I certainly have had this idiotic tendency to drag mediocre relationships out interminably in the past. I think I'd attribute its demise more to maturity and insight than constantly pursuing relationships to learn about myself. You can learn that stuff through other social interactions than spree dating, I would guess.
― mh, Monday, 7 January 2013 20:10 (eleven years ago) link
He worries that, with so many alternatives available, he won’t be willing to wait. ... He wants to be a nice guy, but he knows that sooner or later he’s going to start coming across as a serious asshole.
lol
― grossly incorrect register (in orbit), Monday, 7 January 2013 20:14 (eleven years ago) link
good unintentional invocation of "nice guy" trope
― mh, Monday, 7 January 2013 20:15 (eleven years ago) link
I think I might be ready to have crushy feelings again. I haven't had the energy to bother with anyone lately, if I'm being honest, but I might now. I should make okc work a little harder for me.
― grossly incorrect register (in orbit), Monday, 7 January 2013 20:19 (eleven years ago) link
How much of the enchantment associated with romantic love has to do with scarcity (this person is exclusively for me), and how will that enchantment hold up in a marketplace of abundance (this person could be exclusively for me, but so could the other two people I’m meeting this week)?
"Exclusively for me" is such a weird way to frame a first date. In fact I'm comfortable saying it's a bad way.
― grossly incorrect register (in orbit), Monday, 7 January 2013 20:29 (eleven years ago) link
that's just how it works, you're shopping for the person you're going to take home and lock in your fortress forever
― mh, Monday, 7 January 2013 20:30 (eleven years ago) link
Yeah, it's a pretty terrible article all around. Wouldn't be surprised if "Jacob" was the author.
― Vinnie, Monday, 7 January 2013 20:33 (eleven years ago) link
finally wrote up a full profile, feeling a wee bit intimidated also weirdly like browsing on Amazon
― Kindle Nagasaki (Noodle Vague), Monday, 7 January 2013 21:00 (eleven years ago) link
i get what you're saying (i think) L, about 'exclusively for me' but tbh this- how will that enchantment hold up in a marketplace of abundance (this person could be exclusively for me, but so could the other two people I’m meeting this week)? sometimes strikes me as the way a lot of people go about this these days. i'm all for an open marketplace and all, but idk does it leave a person always waiting for the next, better date to come along, and i'm not sure how *i* would cope like that (well, i'm sure- i wouldn't).
not that the two positions sketched out are the only two available, of course.
― let's bitch about our stupid, annoying co-ilxors (darraghmac), Monday, 7 January 2013 22:13 (eleven years ago) link
next better date only works within reason, anyway
it's like traveling on the interstate highway system, thinking "oh, I'm not too hungry yet, I'll wait until the next city" and that place ends up being two hours away due to a traffic jam and all they have that's still open is applebees
― mh, Monday, 7 January 2013 22:20 (eleven years ago) link
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secretary_problem
― s.clover, Tuesday, 8 January 2013 02:39 (eleven years ago) link
The problem has a strikingly elegant solution.
― mookieproof, Tuesday, 8 January 2013 02:40 (eleven years ago) link
ok i'm sold. how do i figure out what e, the base of the natural logarithm, is?
― messiahwannabe, Tuesday, 8 January 2013 02:57 (eleven years ago) link
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/E_(mathematical_constant)
― mh, Tuesday, 8 January 2013 03:03 (eleven years ago) link
Glad they went on to talk about the unknown quantity problem, as that was a glaringly obvious flaw in the 'strikingly elegant' solution.
― emil.y, Tuesday, 8 January 2013 03:27 (eleven years ago) link
^^ knows her stuff
― mh, Tuesday, 8 January 2013 04:13 (eleven years ago) link
man, that's filthy. 'n rankable applicants'
― j., Tuesday, 8 January 2013 04:33 (eleven years ago) link
keepin on trollin
http://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/01/sympathy-for-the-nice-guys-of-okcupid/266929/
― goole, Wednesday, 9 January 2013 19:25 (eleven years ago) link
I thought The Atlantic was supposed to be, like, SMART? Why are they publishing non-articles?
― check the name, no caps, boom, i'm (Laurel), Wednesday, 9 January 2013 20:02 (eleven years ago) link
atlantic has a long history of trolling on anything involving feminism/gender
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 9 January 2013 20:12 (eleven years ago) link
Their web presence is pretty much standard blogroll click bait now
― mh, Wednesday, 9 January 2013 20:31 (eleven years ago) link
I am suddenly a hot commodity on OkC, but seemingly okay dudes! And right when I am in the throes of a very dramatic affair. Interesting.
