Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I doubt I take a good picture of myself! Probably one that focuses in on my own biases.

plus if someone else takes it I might not be looking up and to the left, with a camera held over my head

I look wretched in most, if not all, candids. But I think I am reasonably attractive.

only one solution: a trip to your local mall's Glamour Shots

Candid shots never accurately capture my duckface or my peace sign.

Gah now I'm paranoid and want to go change all my damn photos.

Nah just add one!

Or just do what you want! Everyone has different standards and cares about different things. I never gave a rip if all of someone had nothing but selfpics on their profile. I'm pretty sure that was the case for the lady I'm kinda sorta seeing now, and I'm glad as hell I didn't write her off over that. People be overcorrecting on their OKC standards, damn.

Gah now I'm paranoid and want to go change all my damn photos.

you seem to be doing fine with your current photos tbh

unless you're trying to pick up polyphonic, i mean

Def isn't a dealbreaker for me even. Just something that makes me go hmm </c&c>

And for good reasons, as you explained them! Its easy to have kneejerk reactions for all kinds of reasons, too. I always go "yuck no" at anyone with a beard, and I really should stop that.

And likewise I'm sure i lose a TON of great potential mates because I say I smoke.

yeah but tbf you can just stop smoking, a beard is 4 lyfe

Def isn't a dealbreaker for me even. Just something that makes me go hmm </c&c>

Funny you should put it that way, as one of my OKC dealbreakers now is if she happens to be Freedom Williams' niece.</it'sherworldandi'mjustasquirrell>

I really enjoy politely writing to people to say, "well, thanks for your interest, but you have a few deal-breaker answers." (Things about abortion, homosexuality, etc.) Ha, it's almost like I don't really want to meet ppl at all.

In other news, the okc guy I've been seeing (well, seen twice...does that count?) blew off our plans tonight. Legit reasons, but it was annoying because he did it AFTER he was supposed to pick me up, ie. after I had shaved and put on makeup and shit. I didn't realize how much I was looking forward to it. UGH. I'b lonely.

Like, it's totally fine, but I handle these things poorly. There're so many built-up bad experiences and feelings of rejection and whatnot that it's hard to put small disappointments in perspective.

Ha, my previous datebloke did that to me a couple of times too. Not for any malicious reasons: he's just a weird combo of aspie forgetful and lazy. Once I said "aw and I'd just shaved and everything" and he replied "but I like your beard!". Nutbar.

I'm missing him terribly. I know, I know.

if only you were as forgiving of beards

Haha, yeah I don't think they appreciate how annoying it is to shave. I only shave up past my knees if I am like 90% sure it's going down. xpost

ps. Now wants to go eat? WTF. The paranoid in me thinks, "oh! I guess your other plans you made on top of our plans fell through!" I really should not be dating.

Oh, please, scraping a blade under our nostrils every day isnt shaving now!

dealbreaker answer imo

Hey try shaving round the ladyparts then get back to me, weaksauce.

(yes I realise the logic of what I just said)

I still live in a civilised country, and thank god for that say i

You've left Ireland?

and he replied "but I like your beard!"

sorry, I laughed

So did I at the time! Thats the bastard's hook, see.

I always go "yuck no" at anyone with a beard

Yes but this is just pure good taste.

:D

(sorry mookie)

Oh, please, scraping a blade under our nostrils every day isnt shaving now!

dealbreaker answer imo

Hey, I'm not the beard-hater here

I wore a fake beard in my profile pic but the ladies aren't fooled

one thing OKC has taught me is there's a lot of ladies out there who really, really like beards.

I am meeting a 99% match, who is a bearded person, this week. If he doesn't disappear like he did between October and February just before our first date was scheduled.

he didn't disappear, he just blended into the natural landscape.

I am afraid that I am about to become someone who might be a deal breaker (currently being tested for celiac).

btw this new profile is a hit!

I will give you five stars because you waited for me while I bought this t-shirt I am wearing.

Celiac should be your "most private thing." xpost

It's overblown. I watch my dates eat meat all the time, they can watch me eat bread and pasta.

And a strangely compellingly attractive 50 year old guy who seems really into me. Tho he has 2 dealbreakers (he has 3 kids, and he's head of, of all things, a fucking uk3l3l3 orchestra!?)

What if his kids were all grown up? (Just curious, not making a case for or against.)

I suppose that is a little different. I forget that by 50 thats entirely probable. Most of my friends have only just started havig babbies and theyre all in their 30s.

My first boyfriend, who I lived with or almost 4 years, had a kid who was 4 y.o. when we met (I was 24). That was weird. Tho the kid's mom (BF's ex-wife) and her family were evil, so the kid wasn't around much.

The other guy I have a big crush on also has kids and for the first time that one doesnt bother me so much? I dont know why!

(just reminiscing about such merry events as when i thought, for no good reason, that the ex-wife and i were galpals so i told her a graphic anecdote about a funny sexual mishap where her ex-husband and i were fucking on our horrible boss' bed and almost got caught. she just said "god a'mighty damn, jesse" and later i got in big trouble w/ my bf for not understanding how to act like a normally socialized member of society.)

Been talking to a sex toy inventor.

who said your town isn't glamorous

I don't know why I'm picturing someone who looks somewhat like Mr. Monopoly except wearing a tophat that's covered in dildos and buttplugs.

Suddenly getting a storm of 50-75% compatible people looking at my profile. Weird.

I got a storm of like 40 people looking at my profile from Utah yesterday

"Greetings from Okinawa! What brand cigarette do you like to smoke?"

Well thats one of the more bizarre messages Ive recieved.

Is it someone in the US military?

^^^probably not helping