Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

My date just asked to be my friend on Facebook and I said no. No damn way I'm having my friends see potentially cringemaking wall posts. But he seemed ok about it. I think he just chalked it up to my being an uptight Britisher. So, that's how hey, whoo 'you're only young once' I am about OKC.

Erm, mind you I'm not young. I didn't think about that.

you're only young once, but it can be a long once if you want it to be :P

good luck with him, anyway. that's if you want luck.

fwiw re: my date, i do want to clarify that i would see her again, gladly, even if it was established that sex/a relationship would not be on the cards, which is how it should be with good matches :)

also, and this time really finally, she messaged me first ;)

She gets major bonus points for that. I know because I got them for messaging my date ;-)

are you seeing him again?

Prooooooooooobably

taking it slowly, eh? well gooooooood luck!

did you see her again Louis? Went on a second date with mine and decided I really like him but he is claiming overwork/no time to connect. I think I believe him but hell, I should be irresistible surely and damn the consequences.

aw yeah, where are this man's priorities?

I did see her again, yeah! Met her and her gay friends for an evening of drinking games and revelry, which was great fun, by the time we got to a club she decided she was too drunk to go in so I walked her home, whereupon she vommed and passed out in the bathroom :-/ but it was all cool and cordial the next day! I doubt anything sexual/romantic will happen there.

Last week I met up with someone else, in Oxford (so I could tie it in with meeting a heapload of old friends), and that went extremely well. She was pretty much entirely on my wavelength, loads of "oh me too!" moments. Discovered after two days that she wasn't up for a relationship as such because she'd only recently broken up (and was 'finding herself'), and indeed she quit OKC immediately afterwards, but we've stayed in touch, and it's at least, I'd hope, a friendship.

Pity about your prospective bloke L. I think you should devise some plan of action! Make a surprise visit or something! Without making it look too desperate obv.

that's nice that the 'friends, activity partners' choices can actually function as such! I think my plan of action is just to go quiet on email and see what happens....

Well, 'Activity Partners' I take to mean 'bandmates' or 'sporting opponents' or somesuch. The first of my two liaisons probably counted as a friend thing, the second as a very short-term date which blurred both friendship and activity partner lines. I guess she introduced me to The Wire, that must count for something.

Your plan is possibly for the best. But be wary of trying to tease him out! He may need a bit more convincing.

Yeah, but we exchange emails several times a day - I'm running out of witty responses to convince him with. A third date and only a third date will tell him whether he's interested or not, and he cancelled the one we had set up due to overwork, so ball is in his court... and I am no player by The Rules, but still...

Met her and her gay friends

Looks like someone is being set up!

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Happy! but cautious

bosh

knew it'd work out for ya

:-(
It is like dating the plot of a Woody Allen movie.

I suspect this is a regular hazard on OKC.

Whatever works!

i've gotten some p good tail off okc (not posting my profile for u animals to dissect)

seen it

!! how'd u know it was me, did i unwittingly message u or something

;)

lol

i just erased my profile.

Mine's 'suspended', like my judgement on the quasi-relationship it spawned. Couldn't face erasing just yet, it took too long to answer the questions...

Couldn't face erasing just yet, it took too long to answer the questions...

haha so otm

'stalkers' are now 'visitors' wtf ;_;

Mine's 'suspended', like my judgement on the quasi-relationship it spawned. Couldn't face erasing just yet, it took too long to answer the questions...

― ljubljana, Sunday, August 2, 2009 8:27 PM

same lol

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3482/3869142549_0f740d8f8a.jpg

yeah i quit okcupid today

87% Match!!

oh hay guyz i gave up on okcupid about a year ago (the women were too intelligent!!) but out of the blue a 32 year old lady msg'd me asking why i couldnt be 5 years older

wtf

hit that imo

thx for the tip

the women were too intelligent!!

Er, what I really should have typed is that most girls on that site are very intelligent but are very serious about that intelligence and I don't think they would appreciate me shoehorning references to 70s British sitcoms in every conversation as a joke, which I have been doing a lot to annoy people!!

^I think this might be a very telling post about you, Pato.

I think I know what KBP means. It's not just the women. I read a ton of male profiles where I got as far as the lines that basically read 'I am deeply concerned with the state of the world and have an intelligent take on this that you are unlikely to fully understand' and clicked 'never show me this profile again'.

Meanwhile my quasi-relationship spawned by OKC seems to be an actual relationship, which is good since I've totally fallen for the person concerned. Wish me luck, it could still implode.

good luck!!!!

Thanks :-) Thinking about you on OKC makes me smile, I think you have exactly the right attitude to it.

and if it implodes, blame the internet ^_^

there's a fine line between taking your profile seriously as a light-hearted but well-written exposition of self, and taking your profile seriously as an uncompromising arsenal of one's unflappable wisdom. it sinks my heart when people cross this line.

haha xp aw cheers :-)

Mine profile is one of lighthearted whimsy and I think it is one that turns the ladies of OKCupid off, as 95% of them these days seem to be "I AM STUDYING FOR A MASTERS IN HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY. I CARE ABOUT THE ENVIRONMENT AND I LIKE TO LISTEN TO JAZZ. DON'T MESSAGE IF BLAH BLAH BLAH."

Which is actually good, because I refuse to have my balls cut off by some jumpy postgrad student.

my friend always fucks fat chicks off this site

I thnk I still have a really OLLLDDD OKC profile that I only created to do those quizzes and comparisons early on - I honestly didnt think of the dating side at all. My profile must show I'm completely inactive and it says "not single, not looking" and has some stupid irreverence in it. And yet I still get dodgy weirdos msging me occasionally... though I havent checked in at least 12 months so NFI now.

At this moment in time, having met a few lovely people from it and taken business to gchat or facebook, I'm only really using it for an epic and magnificent correspondence with a wonderfully-written lass from the other side of the country, who's in a similar situation to me regarding a wish for uncomplicated dating, and a desire not to rush into anything serious. The correspondence has really unlocked me as a writer, and some of my best prose has been committed to screen throughout its duration (I'm challenging the 10,000 character limit at every pop, more or less; we have 6 paragraphs in strict rotation to help compartmentalise the discussion, and her way with rendering only the most essential details in beautifully concise, witty and erudite form enables the discussion to 'reset' in preparation for another one of my expansive braingusts). Obviously I'm not expecting anything more than great conversation at the moment, but I would dearly like to meet her at some stage during the next 6 months or so, because I suspect we'd get on rather splendidly. Even then, nothing much more than great face-to-face conversation would ensue, but the value of this, as I am discovering, grows higher by the day.

KBP, stick to your guns dude, the chicks on there may be principled but some of them know how to kick back and laugh at themselves/everything else as well. Only by being true to yourself will you find people you'd benefit from meeting [/cliche] oh wait you pretty much said that yourself

Also, stridently far-left/ecological/sophisticated people are often not quite so ball-slicing in certain situations. Quite the glorious opposite, in fact. Just sayin'.

my friend always fucks fat chicks off this site

How long have you known Dom Passantino??

This thread begged me to log back on again. I did one of those advanced searches and if this one girl responds than I might be in luck :)

A.D.D., PISCES, CASUAL ENCOUNTERS, LIKES TO DRAW

could be a real winner

a self-identifying pisces with ADD sounds pretty dysfunctional to me.

yeah actually she did come off kind of dysfunctional but CASUAL ENCOUNTERS

ha! then you don't have to worry much about intricate or complex projects that never get finished.