Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Except just wanting to have sex is pretty much the worst reason ever to go on a dating site, right?

haha idk it might've worked for me. Not to be gross.
I decided I was just going to do machine gun approach to this, hit up as many cute guys as possible, and say yes to anyone w/out any obvious red flags. It's made me grow a lot I think! Sometimes it's agonizing. But I imagine it as rust falling off my chitinous exoskeleton or something. IDK maybe Gregor Samsa-flavored pep talks are not what you need.

I am still seeing one okc person, very slowly, and getting to rly like him, slowly, and it's working? I keep waiting for him to disappear, actually, but he hasn't--yet. The slowly part has given me time to not be that into him > start to think differently > look again > get attracted > get a terrible crush > get OVER crush > still be attracted > ???

why do you keep waiting for him to disappear?

the "not attracted to her" bit is how every relationship i've ever been in started.

Oh, because it's a very loose association stretching over two months without blowing up into anything more intense. I think we might be out-nonchalanting each other a bit tho not, I think, to ill effect.

seems like maybe LJBF but in a good way

I don't know what that means.

let's just be friends

Ah, no.

oh you meant "in a good way" - i'm not really into you, you're not really into me, but hey we do like eacy other, let's go on this way and see what happens

saw a profile called 'weinventyou' and thought it was Z S and clicked on it and it wasn't

I would do the "machine gun" approach but I literally do not see one single cute guy. Am I in the ugly pool? Also I get grossed out by their profiles, too. I have a couple of deal breakers:

- Guys whose age range starts at 18 and ends at their age (or sometimes, even two years younger)
- Guys who mention their "healthy lifestyle" and how fit they are in the intro paragraph (yawn, talk to me about the books you're reading... not how you're a gym rat)
- Favorite books are Dan Brown, Ayn Rand, The Tao of Pooh, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, or Eckhardt Tolle... or anything that was required highschool reading (Of Mice and Men, etc)
- Six things they couldn't live without and one of them is sex
- I spend a lot of time thinking about: sex
- Answered the question about women being obligated to shave their legs, art being important to them, whether they'd date an overweight person, or if intelligence turns them on with shitty answers (Shitty answer key: Yes, No, No, No)

Sorry, I should say with the above deal breakers it rules out about 90% of the profiles I view.

I'm hate-reading Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance right now. It is really irritating.

If you're a white dude talking about Zen and your name isn't Leonard Cohen, I don't wanna hear about it.

That list of dealbreakers makes me feel a little better about my OKC experience, inasmuch as none of them apply to me. But maybe those are the dudes who get all of the attention and that's why hardly anyone seems interested in my profile? Saaaaad trombone.

If they are getting all the attn, and I'm not saying they are, but even supposing that's true, they can't be getting it from anyone you'd want to know! I mean look at those qualities.

I'm hate-reading Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance right now. It is really irritating.

<3

If they are getting all the attn, and I'm not saying they are, but even supposing that's true, they can't be getting it from anyone you'd want to know!

Too true, too true.

i'm trying out a new-ish thing and it's great so far. sorry that is purposefully vague!

If someone answers the question "In a certain light, wouldn't nuclear war be exciting?" with "No, it wouldn't." it ends up being a dealbreaker for me. How would that not be exciting?!

I think I'd be the reverse.

the hazy light of the nuclear winter as the sun tries vainly to penetrate the shrouded shrinking veil surrounding the dying earth

... sounds like a blast!

The aftermath wouldn't be too exciting, but the war itself would be batshit!

I think it's possible to separate excitement from horror and dread and sorrow.

(just droppin' in here guys. not single or anything)

I don't see why it's necessary to separate those feelings. That's just me.

Now I feel like a psycho. Anyway, it won't matter soon as I'm chucking my account. Being on there gives me the willies.

yes it would be v. exciting as in not-boring

Me & Texas both answered yes to the nuclear war question. Probably a big red flag right there.

So you can handle nuclear war, but not the willies. xpost

yes

But willies are awesome. Have we learned nothing from Death Grips?

My okc gentleman caller knows about ilx now, I may have to stop posting even the vaguest of updates. What I get for trying to check the debate thread while on a date.

I think I discovered the perfect first date w/a stranger conversation topic: jury duty.
Yesterday went on a second date w/a dude (not the one who texts in Spanish, he was a little weird in person). We drove out to the San Xavier mission to check all the horror vacui gore, and then ate fry bread and tried unsuccessfully to call 1-800-O-CANADA. We also ate grapes and watched a documentary called Sweetgrass that had a lot of sheep birthing scenes. He has the coolest, yellowest cat ever.

I wish I understood the Death Grips reference. If anyone could help me get over my willies issue it'd be Zach Hill. x-post

their latest album cover is a picture of a willy.

heehee

i have trouble convincing non-Americans with real healthcare policies where <i>anyone</i> can get health coverage how common this is in the US, where some ppl can't get insurance unless they have a spouse whose coverage they can latch onto. I know two people who have married largely for this reason.

http://washingtondc.craigslist.org/doc/w4m/3322133943.html

I think things are going ok w/the last dude I mentioned bcz I am meeting his parents tomorrow :/

You never know, I dated someone who took me to meet his parents and then a month later said he was surprised I thought he was my boyfriend.

so two irl (female) friends who use okcupid have told me that they never message first because they are 'traditionalists'

so maybe I have to start being more of a 'traditionalist' and start being a first messenger?

you basically just have to send out a bunch of messages and expect to not get any replies

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/d/dd/Newtraditionalists.jpg/220px-Newtraditionalists.jpg

It's time to seek out new traditions
We know where the old ones took us
And now we are all here together

gotta keep fulfilling that genetic imperative

Question for teh ladeez: when you look at a guy's profile, do you intend to message him if he look intersting, or wait for him to message you first? I assume the former?

one woman I notice has visited my profile like three or four times now and I did wonder if it was some sort "hey, message me you dolt" thing. eros apophenia I guess.

leee & f. hazel - from a guys perspective, i've gotten messaged by a ladeez maybe 3 times in as many years, but have been on way more okcupid dates than that. in other words, i'm pretty sure you're supposed to message first if you're a guy.

i just took this test:

http://www.okcupid.com/the-dating-persona-test

the results were spookily accurate. i like how the 'cupe makes setting up your profile sort of a fun game, then uses the results to help you figure out if you'd get along romantically with someone

Oh I'll always msg a guy if I really like the look of him. Ive learnt not just on OKC but in lyfe that sitting waiting is crap and pointless. Get in there.

personally i think the world would be a better place if more ladies thought like you trayce, but if you're a dude you'd probably be better off not waiting around for someone to message you, you might be holding your breath for a very very long time