AGING PARENTS

One of his inner circle is a prominent Boston lawyer so I think that'll help. But yeah it's gonna be hard

Very sad, Jon. I'm sorry.

so my dad killed himself thursday afternoon

so sorry to hear that mookie <3

Ugh. So sorry. How old was he? Had he been depressed? Maybe this stuff is already upthread.

oh no mookie

sorry for your loss

Good lord. Deepest condolences, sir.

he had a (easy for me to say, but relatively mild) stroke in september. then pneumonia four weeks ago, which involved a week with a breathing tube down his throat. he'd just gotten out of the rehab hospital on wednesday. the pneumonia had pretty much wiped out whatever gains he'd made since the stroke.

i mean, i understand. he was 81; it's not like he had a bright future ahead even if he regained the ability to drive/ride his bike/whatever.

but he shot himself in the fucking eye in my mom's basement while she was upstairs. so she found him gushing blood all over the floor, had to call 911, had to tell the EMTs to let him die, had to deal with the cops' initial suspicion that she'd shot him, and held on to the idea for a full day that it might somehow have been an accident.

i can't sleep because i keep thinking about her voice when she called me.

i mean he was a great guy and i love(d) him and i know it's textbook to get pissed off but that's just so fucking wrong

tbf he always hated holidays; i guess he got his revenge on thanksgiving

Sorry, man. <3 to you and your mom

i’m so sorry mookie, that is awful. <3

Oh mookie, I’m sorry.

thx guys. guess i got through denial pretty quickly

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jeez mook, so sorry to hear this. <3 back to you. good luck to you and your mom.

love to you, mookie. I'm so sorry to read this.

Really sorry to hear this, mookie

Sorry to hear about all of this. Death is not easy in any form.

jesus, sorry bud. i'll be thinking of you and your mom.

I'm very sorry Mookie, that is dreadful. Thinking of you and your mom.

I am so sorry, Mookie, thinking of you and your family.

really sorry to hear that - i hope that you and your family can manage to cope.

Damn, sorry Mookie.

Sorry mooks

i emailed you but am bumping this thread again just to say how sorry i am that you and your mom are going through this. i woke up thinking about your mom.

I don’t even know what to say. I’m so sorry, mookie, and have been thinking about you and your mom <3

so sorry mookie<3

Wow so sorry to hear about this.

<3 you, mookie

Mookie I can't believe you had the wherewithal to post an anti-Blackhawks link for me since this happened. Take care of yourself and your family; my deepest sympathies.

Sorry to hear this, Mookie

I'm also lost for words. All my love though <3

So sorry to hear, mookie.

I'm really sorry you and your mom are going through this, mookie.

Awful stuff, mookie. I'm so sorry.

This is just awful. I’m so sorry for you and your mom, mookie.

Mookie, I have (almost) no words either, apart from condolences to you and your mother at what must be a very confusing and sad time.

thanks ilxors <3 <3 <3

thinking of you mookie
prob don’t need to say it but obv feel free to let off steam/stress here as the days go on
i know the post-death arrangements & stuff can be p stressful

jeez, sorry man

it probably doesn't mean much but s sorry for you and your mom - truly tragic. I can only second advice upthread to try to let off steam and get some fresh air out of the house, as much as the situation allows it.

yeah i really just want to stop thinking about it, but that doesn't seem to be an option

you're carrying about as heavy a load as anyone could stagger under right now. just know it's going to take you a long time to process all the thoughts and feelings from this. and you don't always have to be the 'strong one'.

geez no kidding -- and it really does help alleviate some of the persistent thoughts to talk about it.

^^

mookie, I'm still thinking of you and your mom. LL's thought is one of the things I was thrashing around trying to say - she has pinpointed the reason.

having been there, I can only say what I hope I or somebody said at the time: squint at how desperate he must have been to do that, whether it was a sudden impulse, reaction, decision, or however long he'd thought about it--how desperate, incl. knowing on some level how he would leave y'all to deal with the consequences---but now he's beyond his desperation and misery.

But if you're to some degree angry, I don't blame you at all.

ugh... so sorry mookie.

Just saw this, mook. How awful. I'm very sorry for you and your mom.

Same here, hang in there.