Babygirl, unpack yr sweaters and get FABULOUS in FALL gay homo queer &c 2012

But seriously can we all talk about other fun things? Sympathies are appreciated and I love you all bu I don't want this to be Alex's personal getting over a breakup thread

Right! Let's discuss this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0E6KYHxvEGg&feature=fvsr

well, okay, i won't give sympathies or whatever, but i'm just weighing in on some things that have been said here...

- re: the time thing with lex: i agree with dr3w, at least in terms of cohabitation and that sort of thing. it's not about "making time," it's about sharing time, and if it feels too much like you're "making time" for someone, then it can turn weird and full of resentment. my bf and i have been together for over a year and a half, we live together, but we definitely have different lives. we work on things at the same time— i write, he draw (he's a tattoo artist)— but a lot of the time, we see each other at the beginning of a day, then by noon we're off doing different things, then by 8 or 9 we're back at home getting ready to go out or just cooking and drinking beer and watching Dr. Who (which is what we did last night).

also, dr3w, for some reason i think it is telling that we have the same routine re: food and etc. i make the coffee in the morning, and when i come home, he's usually all ready with some food to cook and we either do it together or i DJ and he cooks. anyway...

- re: fights....we've had probably three major blowouts ever, one of them a few weeks ago. i cried all night and couldn't sleep. then we met up the next day and talked for a bit and everything was fine. i've had relationships where fighting was more of a feature, but even those turned into major life-long friendships, which brings me to...

- alex, my boy and i broke up for a while because he felt similarly to jf, but after about a month, we came together again and have been together ever since. sometimes absence and space gives a person the clarity they need to realize how much you mean to them. my bf has certainly told me as much. anyway, what i'm saying is don't stress about it, and don't let him preoccupy your thoughts, but it can 'come around' again, if both of you are willing to work on it and realize what made the problems exist in the first place. obviously, this is all conjecture, but it CAN happen, and i'm really glad it happened to me.

- also, love you all. wish i could spend more time on here, but with school, job stuff, and finishing up this goddamn book, i'm swamped.

i'm just glad i finished that essay on Wojnarowicz....which i never emailed to you, jo3, sorry. will do today.

it's not about cohabitation! that might make it easier! because we don't live together, and in fact live at opposite ends of london, i feel like when he comes over or when i go over, pretty much 100% of our attention is on each other. like it'd be stupid for me to do work while he's around if we only see each other a couple of times per week. and i enjoy that, except because my time management is an utter disaster it also stresses me out because it means the things i need to get done...don't get done even more.

or, it is that thing of being comfortable living separate lives, except by the time we should be getting together again, i haven't finished the things i need to have finished. this was a problem i had when i was single and adding one more time commitment to the mix is not helping matters.

Ohmygodohmygodohmygod I just spent the last hour hanging out w Justin Vivian Bond, so so incredible, one of the best shows I've seen in God knows how long and also a super amazing person to boot. I think I'm starstruck.

If any of you ever get even the most remote of opportunities to see v, drop plans/reschedule parties/call in sick/etc. I mean my hopes were p high as it was but this completely exceeded all expectations.

I enjoyed the one solo show I've seen, but still nostalgic for K&H.

Ha, I had to look up who that was, but I saw Kiki & Herb in hs bc my girlfriend wanted to....

She's now married to a woman she met on her rugby team.

Mx Bond did an amazing cover of "What a Bastard the World Is" when I saw her perform. Also one of B and I's first dates.

so ph1l did a google search for the weird aspie-ish, possibly-gay baker at his place of employment and found out he's an artist who does stuff like this: nsfw

ha and a blurb in the first page of google results compares him to a.a. bronson

that's pretty rad!

I went to a party chez Bond a couple years ago and I'd been in studio and was self-conscious about studio smell. I slipped in the bathroom and gave myself a spritz of a cologne that was there. Justin was standing outside the bathroom door when I emerged and sniffed and snapped "did you just spray yourself with my cologne?" and I blushed bright red and said "NO" and charged out of there.

so two nights have dancing have been an A+ success, although my stomach is not liking me/reacting poorly to most things i eat, which i'm just assuming is a physical manifestation of my moodiness rather than some kind of sickness.

last night a totally jaw-dropping boy talked to me for an hour or more about music which was a nice reminder that i am an interesting person who people like, although in the light of late-afternoon i still haven't folded the laundry i brought back from JF's place on wednesday and still need to get schoolwork done. but i can manage it in the next three hours if i put my mind to it.

