everybody on ilx complains about reddit

Woah how do u unfollow someone's retweets?

If you block someone they won't show up in retweets. If you go to a user's page you can turn off stuff they retweet.

that ask a woman shit looks gross as fuck

"ask a woman," do we really need a forum for this

tell me about yr boobs x 100000

"ask a woman," do we really need a forum for this

― purp (roxymuzak), Friday, February 22, 2013 12:34 AM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

would read an ask frogbs forum ftr

http://www.reddit.com/r/treessuckingonthings

^^^ may singlehandedly justify reddit's existence

Reading this right now

http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/18yfd0/i_am_a_native_american_social_worker_working_on_a/

guys hang on, do vaginas have teeth or not
this could change everything

So HOOS linked to this article about Mensrights bros and nice guys of Okcupid on twitter, and the real revelation was that there's a meme called Fiona Friendzone (or Friendzone Fiona) and the picture of the meme is of our girl stockphoto female student.jpeg. I'd link to it but I'm not on my computer.

So she's spawned two memes now.

those fiends

http://knowyourmeme.com/photos/187428-friend-zone-fiona

wheres yr backpack girl

http://i0.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/000/187/433/Screen-shot-2011-08-17-at-1.38.56-PM.png

honestly reddit shes out of yr league

def

but hey reddit, at least you have a friend now to whom you can ask all those "what signals do you give off to a guy who's creepy" questions.

trees sucking on things A+

Possible reason why all this friendzone shit is so creepy number 1 million: you very rarely get the sense that the guy who complains about being friendzoned actually, in any way, could be said to 'love' the girl in question. He's essentially making a legal argument about how much he may have expended on driving trips or gifts, what signals the girl might have sent, what they might reasonably have been construed to mean, and how much sexual attention he is therefore entitled to.

It's like listening to someone discussing a dispute between two businesses or about an extension to a house. I wonder if it has something to do with 'litigation culture', if that's a thing.

Not that the guy being in love, or 'in love', or whatever, would suddenly make everything okay. It's more the complete absence of emotion in the 'friendzone' discourse adding an extra level of awful

it's the very definition of patriarchy in some ways. Women as exclusively sexual property.

it's capitalism, man

everything has an exchange value

dozen roses delivered to you at the office = one blowjob

waiter, this coke you brought me, it has too much ice and not enough coke. don't you know that I am furnishing your salary. I am taking this out of your tip. fuck you and die.

feel like oh so scandalized reactions to pua culture from men are always a little the lady doth protest too much.

Because PUA culture promotes a load of horrible shit that's already there in your head if you're a man?

I can totally see myself thinking along the lines of 'I am owed' whatever, 'I need to use whatever trick', but then I can also see myself getting to the point where I'd, I don't know, physically attack an enemy, the point is not doing it and not getting into a culture that unlocks shitty potential

*re: relationships

case closed

hey now no need to be essentialist

nobody has the potential for this shit, it's all acquired, no need to give yourself a crutch

the point is to learn how to think about yourself and others completely differently, with communication honesty and respect in the mix and maybe see a therapist.

I meant 'see myself' in quite a distant sense there

Notion of X service meriting Y sexual response/X social, linguistic 'signal' having Y significance, and this signification being static, is still totally weird

thing about the "friendzone" is that it's usually the result of a creepy manipulative guy not making his intentions clear and this not having to face the consequences of those intentions. It's like when people go on "dates" without either being sure it's a date. Plausible deniability.

reddit (and other for-profit media linking sites) are based on that kind of exchange so it isn't too surprising to see these weird communities finding a home there.

http://terrordaves.files.wordpress.com/2012/08/poltergeist-tree.jpg

/feel like oh so scandalized reactions to pua culture from men are always a little the lady doth protest too much/

naw it is really shockingly terrible, like ive done some manipulative shit before but I had to rely on my own dark instincts

its the whole message board science aspect that really takes it to the next level

lag∞n otm. Also I know people who have attended 'workshops' and 'conferences'

I'm reading The Game - it's interesting how often he veers close to admitting that these are just the saddest losers ever and that for all the "pickup artist magic" they're seemingly only sleeping with 1% of the women whose numbers they even get.

That implies they're getting at least 100 numbers? Calling bs on that one, pal.

100 total across the entire community

Not that the guy being in love, or 'in love', or whatever, would suddenly make everything okay. It's more the complete absence of emotion in the 'friendzone' discourse adding an extra level of awful

The great irony is that guys who complain about "friendzones" are the people who would gain the most from having more platonic female friends.

Besides, what is a boyfriend but the greatest, most ultimate kind of friend? King of the Friends, the Chairmen of the Friendzone Board.

Friend Sinatra

Friendz Ferdinand

guys who complain about "friendzones" are the people who would gain the most from chemical castration

What about those poor kids with crushes that just can't seem to get her to feel the same back? Seriously though the term is usually wielded by the scumbags, not those people.

is indeed*

there is basically this thing when you're 14 or whatever and have no idea how to interact with people and you don't understand what it even means to ask somebody out, and the unrequited crush and the unreciprocated affection, and on the other hand, with people who are also 14 and the recipient of that sort of thing and don't know how to firmly reject it because really nobody knows fuck-all at that age, and the advice from tv isn't very good, and shit is confusing regardless.

but then ten years later if you haven't learned something and figured some of that out, it's a whole different thing.

and huuge difference too beween the teenage one-true-love romantic nonsense and then figuring out how to interact with others in more direct and honest (and also less vulnerable ways) and on the other hand just going out and attempting to stick your bits in anything that moves.

the creepy part is really the way interactions with other people are gamified or whatever and stuck with these bizarre terms and dissected until there's basically no actual element of human connection left.