Words, usages, and phrases that annoy the shit out of you...

I love 'like marmite'

"Wonk"

?

Wonk is better/more meaningful when you realise it's 'know', backwards.

I think it should be changed to "wonkers."

sreknow the terrible

http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2004/08/09/adams

"<name>, go home, you're drunk"....

"<city>, i am in you"

yes, it sounds like you're fucking a municipality, we get it

hangry.

Self care

self care is a real thing!
it means taking care of yourself

what else do you want people to call it?

sure beats PAMPERING
i loathe the word pamper

it's also not the same thing as caring for oneself

self care is a real thing!
it means taking care of yourself

what else do you want people to call it?

Masturbation.

nothing wrong with that either

la lechera otm not sure what else to call it!

it may be overused but "self-care" is a useful term

super useful, and important in shifting us OUT of the language of "pampering" which infantilizes yourself when what you want is a word that conveys that no, fuck you, attending to these needs is genuinely important to my emotional well-being and I am consciously in control of that project.

imo it's irritating when used as a "do things that will give me immediate gratification" placeholder

that is a very small piece of the puzzle and I do find it irritating when used that way, although I am also not qualified to judge how other may best care for themselves

pamper and spoil can both gtfo as ways to indicate "treat yourself well"

cleanse
detox
the cult of splendor and cleanliness will implode someday and all we will have left is the relatively benign "self care"

I have no argument with the sentiment and agree that it's a relatively benign and accurate term on its own; it also is much better than any of the alternate phrases used here - detox, pamper, spoil, etc.

I just started seeing it very suddenly and frequently, often used to excuse something indulgent and/or for immediate gratification (not that there's anything wrong with it), and in a public, performative manner, like "look how BUSY I am all the time, time for some self care" that feels martyr-ish and attention-seeking to me.

if so, it's the performance that annoys, not the word
fight the real enemy!

acceptable under the second world of the title imo

word, rather

alright i'll buy that
glad we've cleared this up

Tinkle (only when referring to pee)

la lechera OTM re self care

Every usage ive seen of self care has made me want to claw out eyeballs

Other than that im glad people find it useful

I posted "radical self-care" upthread. I'm sure it had some kind of legitimate origin, but it almost implies that not neglecting yourself is, in itself, political, rather than maybe just one of many prerequisites to being effective politically.

audre lorde thinks not neglecting yourself is political

http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mc7pq0dXQZ1qzyo7n.jpg

if i had a son i would, for as long as it took, instruct him on the very simple difference between a dress and a skirt. i would not launch him into the world not knowing this.

No dressing around the issue

I didn't post it to this thread, but I have given in and started using 'puppers' to refer to my dogs. Someone I know and respect used it about a month ago and inside I was so mad at her. Then, this morning it just slipped out while I was putting the dog food down and I guess now I'm over my hatred.

Upthread Phil D mentions 'doggo' which I will remain steadfastly against.

It's a slippery slope

HAMM: Did you get him?
CLOV: Looks like it. (He drops the tin and adjusts his trousers.) Unless he's laying doggo.
HAMM: Laying! Lying, you mean. Unless he's lying doggo.
CLOV: Ah? One says lying? One doesn't say laying?
HAMM: Use your head, can't you. If he was laying we'd be bitched.

I posted "radical self-care" upthread. I'm sure it had some kind of legitimate origin,

i think i may have posted it too. mine was in response to a Broad City article where they were fighting back against the horrible political apocalypse we live in by buying shit

doggo, pupper, all of it drives me batty

Watching educational youtube videos with my kid, I have to say that the new usage of "myth" to mean "thing which is basically true but hey I'm going to impress you by telling you some minor nuanced or that some experts say it is slightly different" drives me up the fucking wall.

Not to put too fine a point on it, people use affectionate nicknames for those they love and dogs are not excluded from this process. But just as it is faintly disgusting to hear "sweetie-kins" or "sugar pie" used aloud in a public space, people saying "puppers" ought to have the decency to use it only within earshot of their beloved.

audre lorde thinks not neglecting yourself is political

http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mc7pq0dXQZ1qzyo7n.jpg

― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Friday, September 8, 2017 11:08 PM (fourteen hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Yeah I think I remember this now and it's in the context of the idea that when society wants to oppress you, push you down and destroy you, even caring for yourself is fighting back. I think. Like many things that come out of radical political theory it filtered down into the twittersphere and seems like it became a buzzword for soft college kids who can't even. Like people asking each other what their self-care routines were and including stuff like massage and fancy teas, where it's just hard to believe that that's what Lords meant. But I guess you never really know who someone is from twitter so maybe it's better to give them the benefit of the doubt.

That also reminds me of another thing that occurred to me recently about the left and twitter, which is that the left has this bad tendency to take terms from academia and use them (often not that well) in everyday discourse that doesn't really make for good messaging.

some ppl I know who use it on twitter etc. are survivors of abuse or other trauma, who are not public about that, tho some of their readers are friends who will know the context for the self-care point. so yeah, not assuming too much abt ppl online is as good a point as always.

good messaging (!)

I'm getting annoyed at myself for using "Thanks for the heads up" too often in emails at work. "Thanks for the advance notice" sounds awkward, and "Thanks for the warning" sounds sarcastic, but I haven't come up with another option besides those three.

Thanks

or if it’s really about the timing, “thanks, I needed this for X meeting next week”

if i had a son i would, for as long as it took, instruct him on the very simple difference between a dress and a skirt. i would not launch him into the world not knowing this.

I sell clothes for a living, and I work with someone who I am not entirely sure knows the difference between the two.

idk it’s not that difficult, sheesh

it's easy

dress is what you do to a turkey

skirt is a kind of steak