Innocuous things that make you irrationally angry (a list thread)

I'm still in Sacramento. Another reason why knowing of her presence in SF requires a little bit of advanced notice.

I just hired a process server in Sacramento. In his emails he always mentions the weather first thing.

blooming lack of fare stage bus stops meaning that despite actually being on time to get to the bus stop for normal service I missed the bus. The fact that the kids in the local area are off school on Easter hols meant bus went by early, since they weren't stopping the bus at earlier stages or getting on in numbers which woulsd have meant I might have got there while it was still there.
& I get docked pay if I'm late.
Oh & the bus stop is cold and normally has a wet seat that I have to wipe down before sitting on.
But I guess at least it isn't snowing yet.

People who take the inconsequential getting on/off highway parts of google maps directions literally and/or read them out loud to you, like when it's obvious what you're doing is looking for the signs for 495, and the navigator says "You need to make a left onto Kingston road, go .1 miles, make a slight right onto kingston road extension, then a slight left onto onramp road, then stay left onto I-495BUS/I-495, then stay straight onto I-495E.

Maybe this isn't innocuous or irrational, also I'm more puzzled than angry but:

Five years ago I ordered a custom-made garment from an Etsy seller. It was total crap, but I didn't go back to the seller for a refund or anything, figuring it was more of a "lesson learned" sort of experience. I did, however, about a year later, make a comment on a different message board where people were discussing this seller saying that I had ordered a custom garment and it didn't work out so well. No hyperbole, no rage, fully admitting that my experience was probably anomalous, even admiring the clothes in general, just a "Hey, FYI, this didn't work out for me."

Then I forgot about it, until today when I was poking around Etsy and came across this seller and was like, "Hey, that's a cute dress and that last order was five years ago so they probably have their shit together, but just to be safe, I'll ask for a fabric swatch." Which I did, and then received a response from the seller telling me that my comment on that website was burned into her memory and that she can't believe I would try to do business with her again - really hurt and upset!

Anyway, I apologized, told her that I stood by the truthfulness of the comment and admitted I should have contacted her to try and fix it, and told her no thanks on the swatch. She just responded to tell me that she was raising a family in house with plastic for windows when I made that comment. Now I want to reply and suggest that if she can't take valid criticism, she find a new line of work but that's mean and also I should probably just drop it, right?

Yeah. She sounds like she's bringing her insecurity into her business relations, which is NAGL, but it'll be better for both of you if you let it lie.

I ignored the better angels of my nature and responded. All I said was that I wished her the best going forward, though, because I do, and because I don't want to transact business with someone like that (NAGL indeed), and if I wanted to drum up internet drama I'd just pick a fight on ILX.

Ha, well, that sounds eminently reasonable on your part.

I was evidencing a little last-word-itis by replying at all. :/

People who bite string cheese, instead of peeling it.

clearly we can never be friends, Jeff

She just responded to tell me that she was raising a family in house with plastic for windows when I made that comment

well that's certainly a bummer but also completely irrelevant to the matter at hand, isn't it

We sometimes buy string cheese for our 4 year old son. I tried to show him how fun it can be to peel it and he's all "no, I just want to eat it".

and i mean REALLY, if an previously unsatisfied customer is willing to take a chance on your product AGAIN, why would you refuse the sale? what for? or would you take the opportunity to win someone over and maybe even make them a loyal repeat customer?

this is not a savvy businesslady you're dealing with, for sure xpost

four year olds are disgusting savages

xp Yeah, I thought about that. The dress I wanted was about $150 w/ customization, too, and if it had worked out I would have certainly bought a few other things down the road. But hey, whatever. For about half that price, there's a similar dress for sale at Land's End, a company who has weathered far more irate internet criticism from me without hurt feelings.

you are much nicer than me, I would have been very tempted to respond to the plastic window comment with something along the lines of "oh is that why you couldn't make a dress, your family was dying from plastic window fumes and you had to stop sewing every 15 minutes to perform CPR?"

lol why weren't you all reading this thread earlier when you could have egged me on into a full-on flame war with someone from Etsy?

I would have to restrain myself from making a pain in the ass/not a pane of glass joke

at my chinese renaissance lecture today, there was a kid in front of me watching a youtube video of a dog on a treadmill. aaaaaggggggghhhhhhh. i'm trying to pay attention to the prof.!!! wtf was i supposed to do??? i couldn't NOT watch the dog on the treadmill!!!

was seriously sort of angry. at him, myself, and, blurgh.

