itt blogs instruct you how to be a man

so... i win? i guess?

a pyrrhic victory, to be sure

Calling people out is doing the lord's work, elmo. I think? Just not letting it go tacitly approved of.

thanking you elmo, for being our crusader

tbh i'm still completely baffled that dude thought "white dudes reciting the n-word" was gonna be, like, his rhetorical ace in the hole

guy seems to get really imperious whenever a black celebrity wears a label, hmm, interesting

well yknow swizz beatz is a real trashbag, what with all that stuff he did and such.

*steeples fingers*

http://www.amazon.co.uk/BIC-For-Amber-Medium-Ballpoint/dp/B004FTGJUW/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top/278-8929982-9275700

Designed to fit comfortably in a womans hand

You can tell it's for women because it looks like nothing so much as a box of tampons.

ok, i see now: i think dude forgot that all his recent tweets show up on the front page of his blog WHOOPS xpostsss

looool

that nicetrybro tumblr really exemplifies one of the things that bothers me about bro fashion or w/e: this obsession with universal fashion RULES like your tie must be a certain length or your blazer must have this many buttons. these rules might once have had something to do with what "looked good" or fit "well" or something but as applied by a lot of these dudes they're basically meaningless conventions/shibboleths. feel like this is also connected to like, denim fetishization. something abt trying to remake fashion as a more "masculine" hobby/interest...?

shibboleth is a v good way to describe for the sort of classist / gender essentialist gatekeeping going on, yes

I might be wrong but the writing always seems like it's coming from hetero dudes who like to pretend they're traditionalist gatekeepers in some way

which makes no sense in that fashion really has its own language, and they're not engaging with that but with their own perceptions of "correct"

just my two cents as a misguided hetero dude

my brother has developed a scholarly & light-hearted interest in suits/formal wear probably to distract himself from his job, & his line is that a lot of these ludicrous standards e.g. tie knots &c. are derived straight from the royals (at least in england). there is definitely an appeal for some guys that they are buying into a tradition w/ firm, esoteric rules & a glacial rate of change. it does seem peculiarly anti-aesthetics

or that if you have a fancy tumblr about pretty pictures of men in pretty clothes you have to justify the whole exercise by being a fascist hardman about it

i can understand why you'd get into rules like that considering that 99% of north american men dress like total slobs

militant sartorialism?

or that if you have a fancy tumblr about pretty pictures of men in pretty clothes you have to justify the whole exercise by being a fascist hardman about it

― goole, Tuesday, August 28, 2012 3:09 PM (48 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

where the crush on the warden comes in

xp my brother's wardrobe is a startling synthesis of those poles, w/ 50% really nice suits & 50% lounge pants + star wars tshirts

tbh I mostly wear decent shirts and expensive jeans, and I don't fit in either camp, although I'd like to think I wear clothes that fit in some way

I might be wrong but the writing always seems like it's coming from hetero dudes who like to pretend they're traditionalist gatekeepers in some way

which makes no sense in that fashion really has its own language, and they're not engaging with that but with their own perceptions of "correct"

just my two cents as a misguided hetero dude

― your native bacon (mh), Tuesday, August 28, 2012 5:56 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Yeah this was kind of my reaction too. I mean some of the stuff he picks on really does sort of seem like hideous failures, but when dude is like "Yo brah those lapels are way too narrow" it's kind of like "Yeah no shit, that's a strikingly narrow-lapeled suit, I think that's probably what the suit is going for."