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 9 January 2013 22:08 (eleven years ago) link
pvmic!
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 9 January 2013 22:10 (eleven years ago) link
indeed
― oralita buttrose (electricsound), Wednesday, 9 January 2013 22:17 (eleven years ago) link
http://i.imgur.com/Zp0Lt.png
― 乒乓, Thursday, 10 January 2013 18:49 (eleven years ago) link
loll
― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Friday, 11 January 2013 02:53 (eleven years ago) link
Aw someone called me "scoopable."
He lives in Seattle.
― grossly incorrect register (in orbit), Friday, 11 January 2013 03:03 (eleven years ago) link
scoopable in seattle
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Friday, 11 January 2013 03:19 (eleven years ago) link
shit, I meant to type scoopless in seattle
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Friday, 11 January 2013 03:20 (eleven years ago) link
Nice try tho
― grossly incorrect register (in orbit), Friday, 11 January 2013 03:21 (eleven years ago) link
one day
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Friday, 11 January 2013 03:22 (eleven years ago) link
looks like you just got ... scooped
― 乒乓, Friday, 11 January 2013 03:24 (eleven years ago) link
*puts on sunglasses*
― 乒乓, Friday, 11 January 2013 03:25 (eleven years ago) link
holds out ice cream scoop
― mh, Friday, 11 January 2013 04:52 (eleven years ago) link
would scoop
― mookieproof, Friday, 11 January 2013 04:53 (eleven years ago) link
Just call me scoop jackson (rip)
― mh, Friday, 11 January 2013 04:54 (eleven years ago) link
Ha, the most compatible woman I've seen in weeks and she smokes cigars and owns a gun. OKC is clearly mocking me.
― Yo Leon, what's this all about? (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Friday, 11 January 2013 07:44 (eleven years ago) link
i think that seattle guy wants to 'scoop and score' i.e. have intercrosse with you
xpost
― bed raggled (qiqing), Friday, 11 January 2013 09:14 (eleven years ago) link
Had date with a comedian last night. It was mostly excruciating - comedo-persona ordered drinks, told me about his career, etc. - but when he lapsed out of comedo-man, I learnt all this really interesting stuff about Canadian politics and the unions! However, NO.
― ljubljana, Friday, 11 January 2013 11:51 (eleven years ago) link
Uuugh. I think that might be an anomaly, fwiw. I can't imagine anyone I personally know in the comedy community endeavouring to act like anything but a human being on a first date. Or maybe I'm just really lucky to know mostly unbroken (relatively unbroken, let's be straight) people in the comedy community.
― The Poston & Henning Variety Jamboree (Old Lunch), Friday, 11 January 2013 15:35 (eleven years ago) link
He wasn't being his 'stage' persona, I don't think, but he was playing up the 'I'm THIS sort of EXTROVERTED PERSON who is ANIMATED, DO YOU SEE???' type... deal... I certainly won't judge a whole community based on 3 hours with an individual! Anyway, when he quit all that, he was very intelligent and interesting to listen to. He just didn't quit it often enough.
― ljubljana, Friday, 11 January 2013 16:06 (eleven years ago) link
And that is why no theater people.
― grossly incorrect register (in orbit), Friday, 11 January 2013 16:09 (eleven years ago) link
comedo-persona ordered drinks
oh my god i am so sorry
― goole, Friday, 11 January 2013 17:29 (eleven years ago) link
no churchfaces, no theater people, no one who is disturbingly enthusiastic
― mh, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:49 (eleven years ago) link
the more i hear about ok cupid the more i think it is just sociopath training
― maura, Friday, 11 January 2013 23:39 (eleven years ago) link
sorry everybody
except not really
basically i think you're describing the internet.
― s.clover, Saturday, 12 January 2013 01:03 (eleven years ago) link
or that portion of it populated by young people. young people are terrible! i'm ashamed that i was one.
― s.clover, Saturday, 12 January 2013 01:04 (eleven years ago) link
sociopath in seatt.... nevermind.
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Saturday, 12 January 2013 02:10 (eleven years ago) link
churchfaces?
― Una Stubbs' Tears (Trayce), Saturday, 12 January 2013 02:35 (eleven years ago) link