iyo did facebook ruin the internet?

I don't generally re-add people from 20 years ago as I find it fairly pointless and weird, but sometimes it's actually a way of connecting with someone who maybe you missed out on the first go-round that actually connects with you. I wound up actually meeting a friend from junior high that I'd lost touch with in person and it was actually a very rewarding meeting. have also made friends with an old high school acquaintance that I didn't get to know well the first time around that actually turned out to be a cool dude that watches Dolphins games with me sometimes.

other than that, I prefer to forget I existed between ages 11-18

I still know WAY more about the lives of random people I went to high school with than an equivalent 33-year-old would have known ten years ago. I'm not sure what all kind of knock-on effects this would have, but I think it'd be kinda interesting to live in a much smaller world, with a much shorter list of people whose lives I know about, or have to choose to stay abreast of.

As someone who was a 33-year-old ten years ago, I would say that the presence of occasional knowledge about / commentary from people I went to high school with has an extremely tiny effect on my life, if any. It didn't feel like living in a smaller world 10 years ago, I can tell you that much.

Frankly I suspect if some people from longer ago than high school added me, I'd struggle to know who they were.

I ignore a lot or friend reqs anyway - especially from vague family-linked people (some old friend of my mums who I dont even know), or schoolfriends I havent spoken to in 30 years, because fuck off.

I prefer to forget I existed between ages 11-18

Found this event posting that showed up on my wall the other day kind of laughable. It's a Fast Times/Clueless double-bill at a local rep house in August. There are currently 906 people who are going. The theatre holds 200-250, and on the night of the screening it'll be me and 40 other people. Great way to apprise the world of all the great stuff you'll be attending without ever having to show up for any of it.
― clemenza, Tuesday, July 21, 2015 9:54 PM (1 month ago)

Sold out--couldn't get in. I don't know anything anymore.

I still know WAY more about the lives of random people I went to high school with than an equivalent 33-year-old would have known ten years ago.

only difference really is that it doesn't get filtered through your mom running into their mom at the supermarket

I was thinking about this, but I'm pretty thankful for not having pruned my friends list too much over the years. It's helped create a network of people who maybe I don't see every day, but are still good to have around. Just recently found a house via an old acquaintance I haven't seen in about 8 years. When my (now) other half went travelling, we connected again and got together using Facebook. She put me in touch with friends she knew, and that's how I got my first stint as a writer. I've connected and met with dozens of housemates and band members and collaborators over the years who've helped me with certain things, which all couldn't have been possible were it not for Facebook. So on the whole, I'm happy it exists and I'm glad I've never trimmed down my connections.

only difference really is that it doesn't get filtered through your mom running into their mom at the supermarket

LOL thanks to this grapevine, I once found out in my early 20s that there was a rumour doing the rounds that I'd caught AIDS, what the fuck. To this day I have no idea how it started, where it spread and why someone would think that about me (esp given at the time I barely drank let alone touched drugs or hung out with dodgy people).

hey you can add "how your name is pronounced" on your facebook profile and i'm surprised everyone isn't fucking with this

with a little siri lady saying it

Someone mentioned that on FB last week and I cant find the setting!

check under "about me" and do the drop down menus
my name is now pronounced TY-ROYL-smoo chee-WAW-lis

under "Details about you"
you can also give yourself a nickname; I went with "Sweet Jones"

One of the eeriest facebook phenomena to me is the way you can find yourself sort of snooping on some rando's life if they don't have their profile set to private. Like you're reading some not very close friend's thread, and somebody makes a post that interests you, and you click their picture, and suddenly you can see their kids, their cat, their vacations, etc., and it's just so easily to idly browse for a minute or two before you think "what the fuck am I doing here?"

