Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

aw i just met up with a cute and extremely open american chick (born within 2 weeks of me) and wandered round london's great parks for about 4 hours, was swell :)

we had much to talk about, and talk we duly did

Oh that's luuuuuuuurvely! Seeing her again?

of course! she has big plans for me. possibly involving her male friends. lol but seriously, yeah! it's only taken us a week to become good friends...and there's obvious mutual attraction too. might not be romance of the century, but it's definitely not a prospective fuckbuddy thing either...we're tight.

tight Adj. 1. To be frugal or not generous. {Informal}
2. Drunk. {Informal}

i.e. a good friendship, with maybe a bit of sex (rather than the other way around), which might or might not develop into stronger things, but which won't prevent either of us dating/seeing others

anyway i find the best thing is not to think or talk about it too much but just to enjoy it as it comes, which is what i shall now do :)

i mean, on a final note, the golden A+ number one rule to how well these things go is obviously communication, conversational compatibility, and meeting someone awesome and on-yer-wavelength for the day is worth ten thousand empty shags

if you end up shagging* them then like haha yeah that's pretty much why i joined this website

*if they're REALLY, like, whoa-where-have-you-been-all-my-life, upgrade to dating, but hey you're only young once

My date just asked to be my friend on Facebook and I said no. No damn way I'm having my friends see potentially cringemaking wall posts. But he seemed ok about it. I think he just chalked it up to my being an uptight Britisher. So, that's how hey, whoo 'you're only young once' I am about OKC.

Erm, mind you I'm not young. I didn't think about that.

you're only young once, but it can be a long once if you want it to be :P

good luck with him, anyway. that's if you want luck.

fwiw re: my date, i do want to clarify that i would see her again, gladly, even if it was established that sex/a relationship would not be on the cards, which is how it should be with good matches :)

also, and this time really finally, she messaged me first ;)

She gets major bonus points for that. I know because I got them for messaging my date ;-)

are you seeing him again?

Prooooooooooobably

taking it slowly, eh? well gooooooood luck!

did you see her again Louis? Went on a second date with mine and decided I really like him but he is claiming overwork/no time to connect. I think I believe him but hell, I should be irresistible surely and damn the consequences.

aw yeah, where are this man's priorities?

I did see her again, yeah! Met her and her gay friends for an evening of drinking games and revelry, which was great fun, by the time we got to a club she decided she was too drunk to go in so I walked her home, whereupon she vommed and passed out in the bathroom :-/ but it was all cool and cordial the next day! I doubt anything sexual/romantic will happen there.

Last week I met up with someone else, in Oxford (so I could tie it in with meeting a heapload of old friends), and that went extremely well. She was pretty much entirely on my wavelength, loads of "oh me too!" moments. Discovered after two days that she wasn't up for a relationship as such because she'd only recently broken up (and was 'finding herself'), and indeed she quit OKC immediately afterwards, but we've stayed in touch, and it's at least, I'd hope, a friendship.

Pity about your prospective bloke L. I think you should devise some plan of action! Make a surprise visit or something! Without making it look too desperate obv.

that's nice that the 'friends, activity partners' choices can actually function as such! I think my plan of action is just to go quiet on email and see what happens....

Well, 'Activity Partners' I take to mean 'bandmates' or 'sporting opponents' or somesuch. The first of my two liaisons probably counted as a friend thing, the second as a very short-term date which blurred both friendship and activity partner lines. I guess she introduced me to The Wire, that must count for something.

Your plan is possibly for the best. But be wary of trying to tease him out! He may need a bit more convincing.

Yeah, but we exchange emails several times a day - I'm running out of witty responses to convince him with. A third date and only a third date will tell him whether he's interested or not, and he cancelled the one we had set up due to overwork, so ball is in his court... and I am no player by The Rules, but still...

Met her and her gay friends

Looks like someone is being set up!

score
Happy! but cautious

bosh

knew it'd work out for ya

:-(
It is like dating the plot of a Woody Allen movie.

I suspect this is a regular hazard on OKC.

Whatever works!

i've gotten some p good tail off okc (not posting my profile for u animals to dissect)

seen it

!! how'd u know it was me, did i unwittingly message u or something

;)

lol

i just erased my profile.

Mine's 'suspended', like my judgement on the quasi-relationship it spawned. Couldn't face erasing just yet, it took too long to answer the questions...

Couldn't face erasing just yet, it took too long to answer the questions...

haha so otm

'stalkers' are now 'visitors' wtf ;_;

Mine's 'suspended', like my judgement on the quasi-relationship it spawned. Couldn't face erasing just yet, it took too long to answer the questions...

― ljubljana, Sunday, August 2, 2009 8:27 PM

same lol

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3482/3869142549_0f740d8f8a.jpg

yeah i quit okcupid today

87% Match!!

oh hay guyz i gave up on okcupid about a year ago (the women were too intelligent!!) but out of the blue a 32 year old lady msg'd me asking why i couldnt be 5 years older

wtf

hit that imo

thx for the tip

the women were too intelligent!!

Er, what I really should have typed is that most girls on that site are very intelligent but are very serious about that intelligence and I don't think they would appreciate me shoehorning references to 70s British sitcoms in every conversation as a joke, which I have been doing a lot to annoy people!!

^I think this might be a very telling post about you, Pato.

I think I know what KBP means. It's not just the women. I read a ton of male profiles where I got as far as the lines that basically read 'I am deeply concerned with the state of the world and have an intelligent take on this that you are unlikely to fully understand' and clicked 'never show me this profile again'.

Meanwhile my quasi-relationship spawned by OKC seems to be an actual relationship, which is good since I've totally fallen for the person concerned. Wish me luck, it could still implode.

good luck!!!!

Thanks :-) Thinking about you on OKC makes me smile, I think you have exactly the right attitude to it.

and if it implodes, blame the internet ^_^

there's a fine line between taking your profile seriously as a light-hearted but well-written exposition of self, and taking your profile seriously as an uncompromising arsenal of one's unflappable wisdom. it sinks my heart when people cross this line.

haha xp aw cheers :-)

Mine profile is one of lighthearted whimsy and I think it is one that turns the ladies of OKCupid off, as 95% of them these days seem to be "I AM STUDYING FOR A MASTERS IN HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY. I CARE ABOUT THE ENVIRONMENT AND I LIKE TO LISTEN TO JAZZ. DON'T MESSAGE IF BLAH BLAH BLAH."

Which is actually good, because I refuse to have my balls cut off by some jumpy postgrad student.

my friend always fucks fat chicks off this site

I thnk I still have a really OLLLDDD OKC profile that I only created to do those quizzes and comparisons early on - I honestly didnt think of the dating side at all. My profile must show I'm completely inactive and it says "not single, not looking" and has some stupid irreverence in it. And yet I still get dodgy weirdos msging me occasionally... though I havent checked in at least 12 months so NFI now.