Words, usages, and phrases that annoy the shit out of you...

has every major social movement been criticized for being nasty spiteful jerks tho?

On original topic - Juno probe's view of the Great Red Spot occasioned the programme director to use the atavistic "up close and personal", upon which I discovered my 90s/00s rage against that phrase is intact.

xp .... almost certainly?

Yeah idk about that ducking criticism behind "we are just too great our detractors are the reactionaries of history" isn't too great a look esp when there's evidence that you suck sitting right there like jacobins don't get to say sure the pile of heads but all of history the movers get backtalk

I'm not an activist but it's still obvious to me that a lot of discourse around social change follows predictable patterns & moderates telling radicals they'd have more luck and be more persuasive if only they'd be nicer is one of them. the politics of civility is obviously fraught (cf. plenty of ilx threads about rudeness, FP &c.) partly because it is another arena in which the same old class/political antagonisms are fought out in another guise. I think there is something gross and harmful in the crude trigger-happy piety that call-out culture can be at its worst, but the real social and political gulfs that it exposes seem like the more important issues to focus on

It's probably been upthread and on other threads but I'm really sick of people using "experts" as a dirty word. It's one of the ones that bothers me the most.

I can never take that word seriously after the experts exchange website

(it was an early google search optimized site for IT-related questions but their original domain was, no shit, expertsexchange.com)

the politics of civility is obviously fraught (cf. plenty of ilx threads about rudeness, FP &c.)

imo, ilx discourse on rudeness and the existence of FPs has little to do with politics and everything to do with personal rudeness that rises to the level of disgusting savagery. iow, the verbal equivalent of spitting or pissing on someone, and usually over opinions that are never on the order of neo-Nazism, white supremacy or similar causes that might justify such raw abuse.

xp

OK, so I'm biassed because I have (almost) consistently received highly qualified and accurate answers from E-E experts. Of those that were not quite so accurate or satisfactory, part of the blame was attributable to me not being specific enough in the way I structured my question.

That brings me to my point. If you ask a question poorly, then expect a poor answer.

Ask a question about horticulture in the equine care forum, and you will get pretty poor answers.

xp that sounds political to me! the people who oppose FP obviously do not see it just in terms of personal rudeness. etiquette and behavioural norms are politically & socially charged, that's implicit in your idea that it might be ok to break decorum for political reasons under some circumstances.

You can criticize someone in private. I think most people have found that if you want to get a positive impact from criticism you should do it in private and in very soft, kind tones. Callout culture is angry public denouncement.

Okay, but then should we not bother to post here and discuss articles in newspapers that analyse and critique government policies, etc? As in, you'd agree that there's a something else that is neither private personal criticism (agree this is the way to get a person to improve) nor public twitter callouts?

as we're recycling old conversations I should point out again that every major social movement has had moderates tell them they were putting ppl off with their strident tone

Yus

But also to open this one out a bit - e.g. - abolitionists would break into private property in order to free slaves; moderates of the time would criticise them for them going so far in following their ideals that they broke the law; looking back on it the slavery was clearly so bad as to more or less handwave the breaking and entering of slaver's plantations in order to end it and also it wouldn't have ended without direct action. I don't know what would be the equivalent of actually breaking into plantations to free slaves, for today's callout culture?

What I'm saying is, sure, almost every social movement got tone-policing from moderates, but that tone-policing looks silly in proportion to how much those movements actually achieved. Whereas if the twitter callouts don't achieve anything (I have no idea if they do! I don't know enough about it to say) then mebbe the tone critique is more valid?

xxpz Correct. Those are not the only two options. Criticizing powerful public figures in the press or whatever is a different beast entirely.

Shot, chaser

I... worked on this story for a year... and he... he just tweeted it out

Sooooo, I wrote a thing :)

I'm thinking now that a lot of the problem with some of this terminology today is that it's not specific enough, maybe doesn't have enough additions and variants.

You get people essentially saying

"It's only political correctness when I don't like it"

Or

"It's not cultural appropriation when I think it's okay"

"tone police"

Essentially anything that means "it's ok when I do it"

flappy bird getting back to the core, the heart usage

Yeah 'Tone policing' may be a loaded term itself I guess.

Overall, feels like having good control of tone is a great skill, definitely something to try and get locked down if you want to achieve anything, but also maybe something that can be very difficult, considering the varied nature of the 'audience' even when the audience is just another person face to face, and more so when the audience is online (millions of readers all with their own tendencies); and so the expectation that people express themselves with precision and an ear for how it's going to go over may sometimes be questionable imo

All that said I don't disagree that an awful lot of twitter callouts (that I've seen around anyway) have been pretty cloth-eared

(Although the large number of people who with great reliability come out with reactions such as 'Black lives matter? What about white lives, why are you saying white lives don't matter???' 'Women's rights, what, don't men have rights???' are themselves heading into supremely cloth-eared territory, no?)

flappy bird getting back to the core, the heart usage

they always stick me in the appendix because they don't think i'm the pretty one

"My arms and wrists are numb." God would people just shut the fuck up already?

Thats a phrase?

Don't forget "my face and lips are numb."

i'm old and am sick of political neologisms in the first place. oh, if we use new words maybe people won't notice that they're the same fucking ideas and we don't have to address the problematic implications of those ideas!

more political discourse should be framed in reference to issues surrounding the defenestration of prague. and that's my uncool conservative idea.

my mouth is dry
my face is numb
fucked up and spun out in my room
on my own, here we go

How much is Twitter responsible for the current political terminology? I wish people would only use it for links and signal boosting because I hate trying to work out if people are complaining about white women or Wonder Woman (WW acronym).

it all comes from Twitter

an abridged collection:

BOOM!
#NotTheOnion
Shot; chaser
I'm just going to leave this here...
(((if you're Jewish)))
Sigh
Your long read for the day:

BOOM!
Shot; chaser

What do these mean? Is the first one just for humorous dramatic effect?

yes, "humor"

at least an attempt at it

"nothing burger"

that one is bizarre because it came out of a specific cable news channel, MSNBC iirc. their attempt to "get on the same page" like Fox does with every issue & talking point...

I'm at the point where I cant follow what is being said sometimes - and I'm someone who is on the internet 94/7 - but because I dont fuck with Twitter/Insta I think i'm missing this weird "thing becomes a saying after 5.2 seconds" idea.

lol i love "94/7" intended or not. gonna use that one if you don't mind

Its an old ILXism actually!

(or maybe not but back in the day Ally and co used it a lot and it stuck with me)

sick, it rules, it's in the lexicon

"i'm screaming"

OMFG yes that gives me hives, that one.

NO. NO YOU ARE NOT SITTING THERE SCREAMING AT YOUR PC/PHONE. YOU JUST AREN'T.

(and if you are, get help, nothing online is that hysterical)

also the insane abuse and misuse of "literally" before and after it was modified in the fucking dictionary

Man, if I hear/see 'Winter is coming' one more time...

fucking otm, it's like we're all supposed to care about game of thrones

i feel that way about whovians so ymmv

yes but the world isn't soaking with constant "the daleks are coming" pissweak memes

Exactly