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_xdN0QQwsP1A/TBZFJ_uckmI/AAAAAAAAINU/1mntZpj09eY/s1600/vlcsnap-39344.png

I can see the nickname option but theres no pronunciation option. Boh.

pronunciation option is great for lolz

Author Supports Twitter Banter

Celebrity Shares Instagram Photo

Film Franchise's Facebook Page Responds to Comment About Character's Armor

right that was the one i was forgetting

apparently it already slipped into the mists of facebork time

Facebook User Clicks on a Link and Reads for a While, then Returns to Facebook

never leaves, never really leaves

judging from my FB feed the last year or two, I'm suspecting most of whom I thought were my "liberal" friends are really just kinda conservative folk who just happen to be cool with gay people

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nice

http://www.latimes.com/home/la-hm-erskine-20151010-column.html
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"The Millennial Pledge":

• I am entitled to nothing.

apparently there was a public proposal at Universal Studios last night and the girl said "no".

mostly stock "omg" responses on the reporting FB post but now of course there are a few posts where the girl has become the "bad guy" for having the audacity to say "no" in a public setting she didn't choose for a decision she wasn't obligated to say "yes" to.

fuck public "shock" proposals.

The Millennial Pledge:

Misuse of "literally" in the headline puts a Drudge siren on its intention to resemble humor.

public proposal at Universal Studios

A marriage proposal, I presume. I'd be very pissed off if I were made the focus of that kind of dog and pony show and no one I'd be interested in marrying would ever pull that kind of stunt.

I admire and adore the millennials. Obviously, it's because I am one.

The author photo is kinda small, but is this guy like 50?

One of the eeriest facebook phenomena to me is the way you can find yourself sort of snooping on some rando's life if they don't have their profile set to private. Like you're reading some not very close friend's thread, and somebody makes a post that interests you, and you click their picture, and suddenly you can see their kids, their cat, their vacations, etc., and it's just so easily to idly browse for a minute or two before you think "what the fuck am I doing here?"

This happens to me now sometimes and I've never been on facebook at all.

lmao

Think that 'obviously I am one' is clearly a gag, indeed, by far the best one in the piece.

http://news10.com/2016/05/24/is-facebook-eavesdropping-on-your-phone-conversations/

when i used to have fb my colleague and reported to each other all the times we would see ads about what we talked about

sometimes we would purposefully set our phones on the table when eating and say the same word often

later we would see ads for these things without ever having searched for them

make of that what you will

I haven't gone over to FB for the past several days and it has started sending me the "needy" messages at a not so gradually increasing rate.

Somehow the progression of Orlando -> Istanbul -> Baghdad -> Sterling -> Castile -> Dallas commentary on social media is really making me feel emotionally spent

https://itself.wordpress.com/2017/01/05/critique-of-judgment/

Whatever else the internet is, the hegemony of social media has turned it into a machine for passing judgment — an apparatus for seeking attention and courting the near-certainty of negative judgment. In the future, everyone will be hated by thousands of strangers for 15 minutes.

Why are we so addicted to passing judgment? I think we enjoy the feeling of strength and rightness, coupled with the license for cruelty. It’s an intoxicating mix, especially in an era where people experience less and less control and agency in their own lives. As previously noted, a genuine dialogue requires critical distance to one’s own views and a willingness to entertain those of others — the exact opposite of the brew of certitude and spite that the internet breeds in us. But it’s not just a question of our having picked up bad habits from social media, which begs the question of why we would turn away from (or in many cases, preemptively reject) dialogue in the first place. The truth is that dialogue is risky, because your efforts may not be rewarded with new insight. Indeed, you may be played for a fool by a bad-faith interlocutor who is purposefully trying to waste your time or even elicit condemnable statements from you.

today? yes. today i look at the past twenty years and i see companies like google, like facebook, like twitter, have spent all of this time institutionalizing an inhuman, corporate internet, one that works towards severing the connections we have built between each other. god, i have so many friends, not dead ones, but friends i just don't talk to because there's nowhere on the internet for us to talk anymore.

tell them to sign up for ilxor.com

https://www.wired.com/2017/01/zucks-sure-acting-like-someone-might-run-president/

zucks for prez

tell them to sign up for ilxor.com

― johnny crunch

i was thinking we could just send messages to each other via carrier pigeon

so this fucking Sarahah thing is all over FB this week.

for those who don't know, Sarahah is essentially like a neo-Formspring, where people can send you anonymous comments. and it's all over social media since...idk earlier this week?

sounds like a platform for inviting people to lather compliments on you or basically abuse tf out of you. Hard pass for me. I've left anonymous compliments and/or non-sequiturs for friends though.

never heard of this thing or seen anyone use it

i have at least 12 friends using it now and posting screencaps of notable "questions/comments"

Nope

yeah, I have seen zero posts with that, but fb is insanely non-gossipy in all my circles so idk