I am too old for this...the 40 plus thread.

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The fact that so many of the best ILX posters are 40+ does make the future seem a lot less bleak (see also the parenting and gay threads - clearly the best people are old queers with kids)

Mark C, Monday, 30 April 2007 11:28 (seventeen years ago) link

Mark OTM

Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 11:30 (seventeen years ago) link

Trayce OTM

Ned Trifle II, Monday, 30 April 2007 13:06 (seventeen years ago) link

The number of stupid things I no longer give a shit about is bracing.

Dr Morbius, Monday, 30 April 2007 13:06 (seventeen years ago) link

Doc you are so handsome it hurts to look at you. Damn you

!!! Are you sure?

Dr.C, Monday, 30 April 2007 13:08 (seventeen years ago) link

Yes.

Mark C, Monday, 30 April 2007 13:13 (seventeen years ago) link

listen: Older dudes are hot! My boyfriend of 10 years is turning 50 in 3 years. Older men can have that confidence that you only get with experience. Less ego, more man. (this applies to the ladies as well-the toughest and coolest girls I know are are 39-55) They know what's what and have more objectivity. Most 20+ kids are stinky little drama queens.

King Kitty, Monday, 30 April 2007 13:27 (seventeen years ago) link

Dr C's a handsome fellow, it has to be said.

Marcello Carlin, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:04 (seventeen years ago) link

Indeed he is.

C J, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:05 (seventeen years ago) link

Adding to the Dr. C love here.

Ned Raggett, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:06 (seventeen years ago) link

Dr. C, if I ever make it back to the gym again, I'm going to download a picture of you and show it to the trainers and DNA boys and say "make me look like this!"

James Redd and the Blecchs, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:39 (seventeen years ago) link

You can send that picture to me, if you like...

King Kitty, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:41 (seventeen years ago) link

In less than two months
I will be celebrating
birthday 41

All that age stuff sucks
but the flipside is that I
do not care as much

And I am happy,
for sure happier now than
when I was 30

Dimension 5ive, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:49 (seventeen years ago) link

uh, where r the Dr C pics pls

Dr Morbius, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:50 (seventeen years ago) link

http://www.diabetesincontrol.com/issues/issue318/picture.gif

scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:02 (seventeen years ago) link

http://www.benbest.com/lifeext/fertile2.gif

scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:04 (seventeen years ago) link

What the feck is going on here?

Dr.C, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:06 (seventeen years ago) link

You have been declared official ILX Silver Foxxxxe.

Masonic Boom, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:06 (seventeen years ago) link

http://dericbownds.net/uploaded_images/MellowYears.gif

scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:07 (seventeen years ago) link

[Post image of Charlie Rich here]

James Redd and the Blecchs, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:10 (seventeen years ago) link

Where's the love for the long-lost "silver fox" of snooker David Taylor?

Marcello Carlin, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:13 (seventeen years ago) link

http://www.starland.com/sf-sc/sc00/images/TerryErdman.jpg

scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:16 (seventeen years ago) link

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scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:19 (seventeen years ago) link

Are you dropping hints scott?

Ms Misery, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:20 (seventeen years ago) link

Who's that in the picture Scott?

Dr.C, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:48 (seventeen years ago) link

i think he invented the character of buckaroo banzai. but maybe not. first picture i found searching for silver fox.

scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:49 (seventeen years ago) link

I thought it was one of those age-morphed photos of Ned.

Oilyrags, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:58 (seventeen years ago) link

sci-fi people get silvery a lot


http://www.shaviro.com/Blog/images/Delany.jpg

scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 16:01 (seventeen years ago) link

http://www.pasadenaweekly.com/media/8/artspeak.jpg

scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 16:02 (seventeen years ago) link

I was talking about this with friends last night and a lot of the talk revolved around the classic-or-dudness of 'things not mattering as much any more'.

Classic = Knowing that you can handle most things in life and knowing what's really worth getting worked up about, as opposed to trying fight everything and everybody all the time

Dud = Not getting the same highs out of life/art/sport/stuff in general that you used to. My team got knocked out of the European Cup semi last night. 20 years ago I would have been fighting mad, 10 years ago I would have been in tears, last night I switched the telly off and made a cup of tea. Actually my thesis here is that you get worked up about different things.

There was a lot of talk about how having kids changes things, much of it obvious stuff so I won't repeat here :)

Dr.C, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 14:05 (seventeen years ago) link

sci-fi people get silvery a lot

Does Delany count as a "silver age" writer? I always forget.

Casuistry, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 15:03 (seventeen years ago) link

So your big dud is that you no longer get excited about professional sports?

And this is a dud? And the big one, at that?

Casuistry, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 15:04 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm still a big baseball fan and I think my less-crisis-mode attitude is a welcome sign of maturity.