Alex: awesome!

yeah. i mean i don't think it will/don't want it to go anywhere. it's just nice to have no stakes crushes and remember that people find me interesting.

Perhaps your stomach is still reeling from conversation with Jaw-Dropping Boy.

nah. just feeling weird. not really focused on that. it was a pleasant afterthought, not the focus of the evening/today.

You are an innnnteresting person, Alex (and I don't mean that like Bugs Bunny the manicurist).

I had a bit of a stomach issue this morning, I shoulda been tipped off when my pancakes tasted a bit like soap. No idea what happened there.

I am in to stay for the night/day/night however long the NYC hurricane/flood lasts, although I am sposed to go to chemo at 2pm tomorrow.

Have good chemo Morbs

There is 70-80% chance that I will be moving to Montreal before the year is out

Even bf is on board, holy crap, I've lived in the same city for 15 years

Awesome! Living my dream...

Morbs (and others affected), stay safe.

hey! cool. there is a 70-80% chance that I will end up leaving Montreal within a year and a half. :(

But here's to some degree of overlap.

Wait I just read the Frankenstorm thread-- I have been in an internet-free zone for three days-- stay safe, holy shits!

There's a 99% chance I'll be in Windsor for (probably) two more years. *sigh*

oh shit. that's hitting new york? a few days ago i was hearing virginia. be safe, ppl.

As in you aren't supposed to have had the interment for the last three days (but have anyway, miraculously), or you were not supposed to have been using the internet for the last three days (but have anyway, defiantly)?

No internet with intermittent insomniac moments of iPhone surfing

I was in rural Quebec! No internet but there was a hot tub and a bottle of Orcadian whiskey. This past week has been catching up with QC freoinds and family

o - have plans been delayed, or should i still be ready to head out in the next 30 minutes?

bf and i really want to visit montreal after winter's gloom passes. i've never been (to montreal, or even out of the country)

Would actually like to experience Montreal in winter some time, though maybe I'm crazy.

chicago is shitty enough in winter, though at least there are fewer people walking around

Montreal looks beautiful in winter and there are lots of things to do still as a tourist but I find myself having more inertia during the winter that prevents me from really going out to concerts and parties and whatnot to the same degree.

Summer is all festivals which are a lot of fun as long as you avoid the most intensely out-of-town touristy stuff.

Yesterday my roommate messaged me on Scruff from his bedroom upstairs asking me if I wanted to go downstairs and make breakfast w/ him.

Somehow that feels like the logical conclusion of Scruff usage, you won the game

It was really adorable and funny.

Also, people keep abbreviating Center City (a part if Philly) and putting it in their username to make things like "CCStudMuffin" which sounds like a character in some genderfuck cabaret

http://www.esquire.com/cm/esquire/images/cc-club-lg.jpg

I went to the wedding at the weekend. Free bar, no food => so drunk I had to (ALLEGEDLY) be carried home. When I woke up I hadn't been dumped :D And then I strode across Hampstead Heath for three hours the next day. He's in Italy. I might think about making him a mixtape this week but I still don't know his email address

oh my god lex.

watching you do this brings me so much joy it's not even funny.

like. this is totally adorable.

i am attempting to shift my headspace from 'all too well' to 'holy ground' somewhat unsuccessfully, and i slept through my morning class, but i'm getting work done now, so i'll take victories where i can find them.

I am FAR from the soppiness you imply there. FAR from it.

also lol @ people liking a picture of us on facebook like I was some sort of hopeless single case before kmt

Weren't you?

wait -- the wedding had free bar and no food? Or you chose not to eat?

i may have not made it into the room with the food (it would only have been canapés anyway, not proper food)

i am attempting to shift my headspace from 'all too well' to 'holy ground' somewhat unsuccessfully

"all too well" actually does this itself though