Rolling Maleness and Masculinity Discussion Thread

Eh, it's Denmark.

https://i.ytimg.com/vi/9cWnubJ9CEw/hqdefault.jpg

Put a thin layer of toilet paper on the water to reduce ploppage noise.

*plop*

Ha noted wrt loc yerac

And ya i put toilet paper in the toilet to avoid it splashing everywhere sometimes

the Viz profanisaurus once described this layer of toilet paper as a "pap-baffle"

Toilet pap-er

Change location, this was in NYC.

now imagining the italicized onomatopoeia in this as dashed off by tom wolfe

I worked with a guy that would print out articles every morning to take into the bathroom for his morning poop.

― Yerac, Wednesday, May 23, 2018 1:58 PM (forty-one minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I did too though now everyone just takes their phones I guess.

I realized I'd been sitting and reading my phone on the toilet last week because my butt went numb.

Also, I once worked somewhere where one of my colleagues took a giant shit on the mens' room floor.

Not on the floor inside a stall - just in the middle of the floor outside the stalls by the sink.

I’d be pretty impressed with that move if said colleague happened to be a woman.

Christ Frederik they should install a fan

Or bring a white noise buffer

Different place (M0rg4n St4nl3y) but we had a woman who had some issues and would take a cup of water into the stall with her and it sounded like she was pee'ing while standing up. She left the stall walls, seat and floor wet every single time. She also shit on the seat once and left it and also shit on the floor. This was a small two stall bathroom and it happened enough that eventually we could narrow down who it was. I spoke to the cleaning woman and she also named the woman but didn't feel like she could complain. I called HR and was definitive about who it was, and they told me to put up a sign about cleaning up after yourself (there were already signs). So hr had a discussion with the woman and her manager and she totally denied it. Nothing else could be done if we didn't see her in the act. Like, in the stall with her.

lol.

there was a dude at my last job who came in on the weekends who shat and left it floating in the stall, every week. it was like his weak impotent fist to the corporate world

ha crazy times

When working in offices, I always used to shite at leisure on work time. And frequently take a book with me. No one ever said a word; yet now I realise they were posting about me on message boards. I teach now and merely going for a piss is a luxury. Most of the time it's like having concrete in one's bladder. (I always thought that feeling was unique to camping, but no.)

even in the laid back public service jobs I've had taking a book into the washroom on company time would've got you your balls booted, figuratively

From "is gender a spectrum?" to shitting at work in 30 moves (proposed new maleness board description)

I know I have told this story before, but at work a woman used to take a piece of cheesecake from Juniors to secretly eat in a stall in the bathroom at least once a week. We would always find the container sticking out of the sanitary napkin bin.

I am sure someone is writing on a messageboard somewhere about a creepster girl always staring at them when they were just trying to go to the bathroom to eat in peace (or to take a shit outside of the bowl).

I'd like to take a very brief look at that person's messageboard.

that's actually a pretty sad story imo, extreme shame about food

the kneejerk reaction against shame movement needs to take a good hard fuckin look at itself when the boundaries encompass shitstall cheesecake subterfuge

like

shame away

shame away lads

this is gods work

i mean

u dont eat where u shit this is known

darragh, it is bad that the woman feels such shame about food that she hides in the toilet to eat cheesecake

you're being driven mad by your need to be contrary

u dont eat where u shit this is known

Unless you're a bear. Bears pretty much have to do both things in the woods.

Yeah, it was really sad. Everyone constantly ate at their desks so it was really depressing that someone needed to hide.

One time I did get a jolt because she had gotten the strawberry cheesecake and I thought it was a large amount of blood all over the container at first.

jim its ok its only a bad message board

i hope this woman got the help she clearly needed

people who think they can behave one way on the internet and another way irl and dismiss their behavior on the internet are part of the problem imo

xp. this but unironically

christ tho

ppl who cannot/choose not to discern a difference between (or draw too clear a link between) throwaway posts on a message board about ppl from a story several years old that are not reading those posts (said comments being hardly particularly vicious-even if the subject existed as a real person for the purposes of the thread in question, which imo they dont) as if that is a "behaviour" to be judged in tones most serious and linked as a reference to behaviour irl or indeed actual problems either online or irl are very definitely part of the problem imo

I was thinking La Lachera's post was about trolls online vs real life and not about the stories just told here. I could be wrong.

If it's about the cheesecake story, I'll own that. It was a decade ago and everyone likely didn't handle it well because it was an odd thing to happen in a corporate office.

dmac otm

back on the masculinity thing, a friend of mine told me her (now ex) husband wouldn't help with a lot of the child-rearing, in large part because it was "wussy." cf taking the kid out to a park or something by himself, driving around the kid by himself, not wanting to wear the baby in a sling. not because he was opposed to slings, which is quite defensible, but because it would impact his image, he felt self-conscious about it and wanted her to do it at all times. he was generally very hands off it sounds like, not affectionate with the kid. whatever gets triggered when you set eyes on your child for the first time, it didn't happen.

i've known a couple other dudes like this, who would seemingly rather do anything other than handle being a dad. i find it mystifying moreso now that i'm one myself.

i really don't ever want to have kids and i find that not just mystifying but horrifying.

u dont eat where u shit this is known

― laurel or hardyhearin (darraghmac), Wednesday, May 23, 2018 1:19 PM (two hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Unless you're a bear. Bears pretty much have to do both things in the woods.

― kilohertz so good (Ye Mad Puffin), Wednesday, May 23, 2018 1:22 PM (two hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

fuck lmao

i was talking about a disparity between online and offline behavior that doesn't line up, which i continue to find nagl as a practice/behavio(u)r
there's no point arguing with dmac about anything, esp not here, so please let us continue to discuss masculinity

If it's about the cheesecake story, I'll own that. It was a decade ago and everyone likely didn't handle it well because it was an odd thing to happen in a corporate office.

― Yerac, Wednesday, 23 May 2018 20:53 (two hours ago) Permalink

yeah, well I've been guilty of that plenty of times, having a laugh or a gawk at something that, when I pause to think about, is actually fairly sad

typically sniffy passive aggression from you itt ll

which isnt, tbfty, arguing as such

typically? you truly do not know me personally but ok
i don't enjoy arguing for argument's sake and i am pretty sure that you do. that is why i said there was no point in arguing with you.

strange

you seem very confident making pronouncements about me in a strikingly similar fashion to what you object to despite not knowing me personally but, as you say, ok

despite my method of what no doubt strikes you as constantly boorish discourse, i dont enjoy argument against individuals at all- and especially where neither of us necessarily enjoy it

but that doesnt mean snide swipes airily aimed at the room dont count just because one has the fine manners to play it that way

its late, ive no wish to drag this on, thats my piece said on it.

From "is gender a spectrum?" to shitting at work in 30 moves (proposed new maleness board description)

― Fedora Dostoyevsky (man alive)

fuck no when i am old i am going to be like james brown and go on a multi-state crime spree because somebody else has shat in my personal toilet

well anyway my friend i mentioned in my previous post didn't split from her ex because of that parenting style, but because he had been cheating on her w/someone starting around the time of her pregnancy. he wept when she rather correctly told him they couldn't stay married *and* he could keep his girlfriend. he was waffling on which choice to make so she booted him out.