Should I go fishing or get a friend to hang around? Celebrated GAY Summer 2012

Oh, gotcha. I don't know.

I am apparently pretty adept at it cruising - I'm fairly sure that on any given night I could score within an hour in the 1.5 miles between my place and Boystown - but I'm over it and I wish I had even a tiny percentage of that skill for flirting. If communicating with words was a big part of cruising, there wouldn't be much chance for me.

i'm sure cruising happens out in the open, on the street, etc. but most of the cruising i know about takes place in specific semi-public locations

wow i literally have no idea where these would be :/

i know j ur good at it

One "tell" is the upward-nod, like "'sup," followed by a second look, then a mutual glance as you pass each other.

xp - anywhere, really!

I'm now confused. Is cruising just picking up for sex? Or is it something else entirely?

i remember reading a book about body language -- i think published in the 1960s? -- that had a section on gay body language and cruising and it documented specific, predictable cruising 'moves'.

cruising involves the take home for sex yes

not necessarily! with a lot of cruising, sex happens on-site with no second location involved

last thanksgiving i came *this* close to cruising someone. i ran out to the store on tgiving eve to get something for a pie i was baking, but ralph's was for some reason closed. and this younger guy who was standing outside and i locked eyes for like five seconds in that "ok, we both know" way and it was crazy tense but then i just went back up the escalator and went home. also iirc my oven was preheating so it was probably for the best.

One "tell" is the upward-nod, like "'sup," followed by a second look, then a mutual glance as you pass each other.

--(*・_・)ノ⌒ ☆ (Je55e)

Oh man, I'm an even bigger tease than I realized. Looking at guys would be so much easier if one of us wasn't there.

lex i believe time-honored tradition of sex in public toilets is known in your country as 'cottaging'

yeah i am aware of cottaging but tbh i find the idea of sex in public toilets completely gross

xpost What is staying at bed and breakfasts called? Drippy rimming?

i mean, so elma what would you have done had you wanted to proceed with the interaction

just like nodded

lol elma, i kind of like that

elma!

i think the main thing, in the book, was the nature of the eye contact, held for longer than normal in passing. then a second glance over the shoulder two steps after you pass. if someone turns to follow the other, it's on.

or if you notice someone following you, you stop to loiter for a second -- like, pretend to look into a store window -- and make eye contact in the reflection as they pass.

obviously this was all written in a different time, and i'm sure most cruising happens online now. the old traditions, they are dying.

Have you ever grindr'd?

this is all making me feel weird

did u guys hear about this gonnorhea thing recently, that w are running out of medicines to treat it effectively

like p soon we won't have treatment that works

"then a second glance over the shoulder two steps after you pass. if someone turns to follow the other, it's on."

have always waited 3 steps, no wonder he was never looking.

xpost I did. Who's laughing now?

red bandannas in the left back pocket work too

my current relationship is p strictly monogamous and predates grindr, so no

Someday I want to reenact this scene if someone attempts to cruise me.

Eric, I posted this elsewhere, but did you know that Duluth just got its first gay bar? This picture makes me chuckle - the club is divided between the American side and the gay side.

http://i.imgur.com/H8t6J.jpg

i just sometimes wonder how often sex is pretty, like doesn't it get messy

i don't know i guess it depends on what u do

Some visitors to the club stop in their tracks and say, ‘Wow, this is like what you find in the Twin Cities,’ ” Berg (owner) said.

which is the American side?

I find it hard to believe that is that town's first gay bar.

I bet there was one when all the millionaires lived there 125 years ago.

Superior, WI has had one for 6 years, according to the news article I read.

Oh right, they had to cross The Reach in those days.

i need to see a picture of a tourist in that bar with one foot in America and one foot in Gay.

I'm glad I didn't go up to Duluth; I wouldn't have known which flag to burn.

Let's remember honorary gay P.D.

http://curvewire.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/blog_med//sites/default/files/post-images/Timm%20Carney/Phyllis.jpg

"A MAAAAAAAAAA-UN!!!"

I am so sick apparently. Like... I was feeling under the weather/tired while I was in London but figured it was mostly a result of out almost all night drinking with Owen and folks and the bus ride home was congested and miserable but such are bus rides but I am now on day two of sore throat sneezing fever and have just gotten to the solid-food-is-not-my-friend stage of whatever this is.

so sorry, Alex. And here we are talking about getting jostled in airplane bathrooms.

It's ok. Which like - palpable irony because the boy has been all over me since I got home and I don't want to get him sick.

Anyway continue regaling us with stories about thanksgiving Hookups!

hah, no more to that story unfortunately

hope you feel better soon tho!

I am so bad at cruising and don't think I've ever actually done it w this one exception of this one time drunk at like 2am on a bus (a public transit bus, not the the Greyhound). I think you sort of have to be classically "hot" to be a successful cruiser.

hmm I don't know! You know the way you can tell a guy or girl gets enuff by their smell? One successful hookup begets another.

I am told I can be a flirt sometimes but it's one of those things where sometimes I don't quite realize it. Or I do, but he doesn't quite realize it