I agree with everyone who has said they refuse to grieve on line. In fact I doubt the sincerity of anyone who does so.
If you want to mark personal loss then a moment's reflection would seem to be most appropriate. I find solace in poetry, but everyone will have their own way which would be appropriate.
As regards feelings about celebrity loss ie the death of someone famous then I find that more problematical.
I met someone a few years ago who was a Manchester United fan and he was baffled why he couldn't stop weeping when George Best died. To a certain extent I think that we grieve for what we have lost personally rather than for the person whom we only know through either television, the cinema or through some other distorting lens. It's a remembrance of all those feelings we had when we were first moved by some special skill or talent that caught our attention - a transient moment of magic - now lost but brought back when we see a notice of their death.
i think we grieve for the transience.
― 龜✊ (wins), Monday, 20 October 2014 23:57 (eleven years ago)
this was always the thread i posted to while being dragged around department stores, ive no idea what the significance of that is but it was in no way once-or-twice i mean p much any time this thread got traffic i was avoiding perfume aisles
― local eire man (darraghmac), Monday, 20 October 2014 23:57 (eleven years ago)
xp i used to be transient it wasn't all that
Joop Saturday
― joie de marsh (imago), Monday, 20 October 2014 23:59 (eleven years ago)
It's only a whimsical notionTo fly down to Rio tonightAnd I probably won't fly down to RioBut then again I just might
― Chimp Arsons, Tuesday, 28 October 2014 09:00 (eleven years ago)
maybe i'mma crawl out from under my rock, stretch my tentacles again
― clockpuncher (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, 29 October 2014 09:50 (eleven years ago)
how tempting Ogden Clough looks
― anvil, Wednesday, 29 October 2014 09:55 (eleven years ago)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kL5DDSglM_s
― The Falun Gong Show (Noodle Vague), Friday, 31 October 2014 10:33 (eleven years ago)
村の人達
― clouds, Friday, 31 October 2014 15:12 (eleven years ago)
lol yeah but also something sort of Andrew WK-ish in that ueber-positivity
i like it, think i'm smiling with them not at them
― The Falun Gong Show (Noodle Vague), Friday, 31 October 2014 15:16 (eleven years ago)
yeah it's awesome
i think w/ a lot of japanese comedy stuff westerners assume incorrectly that the humor is unintentional
― clouds, Friday, 31 October 2014 15:28 (eleven years ago)
"yatta!" means something like "we did it!"
― clouds, Friday, 31 October 2014 15:29 (eleven years ago)
Céline, monster munch, wondering if I should be worried about this dysphagia
Beer
Soledad
70s mor golden oldies station playing on pub stereo, consistently, unfeasibly beautiful
― individual meta dater (wins), Saturday, 8 November 2014 18:35 (eleven years ago)
celine was so important for me when i first moved to chicago and seemed to perfectly reflect the new environs (shit brown snow everywhere, unfamiliar streets) that i don't think i could read him now without some sort of spurious nostalgia for an unpleasant time
― tribe? de la? no "humpty dance?" (clouds), Saturday, 8 November 2014 18:42 (eleven years ago)
✓
― Stim McRaw (Noodle Vague), Saturday, 8 November 2014 21:14 (eleven years ago)
browsing this cool smithsonian book "great maps" dear god the world ocean floor map. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marie_Tharp
― mattresslessness, Sunday, 9 November 2014 02:30 (eleven years ago)
went to yoga last night. did not feel body positive.
― Stim McRaw (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 11 November 2014 17:45 (eleven years ago)
!!!!! Was it a first or early visit?
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Tuesday, 11 November 2014 17:51 (eleven years ago)
yeah first, it was probably hilarious to watch - it's kinda hard to judge how you're doing when you're mostly facing right up or right down. and i was the only dude there. but i didn't hate it, i'm going back until they ban me for ungainliness
― Stim McRaw (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 11 November 2014 17:53 (eleven years ago)
:D :D :D
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Tuesday, 11 November 2014 17:54 (eleven years ago)
happy birthday mr wave
― mookieproof, Thursday, 11 December 2014 14:38 (eleven years ago)
terrified of having to cope with adult life, lonely, devoid of any sense of purpose, no power to change anything that makes me unhappy, all i've learned is how to fake humanity and all i've got to do is keep repeating the illusion in public until fuck knows
can't tell what's panic and what's all there is any more
over
― Gombeen Dance Band (Noodle Vague), Saturday, 3 January 2015 16:57 (eleven years ago)
:(
― local eire man (darraghmac), Saturday, 3 January 2015 20:13 (eleven years ago)
seriously ... i have to console myself that at least I am capable of going through the motions
― Mistah FAAB (sarahell), Saturday, 3 January 2015 20:19 (eleven years ago)
yeah it's true :/ just got out of practice cos of time off
this endless sleepiness and lack of goals and just barely hanging onto cleanliness and order, this is depression again i guess? feel like i'm at the bottom of a sea of sludge
― Gombeen Dance Band (Noodle Vague), Saturday, 3 January 2015 22:50 (eleven years ago)
option 1hang in there NV, best wishes
option 2my life is so small and narrowwhere is it taking me?
