SAME QUESTION HERE
― surm, Friday, 12 February 2016 21:25 (eight years ago) link
i'm figuring on working the hitchhiker out of a 70s horror movie look. think that'll attract dudes?
― surm, Friday, 12 February 2016 21:26 (eight years ago) link
Hi!!
My Valentines plans involve eating an unreasonable amount of cassoulet with my boyfriend and probably getting really gassy as a result. ROMANCE!!!
― gwyneth anger (patron sailor), Friday, 12 February 2016 22:15 (eight years ago) link
Anyway I am in a pretty good place this past month, I am on meds that are helping with my depression & ADHD symptoms, I'm back in therapy, I signed up for a foundation level drawing class at RISD, I'm working on a craft collaboration to incorporate my weaving with her jewelry design, my libido is WAY up, my relationship is strong, my dog is cute, and for the first time in forever I actually feel excited about plans & goals. I hope that my positivity doesnt come across as obnoxious but I just wanted to update with some good news.
― gwyneth anger (patron sailor), Friday, 12 February 2016 22:22 (eight years ago) link
that's so awesome. thanks for the update. nice to hear someone so holistically put together. i'm working on that :)
― surm, Friday, 12 February 2016 22:27 (eight years ago) link
hi everyone! omg hi
― police patrol felt the smell of smoke and found that goat burns (Stevie D(eux)), Friday, 12 February 2016 22:42 (eight years ago) link
:))
― surm, Friday, 12 February 2016 22:43 (eight years ago) link
updates:
― police patrol felt the smell of smoke and found that goat burns (Stevie D(eux)), Friday, 12 February 2016 22:50 (eight years ago) link
work!
― surm, Friday, 12 February 2016 22:52 (eight years ago) link
probably getting really gassy as a result
once on an out-of-town trip i had such bad gas that B woke up in the middle of the night and asked "...do you smell gas?" (as in, "is there a gas leak in our hotel room?")
glad to see some positivity/Making Things Happen itt - i've been feeling sort of excessively negative/grumpy about lots of things lately even tho things are mostly ok. this weird heat wave has lifted my spirits a bit, even though it prob shouldn't
we're going out of town next weekend for joint v-day/anniversary (the latter is the 26th but i'm going to be on the east coast) - we're staying here and i am very excited: http://www.madonnainn.com/
― donna rouge, Saturday, 13 February 2016 00:19 (eight years ago) link
ON THE EAST COAST YOU SAY????
― police patrol felt the smell of smoke and found that goat burns (Stevie D(eux)), Saturday, 13 February 2016 18:10 (eight years ago) link
i'm sorry i haven't been in the loop as i should have been these past couple of weeks! but i too am happy that happiness is in the air
― surm, Saturday, 13 February 2016 18:56 (eight years ago) link
Yay happiness!
We're having some gays over to dinner tonight. First time we've actually entertained in the new place!
― pitchforkian at best (cryptosicko), Saturday, 13 February 2016 19:02 (eight years ago) link
have fun!
― surm, Saturday, 13 February 2016 19:13 (eight years ago) link
i'm having a very welcome wintery day at home = tea and music and spices oh my
― surm, Saturday, 13 February 2016 19:49 (eight years ago) link
which spices tho, girl?
― police patrol felt the smell of smoke and found that goat burns (Stevie D(eux)), Saturday, 13 February 2016 21:20 (eight years ago) link
the right ones :-) a tinge of orange, and a tinge of green, and some musk for aroma
― surm, Saturday, 13 February 2016 21:21 (eight years ago) link
yay Scalia is dead yay
let's party
― the tune was space, Saturday, 13 February 2016 23:49 (eight years ago) link
actually i might! i've been tooling around with a song all day and there's a party goin' on and i'm not dead so i'm thinkinnnnnnng maybe it's time to brace the cold
― surm, Sunday, 14 February 2016 02:44 (eight years ago) link
stevie: DC, for a conference
― donna rouge, Sunday, 14 February 2016 18:16 (eight years ago) link
lol surm I definitely don't have it all together but I'm finally feeling like things are looking up for me and my life actually has some direction, however vague it may be.