And also the smattering of "lol @ this homo" type comments don't help his cause.

yeah i mean -- i can understand thinking that most dudes lack a sense of style. honestly, i think you can actually take a compassionate stance on that: most dudes are discouraged from having any sort of aesthetic pursuits and sensitivities growing up & through adulthood, esp in america. gender anxieties can be awful in the way people act them out, but the anxiety is real! so many men are so sad and wounded and confused and they can't handle those feelings! it's a cycle of emotional violence! ahh!

i just think there is a way for men to encourage each other to dress better that doesn't rely on sniping on details like cuff length and tie dimples, or going 100% by the book, but it involves being making mistakes and developing a taste for color and generally being a little more ~vulnerable~ so it's a hard road for a lot of guys, especially if they don't have money & resources. there are menswear bloggers who are 100x more supportive and generous with advice, btw, but they tend to be a bit repetitive in that advice, ime.

the frat house alpha dog shit... well, it's the predictable way out, is all i can say. when all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail, etc etc

This is all very Shit that seems like an Onion article. Though, really, women and girls have been bullying each other via fashion for centuries.

i like the thought of fashion blogs of yesteryear. surely there is scope for e.g. a strict platonic fashion blog - “Beauty of style and harmony and grace and good rhythm depend on simplicity.”

I mean if you're going to knock men for failing supposed basic mens style rules, you should pick on the ones that are actually in range of those rules, not guys who are trying to make some kind of outsider fashion statement. Pick on the schlubby lawyer with the too-large pinstripe suit, fine.

I am down with dudes trying looks, even if they are awkward or don't pull them off, as long as it doesn't involve the word "steampunk"

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mahx1oScyL1qj499ko1_400.jpg

make sure to eradicate all those lower-class wrinkles by crushing your scrotum beneath a hot steam iron

"prosperous" lmbo

these people are pre-prosperous

The prosperous man will pass. The prosperous man irons his shirts before leaving the house.

turn a downcast eye upon the wrinkled proletariat crushed beneath your bench-made bootheel

also i didn't realize that "fake it til you make it" means you should try to dress above your station. maybe if you ingratiate yourself to their prejudices, the better classes will begrudgingly admit you to their ranks OH BOY

also i didn't realize that "fake it til you make it" means you should try to dress above your station.

afaik this is always what "fake it til you make it" has meant; dress and act like the person you want to be until everyone assumes that's what you are

i thought it was about like, jazz or something

Prosperous style blogs don't have wrinkled pages.

can someone explain this magazine? http://acquiringman.com/magazine/

“Some men spend a lifetime in an attempt to comprehend the complexities of women.
Others preoccupy themselves with simpler tasks such as understanding the theory of relativity.” -Albert Einstein

Understanding and knowing what women want doesn’t have to be difficult anymore.

Why?

Because I’ve partnered with some of the brightest and most insightful women on this planet, and they’re going to literally tell you everything that you need to know.

No holds barred.

THE CODE OF THE ACQUIRING MAN

TO BE A MAN OF THE HIGHEST CHARACTER

TO BE A MAN OF THE UTMOST RESPECT

TO BE A MAN WHO REVERES HONESTY

TO BE A MAN WHO IS PROUD OF WHO HE IS

in a just world that would be an email harvester for a symbionese kidnapping ring

10 Qualities Of A Real Man

Guys, pay close attention here because there are literally millions of women out there who are dying to find a great man.

If you’re failing to live up to the following, you better shape up, because someone else out there is.

Ladies, if you know a man that comes up short in any of the following areas, or it’s your guy, please pass this along to him.

1) A REAL MAN IS A LEADER

He thinks before he acts, making sure all the details and specifics are in order so when he does make a move, it’s a confident and determined one. He makes decisions while considering and valuing the input of others and those closest to him.

2) A REAL MAN IS INDEPENDENT

He does not need a woman in his life to be happy but he appreciates, loves, respects, and truly values her if she is.

3) A REAL MAN IS ASSERTIVE

He stands up for for what he believes in, behind his convictions, his words, and himself. He does not seek approval, supplicate, or beg. He is responsible for his own actions, and taking action when necessary.

4) A REAL MAN IS PRESENT

He is there for his spouse or significant other, children, family, and friends. He supports them in the right way, and does not enable unhealthy behavior.

