"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

I'm still happy with Livejournal - but it only works for me because of the network of friends who still use it regularly not just to blog, but to discuss stuff in depth and plan things.

All well out of the way of all the crappy fanfic and goth shit, too.

Am looking at all the other social networks to see if it's worth jumping ship, but they're mostly honking

Problem with that is that, er, all your friends need to jump ship with you, no?

I have to say I wasn't entirely sure what all the fuss was about with the new model. But the more I use it, the more I dislike it.

^ OTM. You can't even see when someone's posted on your wall now except through the notifications, which I mainly ignore because they're full of rubbish 'compare your friends' and 'join scrabulous' stuff. You have to actually go to your own profile to see it.

Also, yeah, the only option I get is to 'hide X person' - but it doesn't work. So I still get this one person with all their quizzes and stuff filling up my page. It really needs to go back to how it was just before this.

that's not true - your wall posts appear as messages in your feed like this: sender's name > (your name).

The most annoying thing is having to go to your requests page to see if you've got any event invitations. How hard would it be to put a notification of any unread ones at the top of the home page?

wait, are we using the same facebook? i have a line at the top of my homepage right now which says "you have 3 event invitations and one other request" until you respond to them.

Mine just tells me about friend requests. Maybe I need to adjust the settings.

I've just changed it so I get an email notification when I get a new invitation. That should make things easier.

that's not true - your wall posts appear as messages in your feed like this: sender's name > (your name).

Erm.. mine don't. I can see a few other people's though. I think it's not working properly though, as the 'hide' option seems a bit random.

the hide seems to take people off entirely, they've lost the "see less about" option, which is annoying, otherwise, functionally, it seems almost the same, the layout is just a bit different.

you don't get as many 'wrote on walls', 'became friends with', etc, and the thing on the right is shitty. it seems to change less, and there's less information, and it's pointlessly cluttered. don't need all those avatars.

It's shit because they've made it real-time. It used to store up what it thought what the things you'd be most interested in for your feed -- new friends of other friends, tagged friends and so on. Now it just dumps them all in a mess, as they happen. So if you miss stuff, it's gone.

They've changed it a bit this morning, though: birthdays are back up the top right

Problem with that is that, er, all your friends need to jump ship with you, no?
Yep, but this isn't nearly as big a problem as FB hopes it is. After FB opened its doors to the public, I remember Myspace emptying out in a matter of months.

there was a live feed option on old fb and that was better than what they have now.

yeah everytime someone adds photos to an album, you get notified so there's like three or four notifications of the same album on your feed IN ADDITION to the notifications on the right. it's just too much. and too many goddamn quizzes too.

i wasn't going to complain til i got used to the changes and now that i am, i have to say i do not like them, not at all.

Problem with that is that, er, all your friends need to jump ship with you, no?

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I'm gonna have to de-fan Ashley Tisdale.

So all these people who I went to grammar school/middle school with are now my fb friends. One of them just left a message asking what I've been up to. Oh in the last EIGHTEEN YEARS? I mean really, how do I even answer that?

'stuff'

Say you've been obsessing over curly-haired pigs from Hungary.

small talk is tough

um NO

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I just noticed they've added an option in the feed to "hide [insert annoying application name here]" rather than hiding an entire person.

farewell, LivingSocial updates.

Oh, THANK FUCK.

thank u for this info! getting app updates is really the only thing i hate about fb

except everyone is using slightly different versions of the same app.

I don't think that matters for LivingSocial, which is by far the worst offender.

Is there a way I can hide quiz results and dumb virtual gift giving?

Er, that's exactly what Salsa Shark is talking about. Click on Hide next to the shit in your news feed; tell it to hide that application. Repeat for everything that crops up and annoys you.

unfortunately it seems that each quiz is its own app

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Yeh, I'm beginning to notice this. Christ's teeth.