Lately, the NYC thing of having this one-price "all you can eat and drink" foodie festival that's expensive enough that the price of admission doesn't really seem like a deal to me. Like I just got an e-mail about the "Meatball slapdown" which is all the meatballs (from various vendors) and beers you can eat/drink for $50. Sounds cool, but the most beers I'm going to drink while also eating a shitload of meatballs is like three or four, and assuming I could get said beers for like $6-7 a pop, that leaves me like $20-25 worth of meatballs to eat, which is a lot of meatballs! Why wouldn't I rather just do that in a pleasant restaurant or pub atmosphere rather than an obnoxious overcrowded food festival?

ia at myself for being angry that i witnessed some of my classmates cheating on their tests. i'm not a fucking hall monitor, what should i care? except i actually studied for the test and my ego is big enough that i'd get butthurt if someone who's just copying down her neighbor's answers gets a better grade than i do.

that is so not irrational. i would report that shit instantly.

x-p
They had a similar bacon and beer fest here in LA last month for $40 and I came to the same conclusion.

http://www.labaconfest.com/index.php

good god, the photos on their facebook page make it look even more miserable than I could imagine

Maybe if they at least limited admission and it was in a nice setting and they promised you a place to sit

Also, a lot of courses get marked on a curve, so if more students do well then your otherwise good mark will be downgraded to an average one.

xxxp to get bent

So that Etsy person with the plastic windows? Would have been sorely tempted to answer one of two ways to that post:

"Namaste." - Bob Marley, or a link to Regretsy.

Ha. Regretsy's criticism of Etsy as a relentlessly positive place of kittens and rainbows and feelings that would brook no criticism, however valid, definitely came to mind during that exchange.

Maybe if they at least limited admission and it was in a nice setting and they promised you a place to sit

If they limited admission, there would be a line around the block by 10am.

If people are going off-piste to trawl for negative comments about their work on Etsy, then I'd say those people are both insecure and setting themselves up for a world of pain. Also, it's not your job to placate some random person or be their shrink if they've fucked up a piece of work.

When all my friends who are ~that way inclined~ invited me to join/check out Etsy, I just put a FB link to Regretsy on my page. Presto - no more share requests from the twee end of my friend spectrum!

I actually buy a fair amount of stuff on Etsy. I am down with the cottage industry thing, and I like buying things that are ~~unique~~ plus the vintage side is like thrift store shopping at my desk (for a premium).

Oh but the ethos is irritating so I steer clear of the community for reasons that are probably apparent now. I would feel like a bull in the china shop of feelings with those people.

I've seen similar reactions in the knitting/crochet online world. There are always a few voices of "how DARE you criticize someone" even when said someone is doing obviously shady things.

isn't that the deal on pinterest too?

Maybe? I usually don't interact with people on Pinterest. My ultimate plan is to establish a presence there so I can start trolling the shit out of people.

In other words, we'll soon find out.

I have a lengthy and violent dislike of mood boards - they remind me of B averages and hope chests - so Pinterest and I were never going to be friends.

In other words, we'll soon find out.

looooool. carl, you are a treasure.

Pinterest is definitely a hope chest. Pretty eye rolling one as well. I have even acquired that mentality with my board entitled, "...and on my farm" where I list animals I want on some farm I imagine I will one day have. But that seems more realistic to me than the billion dollar swimming pools meant to look like a natural ponds or the crazy tree house mansions. I think my board has more substance than those with yet another twee scene in the woods with banners, ribbons or people in animal masks and lit with tiny Christmas lights or candles dangling from trees. Hate that shit!

Plastic windows oh no how poor this person is. What a victim. I put plastic over my windows in the winter time cos it makes the house cooler but i never bitch to people about it and i dont really care. Tell her to rise above her struggles or something, slightly humoring her is the best i can offer.

makes the house warmer, sorry

Did she mean putting plastic up over the windows or that her windows were actually made of plastic?

I did not seek to clarify.

I assumed she meant that she had no glass in her windows, and had to cover the holes with plastic sheeting. Not a particularly great scenario for her, but nothing to do with CA.

I've taped plastic over my windows before too, back when I lived north of the Mason-Dixon, but the way that was worded, I thought that maybe she had some of those orange starburst plastic windows you see sometimes in the finest of mobile homes and camping trailers.

I got bubble wrap taped over one of my windows right now, that is some fancy double-glazing yo (got the tip from the cashier at Nando's, holla to ya bro)

She probably taped a couple of trash bags over a missing pane of glass while she was waiting six hours for a glazer to come out and replace it.

Trying to look up some info on a woman named C1ndy McLa1n for work and pictures of John McCain's wife keep popping up. GOOGLE, YOU ARE NOT HELPING ME.

a bull in the china shop of feelings