5) A REAL MAN WELCOMES ADVERSITY

He invites cooperation and competition, because he knows his self-worth and is comfortable with his capabilities. He is not afraid to ask questions when he doesn’t know the answer.

6) A REAL MAN IS HONEST

He knows being straight forward and upfront is the right thing to do. He is faithful and respectful when it comes to managing his relationships (business and personal).

7) A REAL MAN HAS A PLAN

He knows what he wants and he goes for it. He develops a structure from which to act, and get’s better in accomplishing every successful step of it.

8) A REAL MAN IS ON THE LEVEL

He is able to keep his cool in moments of stress and bends without breaking in the face of adversity and dire circumstances.

9) A REAL MAN HAS A SENSE OF TIMING

He knows when and when not to crack a joke. He’s charming and chivalrous – in the right way (i.e. opening the door out of respect and appreciation, not because he feels he has to, or because she cant).

10) A REAL MAN EMBRACES SUCCESS

He is not afraid to win and knows the value and growth that comes with losing. He knows that a rising tide raises all boats, that there is plenty of room in the winner’s circle, and wants others to succeed, too!

10 Qualities Of A Real Woman

There are many similarities here to what you’d find in a great man. The qualities themselves aren’t gender specific, but the intricacies of them can be.

The list of great qualities a woman can hold goes on and on, but here are a solid ten that mostly anyone can appreciate and respect.

1) A REAL WOMAN IS CONFIDENT

She is happy with herself and her own abilities. She appreciates who she is as an individual, embraces her femininity, and is proud to be a woman.

2) A REAL WOMAN IS HONEST AND UPFRONT

She recognizes the destructiveness behind undisclosed expectations. She’s straight forward and respectful about setting boundaries and the tempo of her relationships early on.

3) A REAL WOMAN HAS A HEALTHY HANDLE ON HER EMOTIONS

She knows it’s OK to feel down, bummed out, or really shitty that one week out of the month, but more importantly she knows how to weather the storm correctly. If there are any shortfalls on the emotional front she recognizes them and adjusts accordingly.

4) A REAL WOMAN IS STRONG AND INDEPENDENT

She is determined, driven, and able to accomplish great feats. Her ability to be so strong is derived from her own knowledge, intuition, and ambition.

5) A REAL WOMAN HAS PATIENCE

For herself and those around her she knows how to play it cool. In the face of adversity she is able to tap the proper resources to conquer any problem, instead of just giving up.

6) A REAL WOMAN SHARES THE RIGHT AMOUNT OF DRAMA

She has the right amount of drama to share with her man. Positive and negative. A great man will be always be there for her (to listen and understand), but anything above and beyond a certain threshold she know’s to dish with her girlfriend’s and not with him.

7) A REAL WOMAN HAS A DEFINED PURPOSE

Whether personally or professionally, she has great goals and desires. She knows that with the right amount of inspiration and motivation anything is possible, and is willing to do what it takes to make her dreams a reality.

8) A REAL WOMAN IS SECURE

She’s comfortable in her own skin. Jealousy, doubt, and fear go out the window because she is confident in herself and her choice in a partner – as well as her partners choice in her.

9) A REAL WOMAN IS THERE

She represents a strong link in the chain that holds those close to her together. She embraces the many roles she plays and is actively present as a mother, wife or girlfriend, and friend. When she’s needed the most, she is there.

10) A REAL WOMAN VALUES A REAL MAN

She appreciates and respects the value and worth of the men in her life. She knows that part of being a great woman is recognizing and embracing the qualities of a great man. She does not need a man in her life to be happy, but if she has one she stands by him. She believes in his purpose and who he is – which makes going in the same direction with him that much easier.

rly makes u think

*gasp*

I don't want to be offensive to transgender people but lists like this turn me into the biggest biology-driven reactionary

why is it called ACQUIRING MAN?

also can I just

9) A REAL WOMAN IS THERE

well all right then

yet a REAL MAN does not need to be THERE, merely ON THE LEVEL