Rolling Maleness and Masculinity Discussion Thread

<3 thanks for letting me express my long-held opinion that Gudetama is an older male power bottom in the full bloom of his desperation

yes that post is going to stay etched in my mind for a fairly long time i think

I'm glad that you took the time to write that out, f. I want to add that men need to understand that being penetrated or actively wanting that in no way weakens or emasculates someone. Christ, if I had a prostrate, I would be in there all the time.

I have an announcement:

Thanks to recent ILX posts by fgti & yerac I’m now imagining gudetama in buttless chaps on top of al dente pasta, being steamed, and saying “bitte fick mich” in his little helium falsetto.

Cheers, everyone.

TY FGTI

I want everybody to know that I am motivated in my coffee drinking by the prospect of seeing gudetama's bare ass pic.twitter.com/CNOxfeazkD

— 🐢 (@smashedmcdouble) December 23, 2015

Gudetama is to be respected and given good service. Poke the soft yolk gently until it ruptures and as its insides flow over the attendant rice, you whisper: "nut"

Fgti like ya you analyzing the few words i wrote as if it were some scholarly text i took days to write is wasting yr time

As the person who wrote what you quoted i meant what sic said dude

I mean you can psychoanalyze but that’s something else entirely

I wasn't psychoanalyzing you-- apologies if I was, I hope I made it clear that I don't think that 'what was typed' reflected 'what you meant' or 'how you feel'-- I was hoping to unpack a statement that I knew was off-the-cuff to illustrate how 'some people', including myself, struggle with the understanding that the act of being penetrated is one, for many people, that is desirable.

I remember the first time I was told by a female lover, in my very early 20s, that she was into being penetrated anally. At the time, I felt a way about hearing it, and I wouldn't have been able to describe that feeling accurately then, but now, I would say I felt "worried and concerned, as if this desire to be fucked anally was some kind of perversion, and reflective of some traumatic past, as opposed to being something that she strictly would be interested in for the physical pleasure of it."

I remember too when Sinead made a statement on Twitter about how a prospective lover had better be prepared to penetrate her anally, and that there was an internet-wide tittering about it, that somebody (a woman approaching 50) expressing publicly something as normal and human as "wanting to get fucked in the ass" was somewhat taboo, and displayed some level of wantonness and/or desperation, instead of being a completely understandable and reasonable expression of one's physical desires.

I thought that The Argonauts was a worthwhile assault against the taboo of "women desirign anal penetration", with the very first page being a description of the author's first verbalization of "I love you" toward her future husband happening in the moment of her being anally penetrated, even while regarding her future husband's set of dildos lined up in the shower-- the subtext being that this was something that her future husband engaged in often, with other people-- and yet the act still felt special and pleasurable and romantic. The rest of that book, and the way it unpacked the history (back to Freud) of viewing women (mothers) having a desire to be penetrated (anally) as being suspicious and/or traumatizing to consider (by both family members and society as a whole) was terrific and I'm gonna read it again this week

I mean, what better understanding of desire-for-penetration is there than a man anally pleasuring his future wife with a strap-on, whereby the majority (I assume) of the pleasure enjoyed by the man is rooted in the act of servicing his lover? This is a description of an ideal dom-sub scenario

honestly don't remember that from listening to The Argonauts as a child

The Argonauts is an incredible book, read it last year and knew immediately it was going on permanent rotation

this thread sure took a turn

A bend, really

well played

Fgti pls stop making pronouncements on heterosexuamity, yr um not exactly doing well

Like next up are you going to point out chicks have boobs

SORRY TO BOTHER YOU (dir. Boots Riley, 2018)

The fuck is wrong with you albvivertine

I like yr posts on music a lot, but srsly did you think it'd be news to straight men that women dig penetration and we shouldn't coerce them into letting us fuck them? Last I checked the average male ilxor was closer to 40 than 14.

dang everybody look out, this guy know a lot about sex - real heterosexuamity "sexpert" if i might use the term

only one letter off in each case maybe

are men ........... . okay pic.twitter.com/UoAgrBw7LK

— critical thot (@beehivesy) August 20, 2018

Hooters debate night!

"meaningful human interactions" = men paying women (as little as possible) to be literal geishas but in, like a strip mall off of 28th Street...I think that tells you the answer is "Not even remotely."

I have to believe that Eric Adam Hovis understood he was spinning out a crazy, ott fantasy, rather than a legit business plan. But I don't think he stopped to consider for one moment what that fantasy would look like to a woman.

the sapiosexual has logged on

It should look pretty much the same to everyone?

Hooters should branch off into the life coaching business

On a serious note, if hooters is going out of business—good. The food service industry is humiliating enough without throwing in a business model that encourages sexual harassment. I always felt depressed when i drove past a hooters, or walked past that one in midtown

Boobs or gtfo

did marc loi change his online name and avatar?

