My momma made me learn this song: a gay Winter for 2015

Yay happiness!

We're having some gays over to dinner tonight. First time we've actually entertained in the new place!

have fun!

i'm having a very welcome wintery day at home = tea and music and spices oh my

which spices tho, girl?

the right ones :-) a tinge of orange, and a tinge of green, and some musk for aroma

yay Scalia is dead yay

let's party

actually i might! i've been tooling around with a song all day and there's a party goin' on and i'm not dead so i'm thinkinnnnnnng maybe it's time to brace the cold

stevie: DC, for a conference

lol surm I definitely don't have it all together but I'm finally feeling like things are looking up for me and my life actually has some direction, however vague it may be.

the cassoulet dinner was extremely good, hope everyone had a good v-day if you're the observant sort.

joined a new gym & i think the place is kinda cruisy. saw a guy cranking off in the shower on only my 2nd visit there. my friend who's a member says the sauna is occasionally, uh, busy

that's fun :-) i'm sort in the same boat as you. i like it.

did I mention here that my relationship has been opening up lately? probably. i can't remember. anyway, i've been in my feelings about that today.

oh! how is it going? v interested.

YES HOW IS IT GOING????

We've each messed around separately a couple times, as yet only with people we're already acquainted with. And there's been a lot of talking about it, exhaustively so, which is good. It's new and adventuresome and occasionally confusing and bewildering but so far so good.

As I have already told Steve, I had a really great date with a friend last night.

There are a couple things that I'm working through around the whole thing, one of which is being receptive to sexual attention from guys other than my partner without feeling embarrassed or guilty about it. I've still got my fair share of hangups but I'm glad for the chance to confront them at the very least

that's very cool :-) it all sounds p good so far! and again, any questions, i've already asked myself all of them soooo i'm around :P

In general tho I'm just feeling like I'm going through a second puberty -- I'm on meds that have cranked my libido to 11 and I'm exploring my sexuality in a way I never really got the chance to before. Anyway, I know its probably not very interesting to anybody else but me but this all has been taking up a large part of my consciousness lately so thanks for letting me barf up my feelings here

Hi gays! Glad this thread was bumped, because I have some feelings of my own that I feel like barfing up...

The husband and I going to an event tomorrow night where there will be a lot of people--friends of my family, mainly--that I haven't seen in years and in some cases, since I was a little kid. I expect it'll be fun and nostalgic for the most part, but I just realized that I will, in effect, be coming out all over again to many of these people. This should be nbd, of course, as I've been out to my family and friends for years now, but as I go around introducing lots of people to my husband tomorrow night, I'm feeling like I'm gonna be reliving the whole process all over again. My coming out was hardly traumatic, as many people's are, so maybe I should just shut up about this and deal with my (very mild) discomfort, but it is still a weird feeling. I suspect that a lot of heteros--and even a lot of homos, etc, before they actually experience it--think that coming out is this one shot thing where once your out, your out to the world, but it really is a process of coming out over and over and over again. Anyone else feel this way?

The continuous project of "coming out" socially doesn't really feel like a problem for me but I do find myself paying attention whenever I first mention "my boyfriend" to see how it plays. In general I think it's easier when your partner is present or when you have a partner you can bring up in conversation. Surely part of that is just expedient -- you have someone else you can easily, organically refer to that gives your identity that context -- but I also think maybe it's easier to "come out" as part of a couple. "We're gay, together" is more socially palatable than "I, myself, am gay."

Good point! Having a boyfriend/husband to introduce immediately takes care of a lot of dancing around the issue. Though I still expect to be doing a lot of reading of facial expressions to gauge reactions.

hi everyone. i haven't been on the boards in forever but i wandered by to talk about music and figured i should say hi and i miss you all and hope you're well.

i've been in Toronto for 19 months, and single for 20 (which has been awesome, mostly. ignoring boys altogether has been really healthy tbh after two consecutive long term relationships that both ended poorly), and unemployed for 6-7 months but ~fingers crossed~ that looks like it could be changing soon finally (maybe, i shouldn't jinx it). i took over the lease in the apartment I was subletting a few months ago and painted the whole place and it feels almost like home, so maybe 2016 will be a good year? it's too early to tell.

i still haven't figured out how to date in this city, and for a while most of my friends here were straight folks which literally hadn't happened since these threads started - it was all very "I have no gay friends in town" but I turned a bad date into a good friend last summer and then met a bunch of awesome queer women and then recently met some neighbourhood gays who gather every month or two to make DUMPLINGS! and whatnot.

i don't know why the board ALL CAPSed the word DUMPLINGS!. is this a board thing I've forgotten about in my time away?

apparently so.

DUMPLINGS!

Sorry, I had to test for myself. Weird.

Also, hi Alex!

hello Alex! have missed you

hi, Alex!

DUMPLINGS! always deserve all caps, rarely do i think about them without that level of enthusiasm

hi gays let's have leek DUMPLINGS!

http://drinks.seriouseats.com/images/2011/08/20110815leekDUMPLINGS!.jpg

http://drinks.seriouseats.com/images/2011/08/20110815leekDUMPLINGS!.jpg

http://amybsherman.com/images/brusselssproutDUMPLINGS!.JPG

argh

tbh i'm not as into DUMPLINGS! as all my friends are! but hi Alex :) !!

i basically eat two things: french fries and pasta.

also Alfred i know i've been bad but i'll give you some juicy posts for tomorrow

my life is finally like not in shambles phew

hi gays let's have leek DUMPLINGS!!

Spring thread title.

ALEX!!!! Hi! Hello!!

i basically eat two things: french fries and pasta.

get back to us when you're 40, sweetz

omg ok

and if you're still slim we will HATE you :D

being slim doesn't look so great with age anyway you need a little color for fuck's sake

well i still don't have color, cept ive been kinda green all week with a choking cough. :/ It's finally turning uh 'productive.'

Also a week from Sunday i'm going to see Louis Garrel do a Q&A after the film he directed. Do you all have any... questions?

http://www.out.com/sites/out.com/files/2015/01/23/LouisGarrel-PFW.jpg

he is s0 cute

Louis, can you show me how you tongued Gaspard Ulliel in Saint Laurent? kthnkx

so like last night i got drunk but not too drunk but drunk, and i made myself dinner at like 2am, which consisted basically of an avocado salad and then rice krispies for dessert, and now i feel like i can't eat anything

i honestly just want cream cheese

that's all!

i've been a bit of a slut this past week, it seems. it's been fun.

This is fun too: http://www.spin.com/2016/02/sam-smith-howard-ashman-we-should-date-oscars-academy-awards-foot-in-mouth/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=twitter

feel like i've known a lot of sam smiths in my life

good for you patron sailor! i need to figure something out. i have a thing on Sunday with another guy w/ a BF \o_O/

j0rdan is never gonna get in the gay mafia after what he tweeted about the Oscar twinks last week.