the cassoulet dinner was extremely good, hope everyone had a good v-day if you're the observant sort.
joined a new gym & i think the place is kinda cruisy. saw a guy cranking off in the shower on only my 2nd visit there. my friend who's a member says the sauna is occasionally, uh, busy
― gwyneth anger (patron sailor), Tuesday, 16 February 2016 03:04 (eight years ago) link
that's fun :-) i'm sort in the same boat as you. i like it.
― surm, Tuesday, 16 February 2016 15:55 (eight years ago) link
did I mention here that my relationship has been opening up lately? probably. i can't remember. anyway, i've been in my feelings about that today.
― gwyneth anger (patron sailor), Wednesday, 17 February 2016 22:22 (eight years ago) link
oh! how is it going? v interested.
― surm, Wednesday, 24 February 2016 16:10 (eight years ago) link
YES HOW IS IT GOING????
― police patrol felt the smell of smoke and found that goat burns (Stevie D(eux)), Wednesday, 24 February 2016 16:25 (eight years ago) link
We've each messed around separately a couple times, as yet only with people we're already acquainted with. And there's been a lot of talking about it, exhaustively so, which is good. It's new and adventuresome and occasionally confusing and bewildering but so far so good.
― gwyneth anger (patron sailor), Wednesday, 24 February 2016 16:53 (eight years ago) link
As I have already told Steve, I had a really great date with a friend last night.
― gwyneth anger (patron sailor), Wednesday, 24 February 2016 16:54 (eight years ago) link
There are a couple things that I'm working through around the whole thing, one of which is being receptive to sexual attention from guys other than my partner without feeling embarrassed or guilty about it. I've still got my fair share of hangups but I'm glad for the chance to confront them at the very least
― gwyneth anger (patron sailor), Wednesday, 24 February 2016 17:15 (eight years ago) link
that's very cool :-) it all sounds p good so far! and again, any questions, i've already asked myself all of them soooo i'm around :P
― surm, Wednesday, 24 February 2016 17:36 (eight years ago) link
In general tho I'm just feeling like I'm going through a second puberty -- I'm on meds that have cranked my libido to 11 and I'm exploring my sexuality in a way I never really got the chance to before. Anyway, I know its probably not very interesting to anybody else but me but this all has been taking up a large part of my consciousness lately so thanks for letting me barf up my feelings here
― gwyneth anger (patron sailor), Wednesday, 24 February 2016 17:37 (eight years ago) link
Hi gays! Glad this thread was bumped, because I have some feelings of my own that I feel like barfing up...
The husband and I going to an event tomorrow night where there will be a lot of people--friends of my family, mainly--that I haven't seen in years and in some cases, since I was a little kid. I expect it'll be fun and nostalgic for the most part, but I just realized that I will, in effect, be coming out all over again to many of these people. This should be nbd, of course, as I've been out to my family and friends for years now, but as I go around introducing lots of people to my husband tomorrow night, I'm feeling like I'm gonna be reliving the whole process all over again. My coming out was hardly traumatic, as many people's are, so maybe I should just shut up about this and deal with my (very mild) discomfort, but it is still a weird feeling. I suspect that a lot of heteros--and even a lot of homos, etc, before they actually experience it--think that coming out is this one shot thing where once your out, your out to the world, but it really is a process of coming out over and over and over again. Anyone else feel this way?
― pitchforkian at best (cryptosicko), Wednesday, 24 February 2016 17:39 (eight years ago) link
The continuous project of "coming out" socially doesn't really feel like a problem for me but I do find myself paying attention whenever I first mention "my boyfriend" to see how it plays. In general I think it's easier when your partner is present or when you have a partner you can bring up in conversation. Surely part of that is just expedient -- you have someone else you can easily, organically refer to that gives your identity that context -- but I also think maybe it's easier to "come out" as part of a couple. "We're gay, together" is more socially palatable than "I, myself, am gay."
