"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

Oh, THANK FUCK.

thank u for this info! getting app updates is really the only thing i hate about fb

except everyone is using slightly different versions of the same app.

I don't think that matters for LivingSocial, which is by far the worst offender.

Is there a way I can hide quiz results and dumb virtual gift giving?

Er, that's exactly what Salsa Shark is talking about. Click on Hide next to the shit in your news feed; tell it to hide that application. Repeat for everything that crops up and annoys you.

unfortunately it seems that each quiz is its own app

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Yeh, I'm beginning to notice this. Christ's teeth.

One of the more surreal features social networking has brought to our lives is the articulation of all kinds of social decisions. And by that I mean that before the enlightened age of the internet, when you no longer wanted to be friends with somebody or something like that, there was no conscious decision or effort behind it, necessarily. You just stopped trying to engage them, meet with them, keep up with how they are etc. You both just drifted apart, or something essentially vague and mutual - no responsibility for the friendship ending and thus no one's fault. This also left the door open for potential reconciliation ("I would've called you but I lost your number, let's hang out again soon"). But Facebook has made things weird, where now you formally have to think about whether someone deserves the "friend" label or, more intriguing, if someone deserves to be "de-friended." An articulated judgment takes place now.

It'd odd because if you're the kind of person that likes to keep a lean friends list e.g. you simply don't like the idea of that one eccentric co-worker you knew for about a week in 2006 keeping tabs on your social life via FB - you have to actually take a moment to consider the person in question in all their completeness and gauge the worth of keeping them as e-friends before purging them from your friends roster. It's all so weird!

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Cunga speaks much truth. On the other hand, Facebook hones one's skill at insincere capitulation.

Ok, so how is Facebook recommending friends to me who are people that I know, but that I have no mutual friends with and no Facebook link with whatsoever?

Email contacts?

My mum was on the people you may know thing this morning o_O I can only assume cos she's an email contact. She's not facebook friends with my sister or anything and we don't even have the same surname! Spoooooky.

Yeah that must be it. The person is in my gmail contacts list, but I haven't used the friend finder feature on Facebook since I first signed up, well over a year ago. Has it had all my email contact details in its database since then, and been checking them periodically?

That's what I figured, yeah

I've always read this thread title as, "I don;t have a girlfriend and I'm a bit embarassed by that, so can I pretend you're my girlfriend when I post to facebook".

Is that just me?

chick was flirtin with me at work this weekend. left me a note w/name & number & instructed me to facebook her. have done so and it appears she is married.

lO_O_O_O_O_O_O_O_Ol

can i say i'm cuckolding your husband on facebook?

Is that just me?

No, me too.

And now that I think about it I remember getting a "Let's ironically pretend we're in a relationship," offer from a former co-worker, which was awkward because I had to politely say no to that idea.

"I don;t have a girlfriend and I'm a bit embarassed by that, so can I pretend you're my girlfriend when I post to facebook".

I thought that was the point?

But Facebook has made things weird, where now you formally have to think about whether someone deserves the "friend" label or, more intriguing, if someone deserves to be "de-friended." An articulated judgment takes place now.

Eh I havent let it change things that way for me. I just dont acknowledge people who added me if I dont know them/dont rly want to keep up with them. In fact I've done the "hide" thing on a few people, though thats mainly because they were constantly posting reams of crap. They dont need to know I'm not interested anymore and its not like they're trying to keep in touch. I do wonder why some people add you and then never say a word again. I rly should clear off a bunch of such people I suppose.

But anyone taking it as a personal affront is a bit... silly, aren't they?

But anyone taking it as a personal affront is a bit... silly, aren't they?

It is silly, I think, but the system behind social networking is so bureaucratized - and that is what's interesting and weird to me.

For instance, someone whom I thought I was still on really good terms with but hadn't talked to in almost two years wasn't dropping down from my friends list (meaning they either de-friended me or they're no longer on the site - and it was a case of former as it turned out).

What's interesting was that this friend, someone I knew at college that recently graduated, figures they'll probably never see me or contact me again (which was plausible) and so the online friendship was terminated like a business contract. It isn't the notion that the friendship was over that's worthy of discussion here (we probably wouldn't have seen each other again unless it was a school reunion tbh) but that its dissolution was articulated by one party for the other to see.