Dr Morbius, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 15:06 (seventeen years ago) link

I thought it was one of those age-morphed photos of Ned.


You make it sound like there are a lot of these about.

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 15:08 (seventeen years ago) link

So your big dud is that you no longer get excited about professional sports?

No. That was just an example (maybe a poor one) about how you kind of don't care about stuff that you used to care about. Maybe a better example of this dudness would be if that lack of emotional engagement spilled over into something that really mattered, like a relationship or a friendship.

Dr.C, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 15:40 (seventeen years ago) link

Well, yes. Which, based on the 40+ people I know, is not exactly the case.

Casuistry, Thursday, 3 May 2007 00:27 (seventeen years ago) link

My hair is all silvery salt&pepper under all this goff dye. People keep daring me to grow it out.

Maybe when I'm 50+, not just yet tho.

Trayce, Thursday, 3 May 2007 00:49 (seventeen years ago) link

one year passes...

Revive for those of us between them pesky kids and the over 50's.

Ned Trifle II, Saturday, 23 August 2008 08:15 (fifteen years ago) link

You are probably wiser than many ILXors. Am I remembering correctly that you have kids? They must be growing up! I am looking forward to my kids being older and less dependent on me...

-- Sara R-C, Sunday, April 29, 2007 9:57 PM (1 year ago) Bookmark Link

My kids are now 10 and 7. And are less dependent on me. But I am no wiser. If anything I'm getting more confused. Although perhaps my recognition of my confusion is a sign of wisdom?

Ned Trifle II, Saturday, 23 August 2008 08:17 (fifteen years ago) link

I've already started thinking of myself as 40 even though I've technically got a year and a half left.

It's kinda nice. Being young sucked. Being middle aged is way better. Being old is going to be the best yet. I just wish I could make the menopause come early. I know there are drugs you can take to delay it, aren't there drugs you can take to bring it on?

Masonic Boom, Saturday, 23 August 2008 08:58 (fifteen years ago) link

I don't think being young has to suck. It's just that you need certain factors in alignment to make the best of it:

-supportive parents
- stimulating educational environment
- access to a social network

For some reason, despite my mother being mentally unstable, my parents took themselves off to Africa, and had five children without seeming to have any interest in children whatsoever.

Bob Six, Saturday, 23 August 2008 09:18 (fifteen years ago) link

I've already started thinking of myself as 40 even though I've technically got a year and a half left.

Funny that, I think of myself as 38 and a half, even though technically I'm 42.

Billy Dods, Saturday, 23 August 2008 09:28 (fifteen years ago) link

Celebrities Hitting The Big 4 - 0 In 2008.

Daniel, Esq., Saturday, 23 August 2008 10:04 (fifteen years ago) link

40 can be a very, very good time of life, if everything is going well for you, but it can also be a time of great discouragement, if you look at yourself and don't like what you see.

My best advice for the ILXors in their early 40s is not to lose sight of the person you most want to be (not necessarily the person you wanted to be when you were 20 and wished you could be a rich and famous whatever-it-was). Then do what it takes to move toward becoming that person. If you do not, you risk becoming an empty husk and a very sad person.

Also, in your 40s, your body should still respond fairly promptly to exercise and reward you for your efforts by adding strength, stamina and energy. If you slide through your 40s, don't expect to make up lost ground very easily in your 50s. It will be 3X harder then.

Aimless, Saturday, 23 August 2008 16:08 (fifteen years ago) link

Celebrities Hitting The Big 4 - 0 In 2008.

i think a few of the people on that list may be lying about their age. no way is gillian anderson only 40!

get bent, Saturday, 23 August 2008 18:05 (fifteen years ago) link

Allow me to kill this thread by hitting it on the skull with a heavy, blunt piece of advice. Oh, wait... I already did.

Aimless, Sunday, 24 August 2008 20:54 (fifteen years ago) link

Oh! I thought I replied to this. Eh. I must be getting senile. Is this what my 40s are gonna be like? Becoming even more forgetful?

Masonic Boom, Sunday, 24 August 2008 21:01 (fifteen years ago) link

ahahah aimless I loved your advice, classic words of wisdom.

sleeve, Sunday, 24 August 2008 21:25 (fifteen years ago) link

I am afraid my 40's are going to involve more full-time work than the last decade did.

sleeve, Sunday, 24 August 2008 21:25 (fifteen years ago) link

Also, in your 40s, your body should still respond fairly promptly to exercise and reward you for your efforts by adding strength, stamina and energy. If you slide through your 40s, don't expect to make up lost ground very easily in your 50s. It will be 3X harder then.

Yeah. You can still get bigger and stronger in at least your early 40s. I suspect things decline in your 50s though.

Daniel, Esq., Sunday, 24 August 2008 21:28 (fifteen years ago) link


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