― gwyneth anger (patron sailor), Wednesday, 24 February 2016 22:06 (eight years ago) link
Good point! Having a boyfriend/husband to introduce immediately takes care of a lot of dancing around the issue. Though I still expect to be doing a lot of reading of facial expressions to gauge reactions.
― pitchforkian at best (cryptosicko), Wednesday, 24 February 2016 22:15 (eight years ago) link
hi everyone. i haven't been on the boards in forever but i wandered by to talk about music and figured i should say hi and i miss you all and hope you're well.
i've been in Toronto for 19 months, and single for 20 (which has been awesome, mostly. ignoring boys altogether has been really healthy tbh after two consecutive long term relationships that both ended poorly), and unemployed for 6-7 months but ~fingers crossed~ that looks like it could be changing soon finally (maybe, i shouldn't jinx it). i took over the lease in the apartment I was subletting a few months ago and painted the whole place and it feels almost like home, so maybe 2016 will be a good year? it's too early to tell.
i still haven't figured out how to date in this city, and for a while most of my friends here were straight folks which literally hadn't happened since these threads started - it was all very "I have no gay friends in town" but I turned a bad date into a good friend last summer and then met a bunch of awesome queer women and then recently met some neighbourhood gays who gather every month or two to make DUMPLINGS! and whatnot.
― no longer in MTL (Alex in Montreal), Thursday, 25 February 2016 02:02 (eight years ago) link
i don't know why the board ALL CAPSed the word DUMPLINGS!. is this a board thing I've forgotten about in my time away?
― no longer in MTL (Alex in Montreal), Thursday, 25 February 2016 02:03 (eight years ago) link
apparently so.
DUMPLINGS!
― pitchforkian at best (cryptosicko), Thursday, 25 February 2016 02:38 (eight years ago) link
Sorry, I had to test for myself. Weird.
Also, hi Alex!
hello Alex! have missed you
― we can be heroes just for about 3.6 seconds (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 25 February 2016 06:01 (eight years ago) link
hi, Alex!
― The burrito of ennui (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 25 February 2016 11:32 (eight years ago) link
DUMPLINGS! always deserve all caps, rarely do i think about them without that level of enthusiasm
― cher guevara (lex pretend), Thursday, 25 February 2016 11:45 (eight years ago) link
hi gays let's have leek DUMPLINGS!
http://drinks.seriouseats.com/images/2011/08/20110815leekDUMPLINGS!.jpg
― The burrito of ennui (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 25 February 2016 12:39 (eight years ago) link
http://amybsherman.com/images/brusselssproutDUMPLINGS!.JPG
argh
― The burrito of ennui (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 25 February 2016 12:40 (eight years ago) link
tbh i'm not as into DUMPLINGS! as all my friends are! but hi Alex :) !!
i basically eat two things: french fries and pasta.
― surm, Thursday, 25 February 2016 13:53 (eight years ago) link
also Alfred i know i've been bad but i'll give you some juicy posts for tomorrow
my life is finally like not in shambles phew
― surm, Thursday, 25 February 2016 13:54 (eight years ago) link
hi gays let's have leek DUMPLINGS!!
Spring thread title.
― pitchforkian at best (cryptosicko), Thursday, 25 February 2016 15:51 (eight years ago) link
ALEX!!!! Hi! Hello!!
― police patrol felt the smell of smoke and found that goat burns (Stevie D(eux)), Friday, 26 February 2016 00:34 (eight years ago) link
get back to us when you're 40, sweetz
― we can be heroes just for about 3.6 seconds (Dr Morbius), Friday, 26 February 2016 03:26 (eight years ago) link
omg ok
― surm, Friday, 26 February 2016 17:13 (eight years ago) link