I'd argue that the single, most bizarre thing to come from social networking sites is the idea of writing down everything that was previously unwritten.

the list of girls i've banged remains unpublished.

i started posting way too many youtube videos. my husband actually started doing it (and is waaaay better than me at doing this, better music and better longterm span i think)

also, i was talking with our salesperson about facebook. i explained what it was and stuff. (we have mutual acquaintance who "accidently" changed his status to single) she seemed to not have a clue what facebook is. other day i was talking with her husband. he shows me his iphone (and gazillion apps he downloaded - who the fuck has four pages of apps?). so i notice he's on facebook. oO

lol try this: go to your facebook page, scroll all the way down, click on English (US) and change it to English (Pirate). amusing!

for the last few days, facebook keeps freaking me out by suggesting i add an ex-girlfriend as a friend. i don't know if she just joined it or what, but suddenly she's in the "people you may know" matrix. eeps.

cant you just delete the suggestion? maybe fb senses you can get it working again?

you can totally delete it.

the list of girls i've banged remains unpublished.

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At my old house (which was slated for demolition to make way for condos) we used to write on the walls of our smoking room with Sharpies, and one wall was a tally of how many people each person in the house had slept with. My male roommate: total manwhore.

I have had a couple of messages from ilxors suggesting I visit sweet.be. I understand this is fb virus/bug thing. I know we're all too savvy to actually go to sweet.be and put our fb password in but just so you know...

you can totally delete it.

How does one do this? (it's probably totally obvious, sorry)

I click the X when it's someone I don't know or don't want to but it still comes back a few days later.

I'd probably rather the whole "people you might know" thing got disposed of anyway cos it's led to me drunkenly adding lots of people I'm tangentally friends with and then I get anxious wondering if they think I'm a stalker/some annoying person who friends everyone they've ever met/etc although this time I did reconnect with someone who was a really good friend 10 years ago when I lived in another town and we're probably going to meet up for drinks so I guess it does have some uses.

I am pretty sure that Facebook indicates somehow that you found the person through "People You Might know". Not 100% sure though but I do remember seeing on my feeds activity amongst friends with that note.

So is the recent uptick in viruses just among my FB friends? Or has there been a huge increase overall? I've gotten those virus messages from about 13 different friends over the past week or so.

i've been getting alot of that stuff from people over msn over the last few months.

OK. I tried to make a profile for my Dad at his request a couple months ago. For whatever reason it didn't work but tonight he popped up under my People You May Know thing. So, I accepted him. Well, he must have figured out how to sign in because I just looked at his profile and his current status is:

George B: hi erica i am on faceebook but my birthday is march 1944
24 minutes ago · Comment · Like

(It was listed as April 1944)

LOL

"people you might know" on fb recommended an ilxor to me today

I am currently friends with 0 ilxors or people who even know what ilx is

this is some creepy matrix type shit

where u at dude?

I'm around! I'll be at the girls rock benefit @ mwm on sat if you're down for that. there will be a special guest appearence by ms e3...

At what point is someone a "girlfriend"?

I feel like you have to have the what are we conversation (as awkward as that may be) before you can officially call her that.

my gf is currently "engaged" to her best friend and there is no indication that will be coming to an end anytime soon.

I know a relatively new interracial couple that's in their early 20s. The younger black girl has 'in a relationship' with no designated boyfriend while the older white guy doesn't have his relationship status listed (but the status was quite specific when his gf was a beautiful blonde). I shouldn't stick my nose in other people's business (though that's the raison d'etre of Facebook) but I wonder if there's a racial or ageist dynamic in how they're (not) advertising their courtship - or how one half of a couple isn't advertising.

my gf is currently "engaged" to her best friend and there is no indication that will be coming to an end anytime soon.

What do we make of girls who make every other status update about their (platonic) love for one of their friends? Kinda cute, or creepy?

I've deliberately left my relationship status blank since my last relationship ended so I don't have to have the 'can I de-single myself yet' conversation again next time.

My best friend and I have been facebook-married since before facebook was available at most colleges, let alone public. We haven't bothered changing it when we actually get into real relationships. Just another way of putting "none of your business," I guess. (I have had a couple people think it was serious, but I've also had date requests via facebook, so it can't put people off THAT much.)

I made my relationship status blank again recently, not because I'm not committed or anything, just that I don't want to subject my girlfriend to all the click-throughs from every idiot from school that I don't even like very much.