which ilx poster has had the most transformative effect on your life?

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I get that but I also find it hard to do IRL. Also without faith a lot of Jewish practice seems so arbitrary and cumbersome to me.

Ned. Closely followed by Dan.

And Tom.

is ned aware he is being closely followed by dan and tom

estela

Dog Latin - simply because I still tend to think of him as a young whippersnapper, and every time he mentions his age I feel a vivid sense of the passing of time.

I'm young for my age

is ned aware he is being closely followed by dan and tom

They're a haunting presence. Alternately, they're my own personal Hugin and Munin.

(That said, thanks Nick!)

DJP and Kate for reasons shared with a lot of people above. Tom Ewing, Mark Sinker for lessons I've not learned well enough.

Also J0hn D, which is kind of cheating - but him as he appears on ILX and on his blog is also an excellent context for him on record, like having a commentary track.

If I had to pick one though, it'd probably be Starry Sarah - I met a bunch of ILX people at Glastonbury about 15 years ago, and she was the one that was delighted to sit around and talk about the Moldy Peaches and Pokemon, and from that came friendships with most of them, and eventually moving over here, which has been very very transformative.

Kate! Yes, definitely.

About 12 years ago somebody on ILM posted "In Brooklyn" by Al Stewart on a "great lost songs" thread. Since then it's basically become me and partner's "relationship song" and thinking about it is a great reminder of being younger and sillier in our twenties.

Weirdly the lyrics are totally sour! We just like the jauntiness.

Also the book recommendations on ILB basically run my life now.

zip11
Somebody helped me figure out what fucking song this is!

No government name, people !

My answer is anyone who ever forcefully disagreed with, or even ridiculed my posts when I first started posting here. At first I would become very upset, especially when the pushback came from posters I respected. But after a while I learned to roll with it and not try to win people's approval all the time. I value the way this site has pushed me to change my mons on a number of issues, but more than that I appreciate how, by posting here, I learned to stick to my guns when I felt that that was the right thing to do.

*mind, not mons. weird typo.

I would say DJP and Mordy are the posters most likely to challenge the way I think about something on the non-musical side, and on ILM I would say similar things about Ned, xhucx, and probably a few other people from the anti-rockist contingent.

No government name, people !

Sorry there Starry, Sarah.

good to get feedback on a pubic forum xxp

Also, off-site, my conversations with nakh are often disorientingly educative. I don't know if people here really know how much information that guy absorbs on a daily basis.

Disconcertingly tbh

I value the way this site has pushed me to change my mons on a number of issues

I cannot stop laughing at this typo

There have been many influential posters over the years, but the one that I think has had the greatest effect on my life is this little nugget from the running running thread:

Had been thinking about starting again tomorrow. Got a wild hair about it, the stars are aligned, whatever. But the forecast is for 95 degrees. I might go through with it anyway but goddamn.

― how's life, Wednesday, June 10, 2015 4:56 PM (1 week ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

rip

― lag∞n, Wednesday, June 10, 2015 5:09 PM (1 week ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

"rip ― lag∞n" goes through my head now every time I start to flake out about my health and self-care. I still don't always make the best choices, but this little phrase has helped me more times than I can count and I am on a slow but steady path of improving health and fitness. hopefully will get where I'm going before I die.

lagoon is a great guy

From what I know through ilx and social media at least.

There are so many here. So many, and I'm worried about missing anyone but off the top of my head:

Sick Mouthy offered me my first writing gig back in 2004
Branwell, despite falling out with me a huge number of times, did make me reassess my position on a number of issues. That could be said for other ilxors, Lex, DJP and many others.
FGTI gave me some fantastic advice about songwriting once which I'll never forget
And then there are those who have either inspired me a great deal, offered advice and opinions, or just helped me in my life with friendly encouragement, among them Le Bateau Ivre, imago, Rev, Ned, marcos, wins, NickB, chewshabadoo, M4rk H3st3r (can't remember what handle he goes by now), Johnny Fever, man alive, Kerr, Gravel Puzzleworth, seandalai, Moka, emil.y, Michael B, Drugs A . Money. Like the latter says upthread, the Outloud chats were so so great and I miss them a lot

So many more.. I've been on here for 18 years now so...

lagoon also convinced me to stretch before lifting and that was helpful

god, Treeship and flopson and Karl Malone too. I don't interact with them directly much on here but their posts all seem to either be really reasonable, insightful or funny and it's influenced me to at least try not to just write any old shit on hear (I still do though)

love to y'all!

Fpd everyone itt btw

^ the transformative effect we need and deserve

/ I value the way this site has pushed me to change my mons on a number of issues/

I cannot stop laughing at this typo

I missed that, was too busy lolling

my mind put the l in on first pass

I value the way this site has pushed me to change my lmons on a number of issues

I learned to change my diamonds every day.

Twisting my mlons man

miss silby

― Week of Wonders (Ross), Saturday, October 7, 2017 4:02 PM (two weeks ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

silby still posts every day + is active on twitter

― flopson, Saturday, October 7, 2017 4:23 PM (two weeks ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

God, is it really every day?

lol--sorry! i read that post, was like, huh? coulda sworn i've seen them around, and did a search and u had posted the previous 2 days

it always takes me a while to notice when anyone has cut down or quit

still nice to be missed though right? :)

I miss "If Timi Yuro would be still alive..." and love it whenever I run across one of his posts. RIP.

Everyone here has been transformative.

Elvis otm

I miss "If Timi Yuro would be still alive..." and love it whenever I run across one of his posts. RIP.

A great guy. Very glad I got to meet him a couple of times thanks to the Pop Con.

in the interest of not just listing all the ppl i read ilx for / am friendly with on a personal level, im just gonna say tim f

same

Thirded

tim is yoga flame.

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i keep writing tl;drs (true love doctors) here and then deleting them, so instead this is the quick summary: ilx is more of a "community" for me than just about any irl community. in certain ways that is endlessly rewarding, and i don't even want to know how many times i click the ilx bookmark everyday. it is weird. it's too much. when i think about transformative effects it's not so much one person or group of people that i think of, or a specific thread, but just the overall influence of what i'm reading and thinking and talking about all the time with you all. true <3 doctors

with all that said, big ups to pplains. dr casino said something about pplains' "finest hour" on the steely dan thread today, and my first thought was "more like pplains finest year, with 8760 one-hour blocks, each one featuring a pplains greatest hit. god, 8760 hours isn't really that long for a year, i really expected the number to be higher."

also: if you're having a bad day and need something to lift your spirits, check out the only song by The Bonzai Predicament. it is really good:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X7odcV25sHg

seriously, put that song on if you're ever feeling down. i just listened to it for the 4th time today and literally spilled coffee all over myself and my couch

Probably me tbh