True. I'm not sure that's what's going on with Stephen Fry, but who knows?
― Father Ted in Forkhandles (Tom D.), Monday, 30 July 2018 16:41 (five years ago) link
And who cares, is more to the point where Stephen Fry is concerned.
back in the day morrissey and boy george! not not with each other obv
― mark s, Monday, 30 July 2018 18:42 (five years ago) link
I’m so glad no one I’ve dated turned out to be asexualSince asexuals are a minuscule minority, it must be hard to fine one let alone one they’d want to be in a relationship with
― F# A# (∞), Monday, 30 July 2018 19:33 (five years ago) link
I think Fry, much like Morrissey, simply identified as thinking sex was icky until he got laid well one time.
― 16, 35, DCP, Go! (sic), Monday, 30 July 2018 20:16 (five years ago) link
Fry said he was celibate for 17 years after university right up until the late 90s or early 2000s."I got on with my life without sex. It seems insane now that I think about it," he said.He said he had questioned what kind of God would create human beings who would "find delight in organs of the body that are parked exactly adjacent to or indeed share a function with the organs of excretion?" "All those damp, tufted areas of the human body with their strange odours. How can anybody find them attractive?"When asked if he was too shy to talk about sex, Fry said he could "bore you and disgust you horrifically, talking about sex".He said a number of things changed his mind about sex, including love. "Love flicked the switch ... I found someone. It just happened and that's what allowed sex to take place."
"I got on with my life without sex. It seems insane now that I think about it," he said.
He said he had questioned what kind of God would create human beings who would "find delight in organs of the body that are parked exactly adjacent to or indeed share a function with the organs of excretion?"
"All those damp, tufted areas of the human body with their strange odours. How can anybody find them attractive?"
When asked if he was too shy to talk about sex, Fry said he could "bore you and disgust you horrifically, talking about sex".
He said a number of things changed his mind about sex, including love.
"Love flicked the switch ... I found someone. It just happened and that's what allowed sex to take place."
quality url: http://www.abc.net.au/news/2015-11-04/stephen-fry-sex-love-god/6910836
― 16, 35, DCP, Go! (sic), Monday, 30 July 2018 20:19 (five years ago) link
― 16, 35, DCP, Go! (sic)
it's really not one of those "either/or" things. i'm inclined towards the belief that an asexual who's in love with someone is more likely to tolerate sex with that person.
chronic depression, and treatments for same, do also play a significant role in these things.
― Arch Bacon (rushomancy), Monday, 30 July 2018 20:44 (five years ago) link
If you thought Razor scooters were amusing mostly harmless newmillenium bullshit backinaday, wait til you get to “share” sidewalks with microwheeled motorized _everything_ _everywhere_ so whitecollar dipshits can get their swerve on.
BAN
#trumpyellsatlawnkidface
― Hunt3r, Monday, 30 July 2018 23:21 (five years ago) link
not controversial
― ( ͡☉ ͜ʖ ͡☉) (jim in vancouver), Monday, 30 July 2018 23:46 (five years ago) link
*confused look* Is this the Dept of Disgusting Savages?
― Hunt3r, Tuesday, 31 July 2018 01:01 (five years ago) link
thanks for the responses - definitely think i could be emotionally in love with a person who is asexual, and probably abstain for awhile but not sure how complicated it would get later on. So many facets to love
― transcendental headache (Ross), Tuesday, 31 July 2018 21:11 (five years ago) link
asexuality is very real and otm does not get recognition (or is lumped in w incel). one of the downsides of the sex positive movement is the ignoring of this subset.
― Hazy Maze Cave (Adam Bruneau), Tuesday, 31 July 2018 21:16 (five years ago) link
there is also a subset of people who do not have sex unless an emotional connection is forged over time - that totally makes sense to me, there is a term but i forget it atm
― transcendental headache (Ross), Tuesday, 31 July 2018 21:20 (five years ago) link
I don't think it's pansexual? Although that is when you are only attracted to a person, regardless of gender, after you have an emotional connection.
― Yerac, Tuesday, 31 July 2018 21:23 (five years ago) link
I pretty much think everyone's gay. But I know that is not the case.
― Yerac, Tuesday, 31 July 2018 21:25 (five years ago) link
LolThat is definitely a contropI by no means even get a half chub by looking at dicksI’ve heard some dudes say they can get a hard on even if a guy is sucking them off and they consider themselves not gayWell more power to them but that is not the case with me
― F# A# (∞), Tuesday, 31 July 2018 22:10 (five years ago) link
Whoops, I meant queer as a term to capture all non-straight people.
― Yerac, Tuesday, 31 July 2018 22:19 (five years ago) link
Oh okay
― F# A# (∞), Tuesday, 31 July 2018 22:22 (five years ago) link
But thanks for your personal insight into looking at dicks.