One of the more surreal features social networking has brought to our lives is the articulation of all kinds of social decisions. And by that I mean that before the enlightened age of the internet, when you no longer wanted to be friends with somebody or something like that, there was no conscious decision or effort behind it, necessarily. You just stopped trying to engage them, meet with them, keep up with how they are etc. You both just drifted apart, or something essentially vague and mutual - no responsibility for the friendship ending and thus no one's fault. This also left the door open for potential reconciliation ("I would've called you but I lost your number, let's hang out again soon"). But Facebook has made things weird, where now you formally have to think about whether someone deserves the "friend" label or, more intriguing, if someone deserves to be "de-friended." An articulated judgment takes place now.

It'd odd because if you're the kind of person that likes to keep a lean friends list e.g. you simply don't like the idea of that one eccentric co-worker you knew for about a week in 2006 keeping tabs on your social life via FB - you have to actually take a moment to consider the person in question in all their completeness and gauge the worth of keeping them as e-friends before purging them from your friends roster. It's all so weird!

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Cunga speaks much truth. On the other hand, Facebook hones one's skill at insincere capitulation.

Ok, so how is Facebook recommending friends to me who are people that I know, but that I have no mutual friends with and no Facebook link with whatsoever?

Email contacts?

My mum was on the people you may know thing this morning o_O I can only assume cos she's an email contact. She's not facebook friends with my sister or anything and we don't even have the same surname! Spoooooky.

Yeah that must be it. The person is in my gmail contacts list, but I haven't used the friend finder feature on Facebook since I first signed up, well over a year ago. Has it had all my email contact details in its database since then, and been checking them periodically?

That's what I figured, yeah

I've always read this thread title as, "I don;t have a girlfriend and I'm a bit embarassed by that, so can I pretend you're my girlfriend when I post to facebook".

Is that just me?

chick was flirtin with me at work this weekend. left me a note w/name & number & instructed me to facebook her. have done so and it appears she is married.

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can i say i'm cuckolding your husband on facebook?

Is that just me?

No, me too.

And now that I think about it I remember getting a "Let's ironically pretend we're in a relationship," offer from a former co-worker, which was awkward because I had to politely say no to that idea.

"I don;t have a girlfriend and I'm a bit embarassed by that, so can I pretend you're my girlfriend when I post to facebook".

I thought that was the point?

But Facebook has made things weird, where now you formally have to think about whether someone deserves the "friend" label or, more intriguing, if someone deserves to be "de-friended." An articulated judgment takes place now.

Eh I havent let it change things that way for me. I just dont acknowledge people who added me if I dont know them/dont rly want to keep up with them. In fact I've done the "hide" thing on a few people, though thats mainly because they were constantly posting reams of crap. They dont need to know I'm not interested anymore and its not like they're trying to keep in touch. I do wonder why some people add you and then never say a word again. I rly should clear off a bunch of such people I suppose.

But anyone taking it as a personal affront is a bit... silly, aren't they?

But anyone taking it as a personal affront is a bit... silly, aren't they?

It is silly, I think, but the system behind social networking is so bureaucratized - and that is what's interesting and weird to me.

For instance, someone whom I thought I was still on really good terms with but hadn't talked to in almost two years wasn't dropping down from my friends list (meaning they either de-friended me or they're no longer on the site - and it was a case of former as it turned out).

What's interesting was that this friend, someone I knew at college that recently graduated, figures they'll probably never see me or contact me again (which was plausible) and so the online friendship was terminated like a business contract. It isn't the notion that the friendship was over that's worthy of discussion here (we probably wouldn't have seen each other again unless it was a school reunion tbh) but that its dissolution was articulated by one party for the other to see.

I'd argue that the single, most bizarre thing to come from social networking sites is the idea of writing down everything that was previously unwritten.

the list of girls i've banged remains unpublished.

i started posting way too many youtube videos. my husband actually started doing it (and is waaaay better than me at doing this, better music and better longterm span i think)

also, i was talking with our salesperson about facebook. i explained what it was and stuff. (we have mutual acquaintance who "accidently" changed his status to single) she seemed to not have a clue what facebook is. other day i was talking with her husband. he shows me his iphone (and gazillion apps he downloaded - who the fuck has four pages of apps?). so i notice he's on facebook. oO