Why do people leave ILX for good?

i am happy to wear the burden for all

i was sb'd so that ye may find salvation. and yet i am risen

i will never log off

― ciderpress, Saturday, February 24, 2018 6:47 PM (three weeks ago)

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afaict a midlife shift to hardline conservatism never prevented anyone from staying on ilx

Oh man...gd times.

oh snap!

You have posted 75,000 messages

not going anywhere. you will just have to deal. i'm just getting started!

#30thousandpicturesofrecords

those 75,000 posts paved the way to the next 75,000 posts

Shut the fuck up, my ass (I will never shut the fuck up)

Never stop, skot. I have rued your couple of leaves-of-absence from ilx.

I'm never gonna leave ILX because it's the one website on the godforsaken internet that doesn't turn off my music when I'm browsing on my phone

^^^^(or my podcast)

according to what I came across on another board, it's because ILXors are not nice people.

surely we must find this board and go there to explain in detail why we're nice

(no)

I'm not doing that. Kiss my butt. In fact, everybody can kiss my butt. You can't see it but both of my middle fingers are up right now. It's hard to type but so worth it.

i mean ilxors are twats, this is canon

but you're all MY twats <3

(Whoever said current ILXors are not nice clearly wasn't here a decade+ ago.)

there's a thread on not-very-active messageboard d1ssensus making fun of ilx posts

they don't seem to understand the difference between the music boards and others and think it's completely mind-boggling that people would post about grocery store items they enjoy

I mean, if you want to find actual mean people

old lunch otm

y'all are much nicer

it's probably because we always have two fingers up our butts

It really mellows one out, I find.

some ILXors can for sure be mean but the nice ones are great. people can get riled up, it can happen to anyone, but in general when things get tense i find you can take a break from the site for a day and let things simmer down.

when taken in context alongside other boards it's still way less toxic than a lot of places. you don't tend to see tons of trolls, huge meltdowns, or flame wars that shut down threads on other sites.

Sometimes I cannot tell if someone is trolling or just being super regional.

I don't think nastiness is much of a problem, or trolling. Posters can be unbearable in other ways.

flood of disingenuous posting

humorless disingenuous posting

ILx is so much more relaxed these days.
10 years ago this place scared the fuck out of me.
whereas now i believe it to be the best online collective there is.

i enjoy and learn a lot from the board and lord knows when I first joined I deserved 98% of the scorn I got but there was a period of time this place cut me deeply......i originally came back only for the metal board.

After eight years of Usenet this place looked like a model of civilised discourse back in 2001.

well hell compared to Usenet a punch feels like a kiss

I only regularly lurk on one other message board which seems to consist mostly of chill normies but reminds me semi-regularly of how awesome ILX is at correcting against oh I dunno saaaaay fairly overtly racist posts and posters (tbf, said board is pretty good at bringing the hammer down when these things do pop up).

the funny thing about Usenet is that I posted in the Slayer and Metallica Usenet boards in high school between 1995-1999, and there was a guy who went by M1k3 M0sh, who was a relatively respected scenester dude who occasionally went a bit OTT and got clowned for it.

Around 2014 or so, I befriended an older dude named M1ke at a metal show and...a year later, realized it was him. and he still goes by "M1ke M0sh" as a pseudonym.

I considered leaving ILX for good just being on internet/social media so much and having it occupy so much of my mental space was starting to make me feel like a saddo force-feeding himself depressing streams of useless information and that there were probably better ways to spend my time. Ultimately I came to the decision that for better or worse a significant part of people's lives are lived on-line and that with some conscientious moderation there's ways to stay connected without being sucked into a vortex of evil marketing and misinformation and bullshit designed to make me unhappy. but I've never been on Facebook, I don't have an instagram, I deactivated my twitter account and I'm just trying to better manage my time on the internet. Seems like at long as I'm at work at an office-job there's always going to be some value in a place as de-commercialized and generally all-encompassing as ILX, which is just a good resource for laffs and information. seems like there's many a much worse place on the 'net I could be spending my time.

^^ rings true for me too

Shakey otm

I guess I was also questioning the value in general of posting a bunch of shit over decades. Like, looking back on all those posts, I was thinking who reads anything I have to say and why would I think it mattered? What was there ever worth getting worked up about, arguing with the same two or three dozen people for over a decade (often about the exact same topics)? But people missed me apparently, so that was some nice ego-validation.

and then I just waited until someone suitably evil died lol

best comeback since Elvis 68

Almost jacked it in over Option #1, recently. Not imago, I hasten to add.

xxp otm again!

You waited until a suitably evil ilxor died to take his handle? That's harsh man...

Like, looking back on all those posts, I was thinking who reads anything I have to say and why would I think it mattered?

Arguing with friends in the pub helps you develop your ideas, learn new things and change your own mind and those of others. There are more people here than want to talk about music, politics and comic books in any of our IRL lives.

Also, grocery store item recommendations.

the older I get the less I think anyone really learns anything significant or has their minds changed tbh. Everyone just seems to get stupider and more set in their ways as they get older (not saying I'm exempt from this phenomenon, to be clear)

but yes I have learned a lot about music and books and comics from this board, so that's gratifying.

Shakey, I want you here when Poppy Bush dies.

lol

I already bought a good bottle of wine, ready to uncork

Agree w shakey, save that I can never post from work and so my time here is limited to the few evenings or bus rides in between doing chores or tending to family. I’m finding that at this point in my career a “regular” workweek is about sixty hours, and I’m just out of moments to rank Argento films or bicker with a stranger about bicycle etiquette.

I love my job, but I do have moments of lifestyle envy for people who work 36 hours and can browse the Internet or post here while they’re doing it. I want to have more of this time, because DO I value the pub convo aspect... but I can’t imagine it happening again.

sic otm, that entire sentiment is uplifting