well I didn't think you meant that, but idk, shouldn't speak for others generally otm
― imago, Monday, 25 August 2014 12:57 (ten years ago) link
edddddddd
― nakh is the wintour of our diss content (darraghmac), Monday, 25 August 2014 13:01 (ten years ago) link
Yesssssss?
― ed.b, Monday, 25 August 2014 13:02 (ten years ago) link
get out via the window, run
― nakh is the wintour of our diss content (darraghmac), Monday, 25 August 2014 13:03 (ten years ago) link
If imago is quite finished (incorrectly) mansplaining what he thought I meant...
ed, the word I would have used would not be "narcissistic", wrong connotations. It would "solipsistic". There is a world of difference.
The situations you describe: Running into your former teacher either on OKC or at a club where she is dancing; sitting behind someone you had an (unsuccessful OKC) date with. These situations are awkward and potentially fraught. Yes.
But the awkwardness may well be *situational* rather than a personal reflection on you. The woman at the movies may well be thinking "OMG, a {guy from OKC} this is awkward, I don't want to have to explain my online dating habits to my IRL friends" where you are occupying the awkward space of {dude from OKC date} rather than her judgement on ed b, human being and OKC user. The situation with the teacher is similar, I mean, she may have been thinking "I was out there doing the butt-dance with my mates when OMG, argh, I saw one of my former students, eek!" - you are occupying a space of {former student}.
I mean, it is partly, yes, "do not assume that because a woman smiles or frowns or even dances sexily, that you are the intended recipient of these actions" because this is a constantly reinforced message. But in these specific cases, it is also a much huger helping of "if a woman reacts awkwardly to an OKC date turning up at a film, it's because ~OKC dates~ are inherently awkward" rather than her carrying around any specific feelings (negative or positive) about you as a human being or even a date.
Apologies is this if coming out crankily, but the main source of my crankiness here is imago ~playing expert~ and telling people what he has decided that I meant or didn't mean. But again, case in point: my crankiness is situational, dependent on imago's actions, rather than judgement on ed b, human being and ILX poster.
― Shugazi (Branwell with an N), Monday, 25 August 2014 13:41 (ten years ago) link
Oh yes, that makes total sense and I agree with you.
― ed.b, Monday, 25 August 2014 13:52 (ten years ago) link
now if we can just get imago back to agree as well
― ╲╱\/╲/\╱╲╱\/\ (gr8080), Monday, 25 August 2014 13:56 (ten years ago) link
paragraphs 2 through 5 are sage advice
― imago, Monday, 25 August 2014 14:01 (ten years ago) link
man, srsly lay off the teacher -- it's hard enough to do the job, but to have to wear the hat on the dance floor is too muchteachers are ppl too
― cross over the mushroom circle (La Lechera), Monday, 25 August 2014 14:07 (ten years ago) link
sometimes more so than others, in my experience
― mh, Monday, 25 August 2014 14:10 (ten years ago) link
Ok, I feel bad about this now. Sorry.
― ed.b, Monday, 25 August 2014 14:23 (ten years ago) link
What movie was it?
― how's life, Monday, 25 August 2014 14:27 (ten years ago) link
wear the hat on the dance floor
can we make this a euphemism, stat
― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Tuesday, 26 August 2014 15:15 (ten years ago) link
*pulls up a chair*
ok i'm on this thing
― sktsh, Sunday, 31 August 2014 23:38 (ten years ago) link
Good luck!
I just saw someone with "hike" and "dogs" in their name. Summing up, in two words, my problem with most of the people in California.
― il balletto da bronx, yo (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Monday, 1 September 2014 02:08 (ten years ago) link
I met my gf on this thing (in California) and she had a long rant about guys and their dogs, like, "I see right through you, freewheelin' dog guy."
― bamcquern, Monday, 1 September 2014 04:09 (ten years ago) link
Haha
― il balletto da bronx, yo (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Monday, 1 September 2014 05:05 (ten years ago) link
i'm going on a hike with my dog and a girl i met on okc tomorrow, but i'm in the midwest
― ╲╱\/╲/\╱╲╱\/\ (gr8080), Monday, 1 September 2014 05:50 (ten years ago) link
Is it a hike or are you just walking around somewhere?
― mh, Monday, 1 September 2014 15:59 (ten years ago) link
hikehīk/noun
1. a long walk, especially in the country or wilderness.
synonyms:walk, trek, tramp, trudge, slog, footslog, march; ramble
"a five-mile hike"
― ╲╱\/╲/\╱╲╱\/\ (gr8080), Tuesday, 2 September 2014 15:08 (ten years ago) link
I feel like it's one of those "I love the outdoors and hiking" things where people really mean they like walking around a park.
When I think "hiking" I think of specialty footwear, possibly carrying camping gear, and following the Appalachian trail or something
― mh, Tuesday, 2 September 2014 15:11 (ten years ago) link
In the United States, Canada, the Republic of Ireland, and United Kingdom, hiking refers to walking outdoors on a trail, or off trail, for recreational purposes.[5] A day hike refers to a hike that can be completed in a single day. Multi-day hikes with camping are referred to as backpacking in North America.
