I have never had sex.

This sounds like balls really. You're just making excuses. It'll happen when it happens, relax about it and try not to let it screw you up.

Exactly!

I was always concerned myself that I'd not had much sexual experience, until I learned to accept that, no, that's not true. I might not conform to the "stud" different-girl-every-week stereotype, but a) hardly anyone does b) that stereotype isn't a good thing.

Sarcastic, unhelpful, and rather spiteful excelsior/zing-fishing is not the sum of ILX's parts, dude.

Oh, is this the beginning of the end for teh_kit?
First of all it's "IF U DON'T LIEK IT WAI R U HERE????!?", then come a boatload zings at my expense, then the BAN TEH_KIT thread, and eventually I'm forced out. Because I disagreed with the behaviour of Old, Established Posters (tm).

k, go for it.

indeed, but i only ever see you moaning about it these days. haven't looked at I Love Games tho.

what about, er, 34? I'm quite normal, I think, *twitches*, except I was the nerd who was reading books and listening to music when everyone else in school went to parties and now I've been working quite far from where I live so I'm too tired in the evening to do anything else than surf and hang out with you virtual people here. Best thing about it: you don't miss what you don't know, so I'm a lot less miserable than people my age who're divorced or inbetween relationships. I bet it's overrated too. So there.

Yes, sorry, I meant to start my post with "as FP says..." but then didn't.

34? Jesus christ, get away from me before I catch celibate off you, you freak.

No just trying to read between the lines. I sort of identify here. This is the same bullshit that I used to feel too.

I only start this thread to ask if sex is something that I really have to do...?

That doesn't sound anxious to you?

(xpost)

It could be a bunch of other feelings too. Sometimes I think it's best to take people at their word.

I don't understand this.
Do you mean I only moan about the bratty behaviour? If so, well, that's because there's nothing else to moan about. This is the only thing on ILX that really bothers/saddens me.

If you mean that all I ever post about is the bratty behaviour, well, you're wrong.

What does ILG have to do with anything?

No, it's not. It doesn't imply he wants to have sex at all. He's merely asking if he should question his lack of wanting. Should you have sex? No, unless you want to. There's no rule book that says you have to. It's not essential to your life (unless you want to procreate, I guess, but you could always adopt).

Just fucking relax. 20 years is still young. Even if you're 40 yrs old and a virgin, so fucking what?

Stan, my dad always used to beg me to go out when I wasin my mid-teens. "Why don't you go OUT! TO CLUBS!" I was like, no, I rather sit home, in my comfy couch and read. Or hang out the window and watch my peers going out. He just couldn't understand why I prefered staying home.

re-assuring

zackly.

Use protection. That is all I can advise. If it is going to happen, be prepared.

Also, the thread did contain a request: BAN TEH_KIT.
It was actually intended for discussion of the zing/DIGGING culture that is becomng more and more common on ILX. Hence the LINK from this thread.

So now, we're both cluttering this thread, discussing TWO different off topic issues instead of one.

Hence my saying "as an admin, fucking useless."

The thing is of course that it ain't gonna happen unless you pursue it. You have to make sure that you create the opportunity.

then you should have made that clear from the start, shouldn't you?

but even so i'm not convinced that sort of thread should be on Mod Request Board anyway. what do you expect moderators to do about 'zing/digging culture' exactly?

instead of asking for yourself to be banned perhaps try exercising more self control.

you'll never get to narnia that way :(

There's no rush.

It was actually intended for discussion of the zing/DIGGING culture

Then say this. Having to decode a question before answering it is of interest to no-one.

i. the thread you start had an imcomprehensible title (to anyone who hadn't read this thread)
ii. the thread contained no parsable content in re yr topic (to anyone who hadn't read this thread)
iii. the thread shouldn't have been on the mods board

the hazing ritual for anan threads abt hard-to-express emotional questions relates to the fact that lots of ilx posters are more worried that the original poster is posting in bad faith than they are about the issue treated as an objective subject of enquiry

(ie they are pre-emptive anti-troll zings)

sex is no different than anything else that a vast majority of the human race does. you don't have to do it, but the more of these common things you deny yourself, the more disconnected you'll feel from society at large.

and like someone else said upthread, this may be a typical "guy" answer but who cares who you lose your virginity to. it's not some magical moment like kate and louis will have you imagine. yeah, it's better to be in love, but it isn't necessary. just find someone attractive and have recreational sex.

This was me. I'm 29 now, have only had sex with a person who doesn't really count.

I don't fucking know.

I was psychologically abused by this person, who played a sick joke on me, and we didn't have sex.

I went to University of Michigan, this monster went to Eastern Michigan University.

This shell of a person played a sick joke on me.

i'm drunk, lol.

i had two mental hospital stays after this sick joke was played on me.

it sounds like not having sex may be the least of your issues

Try not having a drink instead. Seriously.

gonna/about to pass out.

a really sick joke was played on me in ann arbor. it was a really sick joke - pulled by some kids.

i'll either go to michigan state or dartmouth after this, for a transfer. (i don't like talking about it because of the stigma, but i'm native american and can probably go to dartmouth).

a very sick joke was played on me. i feel violent, sometimes.

i hate myself for feeling this way.

i've talked to four therapists about it.... it hurts to talk about it, and makes things worse.

i have ptsd now, and also, stupid psychiatist said i had schizophrenia.

i can5 see straight or read my las5 pow5

i figured it was you

i don't know what you expect from this forum given the way people who are obviously hurting get treated. you seem in a worse place than four years ago.

with love.

sexy

hurting has socks? that's a LOT of posting