― Yerac, Tuesday, 31 July 2018 22:24 (five years ago) link
demisexual
― Number None, Tuesday, 31 July 2018 22:25 (five years ago) link
XpFor science
― F# A# (∞), Tuesday, 31 July 2018 22:36 (five years ago) link
Boys measure their dicks and compete to see whose is bigger, not like i looked at them now for this convo btw
― F# A# (∞), Tuesday, 31 July 2018 22:37 (five years ago) link
― an incoherent crustacean (MatthewK), Tuesday, 31 July 2018 23:17 (five years ago) link
I by no means even get a half chub by looking at dicks
me neither! what a ridiculous piece of flessshhhh, as Robin Williams once said. I like what they're attached to, and at that point they're fun to do stuff with.
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 31 July 2018 23:24 (five years ago) link
gay p0rn w/ endless closeups of dicks is even more boring than soccer
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 31 July 2018 23:25 (five years ago) link
Gay male porn is a thousand times better than straight porn.
― Yerac, Tuesday, 31 July 2018 23:32 (five years ago) link
I’m into women only and I don’t really watch straight porn, i guess a lot has to do with never finding one i like
― F# A# (∞), Tuesday, 31 July 2018 23:37 (five years ago) link
some people shouldn't be giving dating advice
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 1 August 2018 05:30 (five years ago) link
― Hazy Maze Cave (Adam Bruneau), Tuesday, July 31, 2018 5:16 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
I have a married friend who fears he may be asexual and he brought it up while we were out one night. it was clear others at the table didn't have much experience or knowledge regarding the subject (which tbf, I don't either) as they tried to reassure him that he was probably experiencing a temporary weakened libido, rather than trying to understand why he felt that he was asexual. so he changed subjects when he realized nobody at the table understood what he was saying.
― fuck the NRA (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 05:44 (five years ago) link
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 1 August 2018 05:30 (three hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
always up to the advice seeker to run through the advisor's available cv and judge imo
― dele alli my bookmarks (darraghmac), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 08:53 (five years ago) link
i've thought about hanging out with "ace" folks from time to time but i don't feel much of a drive to join a group where the only commonality is a shared personal disinterest in a certain activity.
― Arch Bacon (rushomancy), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 13:16 (five years ago) link
On another topic, for any crime greater than simple assault and less than public mass murder, the US justice system gets the wrong result far more often than it gets the right one. This is true for everything from apprehending and convicting the correct perpetrator to proper sentencing.
― Eliza D., Wednesday, 1 August 2018 13:20 (five years ago) link
Do you have objective evidence for that or is it just *waves hand in direction of prison system*
― El Tomboto, Wednesday, 1 August 2018 14:11 (five years ago) link
well a great deal of those cases are resolved via plea bargain resulting in a lesser sentence
― antisocal (rip van wanko), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 14:20 (five years ago) link
This ain't the "defend your thesis" thread, it's the "controversial opinions" thread.
― Eliza D., Wednesday, 1 August 2018 14:58 (five years ago) link
The US justice system was built for white men only. We all know this.
― Yerac, Wednesday, 1 August 2018 15:03 (five years ago) link
Probably most people who are charged with crimes they did ought not be convicted of them, both by the letter of the law and as a matter of justice.
― devops mom (silby), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 15:06 (five years ago) link
Re: asexuality/queerness, people need to get over the idea that penetrative sex is the only type of intimacy that matters.
― Yerac, Wednesday, 1 August 2018 15:15 (five years ago) link
otm.
― fuck the NRA (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 15:16 (five years ago) link
Ya but asexuality is one thing most people care the least about unless a sexually incompatible couple have to deal with their partner’s asexuality
― F# A# (∞), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 15:19 (five years ago) link
Western civilization was built by white men for white men, and its attendant systems of 'justice' are simply a means of alleviating the need for constant force in maintaining those parameters.</trenchant>
(By complete coincidence, 'The Funky Western Civilization' just popped up on my iPod while I was typing. Resonant.)
― Things To Do For Dinner When You're Dad (Old Lunch), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 15:20 (five years ago) link
at the same time its not had a bad run of success in a crul world up until idk liberal arts degrees became popular n'est pas
― dele alli my bookmarks (darraghmac), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 15:42 (five years ago) link
Peeing pants is ok sometimes
― fuck the NRA (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 16:31 (five years ago) link
yerac otm
― transcendental headache (Ross), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 16:34 (five years ago) link
Neanderthal otm if a bit conservative
― Things To Do For Dinner When You're Dad (Old Lunch), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 16:37 (five years ago) link
Never letting u sit on my couch
― fuck the NRA (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 16:39 (five years ago) link
Exceedingly sound policy, that.
― Things To Do For Dinner When You're Dad (Old Lunch), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 16:40 (five years ago) link
my buddy said pissing ones pants at music festivals was the american dream. kinda felt weird hearing that
― transcendental headache (Ross), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 16:40 (five years ago) link
I mean not an on purpose thing but my bladder failed me in Times Square once
― fuck the NRA (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 16:44 (five years ago) link
well it feels weirder knowing we'll never get a pension of pay off our houses so deal with it xp
― sassysquatch (rip van wanko), Wednesday, 1 August 2018 16:59 (five years ago) link