― ╲╱\/╲/\╱╲╱\/\ (gr8080), Tuesday, 2 September 2014 15:31 (ten years ago) link
The thought of hiking makes me need to lie down. Preferably in front of an air conditioner.
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Tuesday, 2 September 2014 15:34 (ten years ago) link
I'm going to go take a hike on this subject
― mh, Tuesday, 2 September 2014 15:46 (ten years ago) link
mh do you list "pedantry" under your OKC interests
― ╲╱\/╲/\╱╲╱\/\ (gr8080), Tuesday, 2 September 2014 15:48 (ten years ago) link
Don't be a hike cop
― 龜, Tuesday, 2 September 2014 15:50 (ten years ago) link
nah, I was just reminded of some article where people were joking about the tendency for people to overemphasize sunny outdoors activities in words and pictures and thought it relevant
I hope your hike went well
― mh, Tuesday, 2 September 2014 15:52 (ten years ago) link
Think there's some regional difference in usage around "hike" - e.g. LA peeps talk about "going for a hike up Runyon Canyon" all the time and that is a freakin' paved path.
― resulting post (rogermexico.), Tuesday, 2 September 2014 19:25 (ten years ago) link
Going for a ramble with my schipperke after work.
― Liquid Plejades, Tuesday, 2 September 2014 19:39 (ten years ago) link
traversing Runyon Canyon is hiking!!!!!
shooting hoops in your driveway may not be the NBA but it is playing basketball
― ╲╱\/╲/\╱╲╱\/\ (gr8080), Tuesday, 2 September 2014 19:50 (ten years ago) link
There was Judge John Hodgman episode with a dispute about what counted as hiking. IIRC, it was decided that hiking involved hills.
― Je55e, Tuesday, 2 September 2014 19:57 (ten years ago) link
idiotic decision-- ppl hike for miles in deserts and meadows with no hills in sight
― ╲╱\/╲/\╱╲╱\/\ (gr8080), Tuesday, 2 September 2014 20:03 (ten years ago) link
eh, that's no hike, that's a traipse
― Nhex, Tuesday, 2 September 2014 20:04 (ten years ago) link
u ppl are a traipse
― ╲╱\/╲/\╱╲╱\/\ (gr8080), Tuesday, 2 September 2014 20:10 (ten years ago) link
grady otm thru this discussion imo
― imago, Tuesday, 2 September 2014 20:28 (ten years ago) link
brb, going for a walk to clear my head after this discussion
― mh, Tuesday, 2 September 2014 20:59 (ten years ago) link
when I hear hike I def think "change in elevation." if you're not going up something you're going on a walk. but I live in the PNW where hiking is a real thing for a lot of ppl.
― Clay, Tuesday, 2 September 2014 21:19 (ten years ago) link
I had a friend who equated "mountain climbing" with "rock climbing." I feel like this is similar.
― Liquid Plejades, Tuesday, 2 September 2014 21:21 (ten years ago) link
if u guys wanna roll your eyes at hiking being a dating profile cliche that's fine but insisting that ppl aren't actually hiking due to improper footwear, non-strenuousness, or brevity, it isn't just needlessly pedantic, it is wrong
― ╲╱\/╲/\╱╲╱\/\ (gr8080), Tuesday, 2 September 2014 21:24 (ten years ago) link
In the United States, Canada, the Republic of Ireland, and United Kingdom, hiking refers to walking outdoors on a trail, or off trail, for recreational purposes
verifying this as good info
― nakh is the wintour of our diss content (darraghmac), Tuesday, 2 September 2014 21:26 (ten years ago) link
getting to my place from downtown is quite a hike, imo
― mh, Tuesday, 2 September 2014 21:50 (ten years ago) link
fwiw I was poking fun at the mention of hiking in the context of okcupid, I am not actually that pedantic. at least I sure hope not.
― mh, Tuesday, 2 September 2014 21:55 (ten years ago) link
just realised that gr8080's DN depicts undulating terrain
― imago, Wednesday, 3 September 2014 21:51 (ten years ago) link
When I take a hike, it is just as long as I choose it to be. Neither more nor less.
― erry red flag (f. hazel), Thursday, 4 September 2014 01:23 (ten years ago) link
what we talk about when we talk about talking about hiking
― mookieproof, Thursday, 4 September 2014 02:37 (ten years ago) link
lolololol a good friend of mine went on a date w one of my exes last night without knowing it, and then texted me about how bad he was, STILL WITHOUT KNOWING IT. Oh ok cupid.
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Sunday, 7 September 2014 15:47 (ten years ago) link
People on OKC tell me to take a hike all the time, appears to be quite a popular hobby
― 龜, Sunday, 7 September 2014 15:49 (ten years ago) link
sort of on topic:
https://twitter.com/stevekovach/status/509421194651529217
― goole, Tuesday, 9 September 2014 19:27 (ten years ago) link
in denver, a hike usually means a pretty strenuous walk up a 14,000ft mountain trail at high elevation and fucking A it's exhausting. I hiked the piddly Mt Falcon last weekend and wished I could take my legs off.
― homosexual II, Tuesday, 9 September 2014 19:53 (ten years ago) link
get me at sea level and I feel like an athlete
― homosexual II, Tuesday, 9 September 2014 19:55 (ten years ago) link