answered the question about my sexual partners' genders. When the doctor came in, he hovered behind her in assistance; we kept exchanging glances. "Very nice to meet you," he said without my prompting as I excited.

He's quite cute. I found on him Instagram and Facebook. Would it be odd to friend or message him?

Yes

Yes, definitely a bad idea.

Just last night a doctor friend was telling us about how frequent he gets people hitting on him and how frustrating it is. It's not that he doesn't find it flattering (he usually doesn't), it's that there is no easy way for him to negotiate the professionalism he's required to maintain

I don't have any STIs FYIs. Got my results today.

congrats, jed!

I met this guy for coffee. I'm texting from his bed.

j/k. Thanks for the advice, y'all.

i got new shelves too goon tie! now i'm destined for a dresser.

i had a very good weekend but i am firmly TAKING IT SLOW

I love my new apartment. It sounds so affectatious and Portlandia but there is a disconnected room with a cast-brass chandelier and candles everywhere and the record player and books and a big nice rug and the dog and a couch and a filled-in fireplace and the wifi doesn't reach it and a bay window and I am extremely very happy

as I excited

I'm in the library, it's not raining.

i had a very good weekend but i am firmly TAKING IT SLOW

― macropuente (map), Tuesday, March 12, 2019 3:58 AM (two days ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

YESSSSS tell us more when u get a chance

hey goon i think we have similar lives, sometimes i just sit and look around my apartment and breathe deeply