Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Now I just have to be willing to engage with the idea of dating for long enough to write...something...respond-to-able

otm

No, you know, that was glib and not true. I like dating when it means meeting people I might want to make out with, to consume alcohol and pay attention to each other. I just hate dangling myself in front of ppl I don't know, puffing up THEIR egos and yet apparently not being impressive enough to write back to.

haha well if it makes you feel any better I only ever got responses to like, 10% of the messages I sent out? puffed up a lot of egos I imagine

Yeah Ive had zero response to any messages ive sent out, its only when I reply to ppl who message me that things go somewhere. Right now my heart's not in it all anyway as I got feels for u-kno-who that ain't going away so I'm kind of keeping okc at arms length, it seems fair.

To celebrate the launch of Crazy Blind Date (our new app)
we’ve removed all photos from OkCupid today.

I was wondering! I went to respond to a msg and CONFUSION!

Yeah, that seems like a super successful endeavor, OKC. As if the entire premise of your site isn't blind date-ish enough as is.

I am seriously grossed out by the age thing sometimes - dudes who are 45-50 think I am appropriate for them. WTF!? I am sure they message women younger than me, too.

wtf@ the blind date shit. There is NO way I'd want to meet someone site unseen from ANYWHERE. I have actually done that once or twice in my very distant past and it was ABYSMAL BEYOND WORDS.

Er, sight unseen even, haha, pardon the pun.

A lot of women really like to use photos of themselves among their friends without pointing out which person is them... and a surprising amount of the time I can't tell!

Yeah that seems pretty reprehensible for a dating site.

Etiquette dictates you draw a little arrow pointing at you with MS Paint

I have the same complaint about some WDYLL posts.

Etiquette dictates you draw a little arrow pointing at you with MS Paint blur their faces out so you look like you're in the party scene in Jacob's Ladder

http://rhizome.org/editorial/2013/jan/15/nice-guys/

On its surface, the “Nice Guy” meme appears merely to generalize a specific psychological condition.

This stereotyping would not be so terrible were it not usually married to a high-pitched tone of moral alarm and indignation. This tone transmits a large and important cultural meme: The idea that when women choose to have sex they should be meting out some sort of cosmic justice; ordering the universe by rules of honor that are essentially fair—instead of, say, procuring their own sexual satisfaction, or merely to ward off boredom.

No one expects this of men—whom everyone agrees are “dogs”—but calling that a double-standard would be a little like calling Google “a website.” True, but it’s also more a structure that gives lightning-quick access to a massive extended network of double-standards.

The Nice Guy complaint has become a primary and self-obscuring—primary because self-obscuring—way to argue that female sexuality carries an additional moral dimension, one that lies beyond the more straightforward matter of self-determination, and is, within this framework, clearly more significant.

The trick is to distract attention away from the moral prerogative being asserted in the conversation—the right of the male speaker to act as moral arbiter of the female subject’s sexual desires—and direct it toward a third-party, whose moral virtues, or lack thereof, then become the most immediate and most easily apprehensible topic of debate.

some of those illustrative comics are supremely revolting

the article itself is excellent

great paragraphs of our time:

MRA culture grew out of various masculine revivalist movements of the 90s and early 2000s: the right-wing moralism of the Promise Keepers; the revenge-fantasy sociopathy of the “seduction community” cataloged by Neil Strauss in The Game; Nu Metal.

"; Nu Metal" is going to do the trick in most cases.

i briefly thought neil strauss's book was called the game: nu metal

I don't know what nu metal is but I have a date on Friday. Just a first one, chill.

I think my new year's OKC resolution is going to completely ignore the lists of music and movies when deciding who to message. Not books though. Baby steps.

going to be, that is

I fervently support your resolution. I'm reasonably well-read, with coherent/decent music taste, but really hate making books-and-music-that-define-me lists. And I'm musically out of date.

i specified on my list of stuff i like that lists of stuff you like isn't important to the "do i like you?" decision-making process

I should also add I am going to update my lists of stuff.

lists of stuff is the only thing i miss about this, make 'em in my head now, fantasy culture canon 2k13

All but one of the six/seven aforementioned ladies who were all "Hey, let's meet up!" over a week ago have dropped off the face of the earth, and the one remaining rainchecked a first date from last weekend due to illness. Haven't heard from her since, though, but I figure I'll give it a solid week before I just shut down my profile altogether. Pretty much over this constant flighty, flaky nonsense and I might have something brewing in The Real World so whatever.

aw :(

Like, I'm currently busting my hump looking for a job, so that's really filling my quota of wasting time on attempts at attracting the interest of people who couldn't care less at the moment, thanks.

OKC *and* applying for jobs at once is way too much indifference to subject yourself to.

Feelin' ya, Old Lunch. Was talking to five people about potentially meeting up, all of them seem to be busy now or have just ignored me entirely. Maybe they're too busy with other dates. This site can really get you down.

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424127887323374504578217973101313736.html

yeeesh

I'd gotten lazy and cribbed from my résumé

shit guys, I just accidentally posted my résumé on okcupid and sent a hiring manager my dating profile :(

http://i.huffpost.com/gen/678735/thumbs/o-NIC-CAGE-RESUME-570.jpg

still the best way to apply for a job

google bar at bottom best bit

I assumed that daters lied about their weight. I certainly rounded down. What shocked me, though, was how many women seemed to be lying about their height. All of the 96 women I interacted with listed their height as between 5-foot-1 and 5-foot-3, even though the average height of an American woman is 5-foot-4. Though it isn't impossible that 100% of these women would have fallen below the average, it's statistically improbable. (Plus, you could tell from their photos that most of the women were taller than they said.) These women assumed that men wanted shorter, more petite dates, and they appeared to be right. Why? Because men lie about their height, too.

This shit is so stupid. So, so stupid. Not in the article, just that people give a shit about such minor details, and that people are so willing to lie pointlessly.

Yyyyyyyyyyup. I'd have zero qualms about instantly aborting a date with anyone who blatantly misrepresented themselves in some similar way. Because what else are they lying about? And dumb shit like the "straighten your hair, curly headed ladies!" nonsense in that article. Just...shut up and stop dispensing stupid advice, damaged lady.

I don't know, I find little white lies reassuring. That lady, I have no idea though. Cannot relate.

I don't know that I pay attention to height other than a vague "small, medium, large" compared to my own stature.

And...account disabled. It wasn't a total waste this time 'round as I thankfully met someone who's quickly become a friend. But still.

http://creepywhiteguys.tumblr.com/

Oh my goooooddddddd D:

Only two entries?? I feel cheated.

lol I think it was just launched today

konichiwa bitches

When I heard all the horrors messages girls received I stopped using OKC.
The fact that only girl replied in maybe 40 attempts also was key to my decision.