straight people going to gay bars/clubs: is this bullshit?

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Please Mommy, don't tell me any more stories about Daddy at the gay club!

straight man who loves teh gays:

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My experiences going to gay bars as a straight guy is that it's by and large totally chill. That being said, if gay dudes were to resent my presence there in some big way (which has never happened, as far as I can tell), then I would be inclined to not argue and respect their wishes to have a space where they don't have to deal with the "straight" world during their leisure time...esp. if they happen to live somewhere that is less receptive to gay culture overall. Everyone deserves some kind of sanctuary from bullshit.

going to gay bars is usually pretty fun, except i got dragged to some weird warehouse called the eagle once where there were dudes in leather chaps and masks and i heard some dude say "eew, women" -- I WAS OUTTA THERE PRETTY QUICKLIKE

being said, if gay dudes were to resent my presence there in some big way (which has never happened, as far as I can tell)

We only do this if you're ugly.

Maybe it has something to do with patrons' ages? My most extensive experience in a gay bar involved going there with an ex-girlfriend, in part b/c oftentimes the environment there seemed less annoying somehow than other local "straight" places. I wouldn't classify her as a "fag hag", whatever that means, in any sense, but the guys there always treated her awesomely.

Oh, the part I forgot to post is that the patrons of this particular place were largely middle-aged.

i think it's a good bet that if any bar has the word "eagle" in the title it's a leather daddy bar

as long as they don't mind being hit on in a civilized way.

-- Dr Morbius, Wednesday, 30 January 2008 09:21 (51 minutes ago) Bookmark Link

^^^ this

Straight guys who go to gay bars and WHINE LIKE BABIES because some guy groped them in the arse c/d

some gay/lesbian bars are fun (in SF I dig the Eagle and El Rio and used to enjoy Kimo's). Some I have no interest in but always chuckle at their "risque" names (the Men's Room, the Midnight Sun, Look Daddy's Coming, Moby Dick, etc.)

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I think it depends on the situation. There are bars I don't tend to want to go to: lesbian pick-up bars where I feel distinctly unappreciated on a Saturday, say, or gay pick-up bars where I end up having to fend off lots of inquiries without looking like I'm a rubbernecker or otherwise causing offense, but that's often more a function of the day and time than the bar itself and if I'm there with a bunch of gay friends, I figure I'm a 'guest' and I don't care if anybody takes offense. I also think that it depends on your behavior. I don't get grossed out by dudes kissing on the dance floor or talking dirty or checking people out or hitting on me, for that matter, if there not louts about it, or going off to do drugs together or whatever, so I don't feel that I'm sullying anybody's sanctuary.

There's a place near me called The Dick Liquor. Sadly it's nothing to do with the gays.

Kimo's is gay?! I played there once and didn't notice. Or get laid.

I have arguably never been to a gay bar in Portland, but I'm told I'm not missing much. Still that might give you a sense of my take on this "issue", if you couldn't already guess.

Kimo's is old skool gay for sure. I don't go there, however, as the owner is a completely creepy pervy voyeur who has a security camera system that's wired TO HIS HOME where he can keep an eye on the bar's patrons 24/7. I am not kidding.

pics

Looks like he's trying to sell.

http://www.kimosbar.com/

omg Embarchie there's a ton of punchable stuff on that link that is completely ignorable because of NAZI WOLF

My impression of Kimo's was that it was more of a sort of transexual bar or something? But maybe I'm confabulating it with other Polk St. institutions.

I just wish that Hemlock Tavern had opened up under the old-school Giraffe name. That signage rules.

Some I have no interest in but always chuckle at their "risque" names (the Men's Room, the Midnight Sun, Look Daddy's Coming, Moby Dick, etc.)

Best gay bar logo in SF: the Pendulum.

NB: Paper-bag test = do you have to put a paper bag over their head when you hump them?

what about straight guys who go to gay bars to pick up chicks?

i mentioned it!

we used to dance at the gay/lesbian bar quite a bit... it's a better place to go to dance and not be bothered imho. but this was like a dance club in a lot of ways.

i guess my question might be... the bar, is the sole purpose hooking up? or can a person just be getting a drink and being out around people?

kimo's and hemlock i mostly just know for some of the more nutty rock/art shows i've seen. (which ain't sayin too much probably... never did get to see extreme elvis do his thing. nice guy tho.)
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When you straight guys get back from the gay bars, tell me what they're like.

the only thing i love more than dancing to diva house is pussy

-- max, Tuesday, January 29, 2008 4:38 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Link

max otm ftw

Any chicago folks go to that club by Belmont called Berlin ever?? that place is a fuckin party

Hey, Eric, let's hang out and do anything other than go to gay bars.

i love u max

Straight people are not allowed to go to this gay bar:

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How do they regulate it? Is there a gay breath test or something?

Yes. Does your breath smell like cock? Then you're in.

I've never felt unwelcome in gaybars/night clubs. Should I be?

The one I've been to most (quite a famous establishment in Brisbane) has mirrors behind all the urinals so everything's on show. Is this common?

I've heard of that one, so probably not.

I'm going to Melbourne's big gay street parade on Sunday. Will take cock breath spray just in case.

Is that midsumma fest?

yer.

Why bother with the breath spray? Actual cock is surely more fun.

Costs more in this area

Are you in bizarro world, where the blowjob recipient gets paid to endure the blowjob?

Wait

My god, you're right.

There's a gay pub just over the road from my flat. It stays open later than the other places in our area, so my boyfriend and I sometimes pop over for a quick late drink. One of our downstairs neighbours works behind the bar. It's a pub not bar, so it's pretty chilled and not especially hook-uppy. It's much friendlier than the pub opposite it, where they look askance at you if you have all your own teeth.

On Saturday a female friend and I were taken to a transvestite/ transgendered club. That was a hook-up joint, but no one minded us being there, several people asked if we'd consider going again. I've never felt quite so short in my entire life though.

That said I don't consider it a right of mine to be able to prance into any given bar or club - establishments make their own rules, written or unwritten - people generally want to hang out with those who share a roughly similar mind set. It's about decoding the signals the place is sending. Dress code and music policy play as big a part in this as anything else. There are certain gay nights I wouldn't go to as a straight woman and I don't go to other places because I'm not a teenager and others yet again because I don't like sports, don't work in the City, am not a goth etc.

I don't know if this has been covered above as such, but:

Back in the day, my wife would go to gay clubs with friends, as it was one place they wouldn't get hit on by blokes all the time. Of course, they'd bump into other friends and it would be all "you?" "No" "Me neither"...

Why bother with the breath spray? Actual cock is surely more fun.
-- Casuistry, Wednesday, 30 January 2008 07:30 (3 hours ago) Bookmark Link

where do you think the cock breath spray comes from?