option 3i feel you, back to work on mon, all week in bed with flu (ah actually just cold, my mother got it too and she had the flu jab) wondering if i was staying in bed due to illness physical or mental: too tired to get up but not sleeping while down, or fitfully dreaming of work and waking in a cold sweat
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take care all blue saturdayers
― club mate martyr (a passing spacecadet), Saturday, 3 January 2015 23:09 (eleven years ago)
http://i.imgur.com/s9SpjOC.jpg
http://www.vice.com/en_uk/read/in-defence-of-hull-023
― no love deb weep (nakhchivan), Thursday, 19 February 2015 20:26 (eleven years ago)
you can nearly see my office from there
he's broadly correct on the economic history aiui
― english fatuus (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 19 February 2015 20:34 (eleven years ago)
also she is almost directly overlooking the yard where HMS Bounty was built
― english fatuus (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 19 February 2015 20:37 (eleven years ago)
because this isn't my birthplace i'm not gonna call the lad on his nihilist youth but i suspect he's embellishing a shade - here is Trinity's school uniform:
http://assets.sptacademies.org.uk/files/img_cache/Feature/980_350_1_1_DSC01929.JPG
― english fatuus (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 19 February 2015 20:46 (eleven years ago)
That really florid bit about the "hard living trawlerman ethos" and them passing their "nails" genes onto him reads like absolute bollocks!
― xelab, Thursday, 19 February 2015 21:03 (eleven years ago)
the trawlermen were pretty fucken tough to be fair - and lived it pretty large in the brief spells they spent back at home
but heavy poetic licence yeah and this lad mayn't even be a son of Hessle Rd for all we know
― english fatuus (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 19 February 2015 22:05 (eleven years ago)
otoh it's in Vice i wasnae expecting an essay in social history
― english fatuus (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 19 February 2015 22:06 (eleven years ago)
getting bored of "hull's great despite what you might think" articles now, just fuck off and leave us alone again.
― thomasintrouble, Thursday, 19 February 2015 22:26 (eleven years ago)
^^^
― english fatuus (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 19 February 2015 22:31 (eleven years ago)
if you need convincing then fuck you anyway
I tend to think the same. Wannabe gonzos disrespecting or fake romanticising unfashionable areas is always fucking tedious.
― xelab, Thursday, 19 February 2015 22:41 (eleven years ago)
I mean I'm the son of a hardman trawlerman who was part of an entire litter of em and DNA isnt what its cracked up to be tbph
― local eire man (darraghmac), Thursday, 19 February 2015 23:26 (eleven years ago)
https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=803239603096986
― f***kin good lookin for a knacker (Noodle Vague), Saturday, 21 February 2015 23:17 (eleven years ago)
that is some genuinely interesting folk history!
― xelab, Saturday, 21 February 2015 23:44 (eleven years ago)
ikr?
http://i245.photobucket.com/albums/gg80/zerocool-hull/DSC_0013_Small.jpg
― f***kin good lookin for a knacker (Noodle Vague), Sunday, 22 February 2015 08:35 (eleven years ago)
feel like grey empty helpless lonely death lately
not drinking tho so :/
― f***kin good lookin for a knacker (Noodle Vague), Sunday, 22 February 2015 14:31 (eleven years ago)
Mariella will cheer you right up today: http://gu.com/p/45qq3
― the gabhal cabal (Bob Six), Sunday, 22 February 2015 14:50 (eleven years ago)
blau tuserday
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― daed bod (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 24 February 2015 10:41 (eleven years ago)
locked-in syndrome should be mandatory medical euthanasia in any non-byzantine society
― bojaxhiu mother derive (imago), Tuesday, 24 February 2015 10:51 (eleven years ago)
what about locked-in-but-hammering-hard-on-the-door-to-get-out syndrome?
― daed bod (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 24 February 2015 10:51 (eleven years ago)
is there a case for keeping someone alive just in case medical science finds a way to unlock the door?
― bojaxhiu mother derive (imago), Tuesday, 24 February 2015 10:53 (eleven years ago)
my question was more about ascertaining the wishes of the prisoner
― daed bod (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 24 February 2015 10:54 (eleven years ago)
In Kenya, depending on whom you ask, John Mututho is either a hero or a villain, but in a country consuming ever more alcohol, he is certainly a household name.
― daed bod (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 24 February 2015 10:56 (eleven years ago)
http://www.indopacificimages.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/East-Timor_SD_400.jpg
― daed bod (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 24 February 2015 11:01 (eleven years ago)