Rolling 'this is sexist' thread

i think i used to think i knew, definitively, what i thought on this issue but i'm not sure i do anymore. i think the idea "humans are inherently competitive and selfish", while it may have a relative degree of truth to it, is not the whole story. it is a popular idea, though, because it helps to justify existing power structures, built as they are on an ideology that stresses possessiveness, competition, and the justice of hierarchies as long as they are produced by "meritocracy. in my view, if people are naturally selfish and competitive, they are also naturally empathetic, and naturally cooperative, and also naturally inclined to be conflicted in our motives and not understand the root cause of our desires. our behavior is so thoroughly conditioned by social factors that it is impossible to say what kind of human being a non-oppressive society would produce.

so once i had this long commute every day and i was always tired on the rail and it was often boring. but one day (this was right around after the game came out and i still remember the scandal w/ the vv cover story vividly, which is why i was paying attention) there was someone who had been drinking, obviously, and he was wearing a very stupid looking hat and sat next to this woman and kept trying to talk her up, very loudly. i was sort of half asleep, and this bothered me a bunch. there were all sorts of things that made me think PUA, in particular how he'd ask her questions and be very interested than flip over and say mean things about her answers, and also the fact that he was wearing this insane hat with feathers and stuff and loved to talk about it.

and i just sat on the train, half asleep, and vaguely wondered if he had read the game or was just naturally that precise type of jackass, if i should go up and ask him about the game and see if he responded, if the woman wanted someone to go and help her deal with this guy or was doing just fine, etc. it was all sort of lynchian.

i might have a notebook somewhere i scrawled some of the conversation into, but i doubt i'll ever find it again.

I find that, if you want to talk shit about someone, it helps not to have on a stupid hat

the "peacocking" aspect of the game is the most hilarious part to me. you take people who are less socially adept than the average person, and tell them that they should adopt an insanely bold, glam personal aesthetic in order to draw attention to themselves.

that guy reminds me of someone i saw at the local record store on record store day. he had new york giants superbowl tattoos all over his face for some reason, and was standing in the corner making fun of the record obsessives/hipsters to his buddies, commenting on outfits he thought looked "ridiculous"; more ridiculous, i assume, than new york giants face tattoos.

i think i used to think i knew, definitively, what i thought on this issue but i'm not sure i do anymore. i think the idea "humans are inherently competitive and selfish", while it may have a relative degree of truth to it, is not the whole story.

i think it's safe to say that all that life is inherently competitive. that seems almost unarguably true, but it's the sort of truth that often leads people to bad conclusions. given the damage done by human competition in its various forms, i can see why some might want to de-emphasize its importance and/or stress other possibilities.

there's something to peacocking in that wearing something distinctive does create an opportunity for conversation, it's just that you can either do that by actually cultivating a style or just wearing something that looks really dumb on top of the same old shit

I actually was scared for a few weeks because I got new glasses and I wasn't sure if people were genuinely complimenting me or if I was inadvertently peacocking

xp - it also helps make you memorable, for better or worse (e.g., jackson galaxy)

that happened to me too, mh. i actually wrote about it less than an hour ago on 77.

IANAA(nthropologist) but I was under the impression that hunter/gatherer and subsistence populations cannot survive if they compete internally for resources, and that whatever is necessary for group survival seems just as natural to them as competition does to most of the rest of us.

everyone's doing various degrees of peacocking just by nature of carefully chosen fashion, but some dudes just resort to pink aluminum wrapped around their torso and actual antlers crowned atop their head.

new york giants superbowl tattoos all over his face

i actually winced on reading this, good god

stop posting about me xp

like if you just told me "face tattoos," i'd say "wow that's not my thing, but what did they look like?"

I don't think I'd heard of the peacocking aspect of PUA culture before. Adds another element of 'wtf am I thinking' to my escalating desire to buy a sequined jacket...

I don't automatically hate face tattoos (this may say something about me), but I do automatically hate NY Giants ones.

