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Have there been any self identified asexual characters/people out in the mainstream? I can only think of Todd from Bojack.

Stephen Fry, but he's married now so I'm assuming he isn't claiming to be asexual any more.

Hmmm. One can be in a romantic relationship without wanting sex.

True. I'm not sure that's what's going on with Stephen Fry, but who knows?

And who cares, is more to the point where Stephen Fry is concerned.

back in the day morrissey and boy george! not not with each other obv

I’m so glad no one I’ve dated turned out to be asexual

Since asexuals are a minuscule minority, it must be hard to fine one let alone one they’d want to be in a relationship with

I think Fry, much like Morrissey, simply identified as thinking sex was icky until he got laid well one time.

Fry said he was celibate for 17 years after university right up until the late 90s or early 2000s.

"I got on with my life without sex. It seems insane now that I think about it," he said.

He said he had questioned what kind of God would create human beings who would "find delight in organs of the body that are parked exactly adjacent to or indeed share a function with the organs of excretion?"

"All those damp, tufted areas of the human body with their strange odours. How can anybody find them attractive?"

When asked if he was too shy to talk about sex, Fry said he could "bore you and disgust you horrifically, talking about sex".

He said a number of things changed his mind about sex, including love.

"Love flicked the switch ... I found someone. It just happened and that's what allowed sex to take place."

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I think Fry, much like Morrissey, simply identified as thinking sex was icky until he got laid well one time.

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it's really not one of those "either/or" things. i'm inclined towards the belief that an asexual who's in love with someone is more likely to tolerate sex with that person.

chronic depression, and treatments for same, do also play a significant role in these things.

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not controversial

*confused look* Is this the Dept of Disgusting Savages?

thanks for the responses - definitely think i could be emotionally in love with a person who is asexual, and probably abstain for awhile but not sure how complicated it would get later on. So many facets to love

asexuality is very real and otm does not get recognition (or is lumped in w incel). one of the downsides of the sex positive movement is the ignoring of this subset.

there is also a subset of people who do not have sex unless an emotional connection is forged over time - that totally makes sense to me, there is a term but i forget it atm

I don't think it's pansexual? Although that is when you are only attracted to a person, regardless of gender, after you have an emotional connection.

I pretty much think everyone's gay. But I know that is not the case.

Lol

That is definitely a controp

I by no means even get a half chub by looking at dicks

I’ve heard some dudes say they can get a hard on even if a guy is sucking them off and they consider themselves not gay

Well more power to them but that is not the case with me

Whoops, I meant queer as a term to capture all non-straight people.

Oh okay

But thanks for your personal insight into looking at dicks.

there is also a subset of people who do not have sex unless an emotional connection is forged over time - that totally makes sense to me, there is a term but i forget it atm

demisexual

Xp

For science

Boys measure their dicks and compete to see whose is bigger, not like i looked at them now for this convo btw

there is also a subset of people who do not have sex unless an emotional connection is forged over time - that totally makes sense to me, there is a term but i forget it atm

I by no means even get a half chub by looking at dicks

me neither! what a ridiculous piece of flessshhhh, as Robin Williams once said. I like what they're attached to, and at that point they're fun to do stuff with.

gay p0rn w/ endless closeups of dicks is even more boring than soccer

Gay male porn is a thousand times better than straight porn.

I’m into women only and I don’t really watch straight porn, i guess a lot has to do with never finding one i like

some people shouldn't be giving dating advice

asexuality is very real and otm does not get recognition (or is lumped in w incel). one of the downsides of the sex positive movement is the ignoring of this subset.

― Hazy Maze Cave (Adam Bruneau), Tuesday, July 31, 2018 5:16 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I have a married friend who fears he may be asexual and he brought it up while we were out one night. it was clear others at the table didn't have much experience or knowledge regarding the subject (which tbf, I don't either) as they tried to reassure him that he was probably experiencing a temporary weakened libido, rather than trying to understand why he felt that he was asexual. so he changed subjects when he realized nobody at the table understood what he was saying.

some people shouldn't be giving dating advice

― mookieproof, Wednesday, 1 August 2018 05:30 (three hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

always up to the advice seeker to run through the advisor's available cv and judge imo

i've thought about hanging out with "ace" folks from time to time but i don't feel much of a drive to join a group where the only commonality is a shared personal disinterest in a certain activity.

On another topic, for any crime greater than simple assault and less than public mass murder, the US justice system gets the wrong result far more often than it gets the right one. This is true for everything from apprehending and convicting the correct perpetrator to proper sentencing.

Do you have objective evidence for that or is it just *waves hand in direction of prison system*

well a great deal of those cases are resolved via plea bargain resulting in a lesser sentence

This ain't the "defend your thesis" thread, it's the "controversial opinions" thread.

The US justice system was built for white men only. We all know this.

Probably most people who are charged with crimes they did ought not be convicted of them, both by the letter of the law and as a matter of justice.

Re: asexuality/queerness, people need to get over the idea that penetrative sex is the only type of intimacy that matters.

otm.

Ya but asexuality is one thing most people care the least about unless a sexually incompatible couple have to deal with their partner’s asexuality

Western civilization was built by white men for white men, and its attendant systems of 'justice' are simply a means of alleviating the need for constant force in maintaining those parameters.</trenchant>

(By complete coincidence, 'The Funky Western Civilization' just popped up on my iPod while I was typing. Resonant.)

at the same time its not had a bad run of success in a crul world up until idk liberal arts degrees became popular n'est pas

Peeing pants is ok sometimes

yerac otm

Neanderthal otm if a bit conservative

Never letting u sit on my couch

Exceedingly sound policy, that.