FP: Should 31 be the new 51 y/n

oh, non-funny reasons

a swing and a miss

Unnaresting

sry that post was in honor of banned edgelord sarahell, rip

seriously though, what would have been a non-bullshit way to summarize and refer to complaints about said behavior? I honestly didn't intend that to be an "edgy" word choice

autism is a real thing and using it as a zing against ppl whose content or posting style you dislike is offensive. i also FP any reference to asperger's done in this way, for the same reason. thankfully i feel like, as with the r-word, they've been on the decline around these parts. good poster, bad post.

No, I was using it to describe content and posting styles that resemble behavior of someone on the Autism Spectrum. No like/dislike involved. Just descriptive.

51 is a mystical number
change it at your own peril
this is what the ancients of ilx decreed

I'm apologizing because I can see now how it could easily be interpreted as a pejorative, zingy post ... even though I didn't intend it as a pejorative, just as a description

For me, I don't think of obsessive, list-making behaviour as stereotypically "autistic" - particularly as understanding of the spectrum (and gender differences within it) has developed, it doesn't ring true, and seems reductive to the point of offensiveness. Putting it on a thread like this definitely makes it read as a zingy put-down, but even if it were somewhere else I'd still feel very uneasy about it.

Also the dual edge of pathologising personality traits/diminishing difficulties that people with disorders actually have to live with. It's just... not good.

(I'm sure other people can put this stuff better than me, but those are the things that stick out to me.)

I could put it better but perhaps let's keep the peace

:)

For me, I don't think of obsessive, list-making behaviour as stereotypically "autistic"

it has historically been stereotyped this way on ilx. that's what I was referring to.

and my point was merely, to complain about "obsessive, list-making behaviour" in the context of a thread where people make lists and then compile them and discuss the results, is a bit absurd. And I have been guilty of that complaining in the past, and I am aware of the absurdity of my past behavior.

/For me, I don't think of obsessive, list-making behaviour as stereotypically "autistic"/

it has historically been stereotyped this way on ilx. that's what I was referring to.

How many fucking layers

i guess "obsessive", "trainspottery", "filing", "stamp-collecting", "nerdy" i use in different contexts to try and do the job of describing compulsive nit-picky cataloguing but none of them are perfect. something to do with Pokemons might work. or killing butterflies.

"nobjectivism" might have some mileage

I like 'anal gazing' myself.

I like Strindberg's phrase to describe his own nobjectivism, 'knappologi' (trans. 'buttonology').

it's like walking up to a buffet table and saying "this looks like some food for diabetics!"

I like 'anal gazing' myself.

As blank and pitiless as the sun

mmm slow thighs

Sorry to break topic here, and excuse my ignorance, but— does the flagged poster receive any sort of notice when they have been flagged?

I've never received any such thing myself, so maybe I've never been flagged. But, I think a notification system for when one has been flagged would be of some sort of use. Kind of as a semi-polite way of saying, "Hey, cut it out."

Did you receive like eight or nine notifications just now? Hang on, let me try again.

iirc mods sometimes email people when they are approaching 51, but it's been done case-by-case

my suggestion is to keep the 51 number, but allow each of us to have two active FPs on any given poster, instead of one.

No, you don't receive a notification - you can post on the "request my SB/FP number" thread and if a mod's around they can tell you how many you've got (this isn't really an officially mod-sanctioned thread but it's also not frowned upon as far as I'm aware). The mods will also message you if you're approaching 51, but at that point it should probably be relatively clear from other posters what you've done that's been riling people.

xp with sleeve

I may not have agreed in every instance, but approximately zero of the instances where someone was 51-ed and banned have been surprising. Unless you're super un-self-aware, I would guess you'd probably know when it's at least a likelihood.

my third was kind of 'et tu brute'

forgot it was 3, i assume that's the record and likely to remain so

should probably change the number from 51 to 23

153 is a very holy number

i thought whiney had 4, or are you tied

No, I was using it to describe content and posting styles that resemble behavior of someone on the Autism Spectrum. No like/dislike involved. Just descriptive.

the spectrum is broad (that's why the term "spectrum" was brought into use) & calling things "autistic" is reductive, dismissive, and offensive, and I hope you'll reconsider your position on using it in this way.

it's like walking up to a buffet table and saying "this looks like some food for diabetics!"

― mh, Thursday, 2 November 2017 19:20 (three hours ago) Permalink

is it bad that this makes me lol

I read a couple of other sites where people have weighed in revealing some of our ‘funny’ ex-members as real-life abusers

Is this just going to pass by uncommented on, then?

^^^^^ otm

one of them has been brought up here in the past, not much point in relitigating

they're permabanned, and the accusation was exactly zero surprise

relevant search terms?

What kind of abuse are we talkin about here

I'd like to know that. Stop the shady stuff.

Also we can give Sarahell a break now; she apologized and explained, that's that imho.

I looked for the link again recently but couldn’t find it, basically someone on m3tafilter mentioned in reference to DP that she dated him and he was an abusive pos

Rhymes with Pom Dassatino?

IchLugeMullets

yes, in case it wasn’t obvious

Well theres another D(J)P around here, didnt want him inadvertently sullied