Suddenly remembered I was talking to a girl in a horrible nightclub when I was about 17 about my lack of social skills re chatting up girls and she basically advised me to peacock! She was telling me I should get a big bracelet or something, cos it would be a talking point. She was way ahead of The Game, this would've been 1993 or something. (this was not some lame attempt at pity-pulling, btw, although my friends thought I was trying to hit on her, it wasn't like that, honest guv'nor, although I'm sure it was still all kinds of pathetic)

History suggests that I will be like "Neck and hand tattoos? No problem!" so the odds are better than even.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TAqSLx11ZfI‎

xp

on the other hand i think "do what a 17 y/o would do in a club in 1993 with a big bracelet on" is pretty good life advice

different personal styles work for different personal types. if i were to try to "peacock" i would look quite the moron, i feel. if someone likes you they will compliment your outfit regardless of what it is. i've gotten compliments on gray oxford shirts before.

*personality

everyone should try to peacock, the world needs more lols

basically I won't be satisfied until American society looks like the Capital in "The Hunger Games"

NB I did not buy a big bracelet. OTOH, I was single for a long time.

when i was a young man i spent a period wearing this huge, gross, greenish-black button front wool sweater (approx size of horse) and an elastic bracelet strung with multicolored plastic stars. girls would often talk to me about these fashion choice and occasionally ask me out as a result. i suppose in retrospect that i looked like something from build-a-bear workshop. so i shouldn't be too contemptuous of the strategy...

in my supposedly wiser years, i purchased a massive leather wristlet with a chunk of PBR can affixed (at the "punk rock flea market"), but could never quite bring myself to wear it. perhaps i've been missing out.

when I started dating my eventual wife, my most common mode of dress was wearing ripped flannel shirts over band t-shirts, Dockers, and either combat boots or mismatched Chuck Taylors (left foot black, right foot white)

by the time we got serious, I started wearing polo shirts more often, although I'd still break out the combat boots because hey, I gotta be me

the best outfit is a plain black t shirt and jeans.

with clarks desert boots. or at least, i like wearing that because it is totally neutral and i don't have to think about what i am wearing.

treeship otm. except my shoe game isn't very good. I need to peacock up.

haha yep those fashion choices are "totally neutral"

I used to approach clothes as a political statement that basically said "I am going to try my best to look homeless so that you will not be prepared for when my intellect tears your head off"

Now the statement I try to make with my clothes is "I did laundry"

maybe that should go on the aging support group thread

the main thing i know is that i look better with dark colors and get "washed out" by pastels.

I'll tell you what, let's smash the patriarchy and then get our colors done.

i mainly try to make sure my shirt and pants are not accidentally the same color

every now and then i wear a blue shirt with blue jeans or a tan shirt with khakis and then want to curl in a ball and hide for the rest of the day

let's smash the patriarchy and then get our colors done.

you know L when you say things like this, it makes me want to marry you

no more nail art till the patriarchy is 100% smashed

I really can't read "smash the patriarchy" without giggling now, thanks ILX

:D

I promise to take elmo as my lawful domestic partner whether he is a winter or a summer, in manicures and in pocket squares, for as long as we both shall go halvsies on a nice bungalow.

mmm, pastryarchy

Where we will hold #Occupy seminars and consciousness-raising sessions on every second Wednesday.

I was looking at some nail art the other day and then glancing at my own, bare fingernails and was a little sad, tbh

I'm also wondering if maybe the people who think they've met me before when I've talked to them downtown perhaps met Treeship but we both dress so generically so as to be identical

and also because i regularly lie and tell people that i am you

you shouldn't do that, people will mistake you for a sexist

i mainly try to make sure my shirt and pants are not accidentally the same color

― stefon taylor swiftboat (s.clover), Tuesday, June 25, 2013 12:43 PM (38 minutes ago)

i mainly try to make sure that all black everything always forever