It should look pretty much the same to everyone?

I agree. But "should" is doing a lot of heavy lifting in that sentence.

"I think of current Hooters as some weird, exotic, unique luxury experience, like going to a magician restaurant"
^^some of it makes me wonder if he was trolling

I think that something along the lines of Eric's neo-hooters could well happen in the near future and be successful, maybe not so much with millennial but the next generation down? you'll have a generation's worth of nerdy boys who have grown up with internet porn, camgirls, twitch streaming, vlogging etc. social media blurring the lines between socialising and friendship and a performance that you're remunerated for, all those young ppl on twitter for whom it's a tenet that sex work shouldn't be stigmatized, all of this seems like it will start leaking out into the real world, like that New Yorker article from the other day about the guy who spends all day walking around livestreaming himself?
or maybe there will be a backlash to all this and it won't happen? but it seems to be direction of travel

the future is going to be so much worse than i could have predicted

I think that something along the lines of Eric's neo-hooters could well happen in the near future and be successful, maybe not so much with millennial but the next generation down? you'll have a generation's worth of nerdy boys who have grown up with internet porn, camgirls, twitch streaming, vlogging etc. social media blurring the lines between socialising and friendship and a performance that you're remunerated for, all those young ppl on twitter for whom it's a tenet that sex work shouldn't be stigmatized, all of this seems like it will start leaking out into the real world, like that New Yorker article from the other day about the guy who spends all day walking around livestreaming himself?

Honestly I read that whole thing and immediately thought "If I could round up investors I could open a place like that and make a fuckload of money." Of course, it would have the same problem you'd encounter if you started a cult - you have to spend all day and night surrounded by people who genuinely believe and need the bullshit you just came up with to rook them out of their cash.

on the media had a good ep about twitch the other day. one of the stories was about a guy who is basically homeless who started streaming and his users basically chipped in money to issue commands to this guy. some of it involved him asking a woman out and it got predictably weird. check it:

https://www.wnycstudios.org/story/streaming-while-homeless/

did marc loi change his online name and avatar?

― omar little, Monday, August 20, 2018 7:18 PM (two hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

lmao

Honestly I read that whole thing and immediately thought "If I could round up investors I could open a place like that and make a fuckload of money."

There's probably a bot already available that would provide that sort of function online. Alternately, see Woody Allen's "The Whore of Mensa."

And I'm not sad to see Hooters in distress. However, they and their ilk are really just the more extreme outliers of an economic system that encourages patrons to treat service workers as available for...additional services.

please kill us: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/men-resist-green-behavior-as-unmanly/

this doesn't surprise me whatsoever, unfortunately...so much received wisdom about men and what makes you properly masculine involves doing shit that isn't very good for you personally let alone the environment. i think it's a very american thing too, though obviously not limited to america.

yeah actually what's fucked is that the line about perceiving people who take their own bags to the grocery store as more feminine resonated b/c I can feel that instinct kicking in in my own brain when I'm carrying bags to the sore, even though intellectually I love to reuse bags, hate accumulating plastic bags, and now in Montreal you can't even get them

i held a door for a guy once who was carrying two 24 packs of Keystone Light and he looked at me like i just propositioned him

Serious non-masculinity related question. I try to do things that are good for the environment but have long resisted reusable grocery bags because the disposable ones are so good for trash can liners and for picking up after my dogs. I've been doing this for decades. What do people do if they switch to reusable?

buy some compostable trash bags from Amazon maybe?

I still seem to acquire plastic bags unwillingly in random ways (takeout food being a big one), but I also buy compostable/biodegradable bags specifically for cat litter use. I also started re-using the plastic shell that toilet paper comes in

i like to take reusable grocery bags because they're more capacious and sturdy. stupidly still use regular plastic bags for garbage whether store bought or gotten from store when i forget a reusable bag

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rYPMbLO4pAY

extremely glad that i don't worry about my masculinity when bringing reusable bags #notallmen

I think about those rolling coal types all the time. Idk why except maybe that it's so utterly perverse and puerile. If you live on this planet, its well-being is necessary to your survival. What do they think? Ans: I'm pretty sure none of them are thinking about anything except being hateful.

i found this post i made in the gun control debate thread, slightly tangentially related

it's worldwide but there's also that thing w/fetishizing things that are dirty and destructive, skulls and beer and smoke and all that. part of me thinks green energy and clean air and non-violence are nonstarters *not* because of "realists" talking about the economy or the need for defense, but because there's an intrinsic appeal to the former and a charisma that comes from engaging w/those things that doesn't exist in the latter. like things that are clean can be boring, non-violence isn't exciting. i know that sounds stupid but i actually think subconsciously (not even a bit consciously) that plays a not-small role.

― omar little, Tuesday, February 27, 2018 11:29 AM (seven months ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink