Innocuous things that make you irrationally angry (a list thread)

yeah, it's fucked right? He just picks at them, never really -eats- eats them, but he still won't leave them alone. Not sure if cannibal or completely heartbroken anew each weekend.

A few weeks after we got him, he'd finally got the hang of navigating our apartment and flew and landed directly on the yolk of one of my husband's fried eggs. He was so sad as he scraped it into the compost...

My inlaws' electus (female) went into the most bizarre freakout a few years ago and became this crazy hermit-bird in her own weird little nest in the back of the cage and would come out and scream and was pulling out her feathers and we all thought she was having some kind of nervouse breakdown and eventually she laid an egg! it was so weird.

- restaurants that are all cool and trendy by being located in industrial areas such as across the street from a garbage truck lot but don't open until 6 pm.
- dining companions that pick trendy restaurants for dinner and then call to say they will be 15 minutes late.
- standing in front of trendy restaurants waiting for late dining companions with the smell of a garbage truck lot wafting around you.

gross

tell the dining companion to wait for 15 minutes before joining you at the table, so you can make them endure the smell too

This makes me feel like a very old person. Why can't people be on time? Who locates a restaurant across from a parking lot full of garbage trucks??? Is this supposed to be hip? Edgy? Why can't I wait inside where it doesn't reek of garbage?

finding trendy-stuff-in-desolate-industrial-locations more transparent and uninteresting is I guess a good thing about my 30s.

ALSO ironically I did not pee before I left work because our bathroom is especially rank with the smell of poop and BO today and I thought oh I'll just wait an pee at the restaurant! NO! I will instead stand outside in the garbage smell, having to pee.

overheard by a coworker "Yeah...but you can't cook at home for under $20 for two people."

RAGE

This might be true if you're starting from square one - no oils, salt, pepper, seasonings, whatever. But otherwise that's kind of insane.

I bought mozzarella and prosciutto and bread the other day to go with the abundance of tomatoes and basil that I had in the backyard and because I was really tired and didn't want to cook, and I felt kind of bad because I spent like $15 on all this stuff and only got four meals out of it (two dinners, two sandwiches for lunch the next day).

The guy who said it is kind of a moron, to be fair

IA: House at the End of the Street marketing with the hashtag HATES. the movie is not called House at the End Street. you can't cut out one preposition and one "the" and then leave another preposition and the other "the". it's HATEOTS or HES. dicks.

she hateots me

zachlyon, I like you. You're a good egg.

Wooo y'all the rest of dinner was pretty IA, too, but I did eventually get out of the garbage smell and in to the restaurant to pee. My dining companion was 30 minutes late!

LOL I wondered if I had posted about this particular person before and indeed I have:

Irrational Anger, how do I end up friends with these people edition:

- It's fine to be The Friend Who Is Always Late, and it's fine to be The Friend Who Won't Use a Mobile Device, but it is not okay to always be late and refuse to use a cell phone so you can text me and let me know your ETA.

― Polly biscuit face (carl agatha), Tuesday, May 8, 2012 4:36 PM (3 months ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

She started using a cell phone so she did call me to tell me she would be late. Not 30 minutes late, nor did she revise her ETA when it became clear that she had underestimated her arrival time, but we're making progress.

It's not fine to be the friend that is always late.

I used to have a friend who was always late. I started telling him the wrong time for things - if an event was at two, I told him it was at one. He'd get there at 2:15 or so.

The thing is, the friend almost always chooses the time and place!

Oh, well in that case it's your fault for showing up at the agreed time instead of half an hour late. (I'm only half joking. If someone you know is always late invites you to meet them somewhere, show up late yourself. What's the worst that can happen? It'll either be the one time they get there on time and they'll get pissy with you, at which point you can confront them with their own hideous track record re such things, or you'll both show up at the same time and everybody's happy.)

I am the friend that's always late but I normally make more of an effort to get there on time if I know I'm meeting someone who's going to be on their own if I don't turn up on time. Also I do have a mobile phone :)

I know. I actually tried to be late, or at least delightfully insouciant about my arrival time last night, but I took a cab and there was no traffic and I was 15 minutes early. :(

And I'm usually fine with being early because I sit somewhere and read or fart around on my phone, but last night was the perfect storm of accidental earliness, standing next to something stinky, and having to pee.

overheard by a coworker "Yeah...but you can't cook at home for under $20 for two people."

RAGE

― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, September 6, 2012 7:58 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I feel like this sort of rationalization is very popular in NYC. "Well we just eat out, our kitchen is so small and anyway it's 80% as expensive to cook at home!" Like (1) all you need is a stove and enough counter space for a cutting board (plus you can use your table) and (2) no it's more like 20% as expensive unless you have no idea how to buy groceries

I learned a long time ago to avoid as much as possible meeting people in places where it is unpleasant to wait. Like if I'm waiting somewhere where I can have a drink and maybe read a bit then it's no big deal if they are 15 minutes late. If I'm waiting on a street corner, it really makes me angry.

It also has the added benefit of me not feeling too bad when I'm late myself.

Yeah, just logistically waiting for people in places where you can't DO stuff is a horrible idea. Especially with public transit, trains are a certain distance apart, you're going to be 10 or 15 mins on one side or the other. Bars and parks and places with seating are A++ to meet.

carl, one thing I don't get is why you didn't just go into the restaurant and use their bathroom, though?

If someone you know is always late invites you to meet them somewhere, show up late yourself.

don't like this tactic tbh. a) it's playing by their uncivil rules, ii) how do you know how late they're going to be, and 3) if they find out then it could lead to an arms race escalation of lateness.

The restaurant was closed, it didn't open until the time carl was supposed to meet the friend.

jvc = OTM

I tried to go in when I got there and was told very firmly that they did not open until 6 pm.

Oh, sorry! I thought they wouldn't allow you in w/o your full party or something.

Makes sense now.

it could lead to an arms race escalation of lateness.

This is what happened to me at band practices. I'd turn up on time, they'd be late. I'd turn up ten minutes late, after a while they'd start showing up 20 minutes late. And so on, until basically nobody showed up until an hour after we were supposed to start.

But yeah, there are few things as frustrating as really needing to go to the bathroom and being less than 10 yards from one that you aren't allowed to use.

xp Nope. Although once it was open, I asked if I could sit at the bar and they wouldn't let me because they like to keep the bar open for walk-ins. In a "hidden" restaurant in an industrial area.

It was down this street on the right, across from the blue garbage trucks that you can see on the left - http://goo.gl/maps/OvoHQ.

late friends = so much IA

That restaurant sounds like one big douchebag.

yeah fuck a secret restaurant

seems p jerky to not let you sit at the bar for 15 minutes waiting for yr friend when you already have a table - I mean, unless the bar only seats 1 person or they get like 100% walkin business, wtf

http://www.vh1.com/celebrity/bwe/images/2011/02/stefon2.jpg

"It's behind the Interstate, across from the garbage trucks, next to the architects.
At Ada, they don't open the doors until six, your friends are always late and the pigeons are ugly."

Oh wow, the people who own that restaurant own two others in my neighborhood that I really, really like and are kind of the opposite of this one. Weird.

Also, can we just kinda silently lol for a second at the idea of a bustling "walk-in" business based on that area? I could maybe see it on nights The Hideout has a big show, but not at 6 PM. wtf.

loooool pplains

pp, irl LOL

the arms race escalation of lateness model seems so weird

am glad emil.y provided proof it happens, was only ever a theory for me since i refuse to play those games.

arms race escalation def happens, esp with people who are chronically late out of SELFISHNESS i.e. they can't bear the idea of having to wait so they would prefer to make you wait

when meeting up w/a friend who is chronically late, i told her i was leaving my apt and then waited an hour before i actually left. we got there at nearly the same time (i was still there a few minutes before her!) but i get anxious whenever i am late, even when it's for meeting up with late people, so i don't do it that often

yeah i get anxious too, whenever i get those "8.30 for 9" kind of invitations i'll be all prepared and ready to leave to get there for 8.30 and then basically pace around the house nervously for half an hour.

pp's stefon bit almost makes having Carl stand in the stinky, pee-denying hood worthwhile.