This is the inevitable thread for ILxors in their forties

Fitting post for this thread being bumped - last week I somehow hurt my lower back really badly, and I have no idea how, and 10 days later it's still completely fucked. I've hurt my back before doing strenuous things like moving house and lifting furniture, and that lasted 3-4 days tops, this just doesn't seem to be going away.

I did something to my knee last year where I could barely get up the stairs - for like a month.

And then ... it just went away!

I wear shirts on the weekends older than some of my co-workers.

I was riding a packed bus to campus at my last job and realized that my circa 1991 sorel boots were older than everyone on the bus including the driver.

And how old was the bus?

It was probably younger than everything else

I was riding a packed bus to campus at my last job and realized that my circa 1991 sorel boots were older than everyone on the bus including the driver.

― joygoat, Thursday, November 29, 2018 9:55 AM (fifty minutes ago)

Haha, my wife makes fun of my grey Caribous which I believe are from 1988-1989? They're a tiny bit rusty on the metal D-rings but otherwise in perfect shape.

The plastic sandwich box I take to work is the same age as one of my colleagues.

on the behalf of thrift shoppers and vintage clothing wearers, old clothes do not equal old person :)

that said i have one dress i bought my freshman year in college that i still wear to work sometimes. it gives me the weirdest feeling because i have been wearing it for SO LONG

My designated funeral dress was my grandmother's. I wore it to *her* funeral, actually, about twenty years ago.

The lol is that my grandmother was a wee thing, maybe 5'3'', and I am 5'10''. Below the knee on her is well above it on me. I wear opaque tights underneath to keep from looking scandalous at funerals.

I am on the cusp of 45 and recently had the thought that were I widowed or something, I'd say fuck it to ever being in an LTR again and would exclusively date 20-something dudes. Then I'm like hmmmm what 20-something dudes would be into a much older woman, would that even be a good idea. The I'm like maybe lol maybe I could find a 20-something dude from ilx. Then I'm like "it could be Treeship!" and then I loled some more.

omg

wonder how tall treesh is

an annoying thing about younger people/age difference is when they wield it in irrelevant ways-- like I was talking to a 30ish person who was very knowledgeable about modern Presidential nomination races. But when I mentioned something about Mondale vs. Hart in 1984 they just said, "That was before I was born."

yeah man, so was most of the rest of history

In my book, one of the best things about having a few decades under my belt is never having to date another 20-something.

i'm over 50 and only guys under 30 are interested in me

c'est la gays

#humblebrag

(Let me know if you need me to explain that one to you, Pops.)

no i follow the younguns' word salads

kids today probably don't remember Harris Wittels

:,(

On that front, I'd say the most noticeable difference in my forties (and really for the last several years of my thirties) is that I used to have some degree of demonstrable niche appeal but of late I don't pick up on any signs of putative interest frivolously-prurient interest from anyone at all ever, period.

(Thought I'd cap off that sentence with a sampling of the word salad so favored by the yoot of today.)

btw i wasn't HBing; they like what i hate about me

i was not into 'daddies' in my relative youth

on the behalf of thrift shoppers and vintage clothing wearers, old clothes do not equal old person :)

― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, November 29, 2018 11:13 AM (forty-two minutes ago)

quite true! so now, as a 44 yr old thrift shopper and vintage clothing wearer, when I shop for new clothes, not only am I looking at things that resemble new clothes I bought in the 80s (frou-frou fussy & puffy sleeves are a thing again) but also clothes I thrifted in the 80s/early 90s from prior decades ... there is a lot of cognitive dissonance involved (see also record shopping ... this should be a $3 record because that is how much it was priced at in the dollar bin in 1991) ... though I did recently buy a new dress that is more or less a reproduction of a vintage 50s dress I had thrifted around 1991 but I got rid of a few years back because it was a size 10, and I am very much not a size 10 anymore.

I am happy that this thread turned flirty. I feel like old ilx had a lot of weird crushes/hookups. thx quincie.

new ilx might have the same, just people are more secretive about it because other ilxors can get creepy about stuff

xp yup i totally empathize

ilu quincie

iirc the window on treeship as 20-something boy toy is closing fast

rufus can't be too far away though . . .

My boss -- some years younger than me -- was amazed to learn that the band T-shirt I'm wearing today is from 1992, marvelling about the quality. (It is interesting to see which shirts have held up over the years -- and said shirt was a Ned's Atomic Dustbin one, so hey, it keeps up my good name.)

there will always be earnest 20 something straight cis-dudes on ilx ... there will be more treeships

P sure LJ is unaccountably still in his late teens or something.

he is 31 iirc ... when he was in his 20s i think he proposed marriage to me on ilx? ... glad he has matured

you were the sam and diane of ilx for a while there

or, i dunno, keeping it in the cheers extended universe, the noel and roz of ilx

lol wut?!

this thread got crazy

being a cis-woman on a board dominated by straight men is inherently awkward

indeed

esp if you are single or not obviously unavailable

40 is pretty good, have made measurable strides recently in emotional maturity and self-compassion. yay meditation and therapy. lucky not to have had any health problems yet. single and feel weird about it (not coming here to pick anyone up tho)

i'm over 50

Me too. Where's our thread?

Probably everyone's too tired to make one.

Is there an over 60 thread? Would offer my Medicare Open Enrollment expertise. Which is actually a thing I have. Ask me anything.

There is a thread for us folks over 50: [This is a thread for ILXORS IN THEIR 50's]...ILXORS IN THEIR 50's

^who of course fail at ILX formatting

The all-caps is a nice touch.

T minus 6 days.

WELCOME TO DIS

And in a couple of years I shall leave you all behind.

I joined these ranks last year. Guess I should bookmark this, huh?

I ran into a friend I hadn't seen in a while yesterday, who was surprised when he figured out that I was over 40. "You are perpetually in your mid-30's to me," he said. That was sweet.