Should I go fishing or get a friend to hang around? Celebrated GAY Summer 2012

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i still don't really get how all you regular cruisers find the dudes who are, like, not straight when just out and about randomly. most of the time when i see someone hott i assume they're str8 (and if i don't it's usually because they're with their bf, ugh)

Straight or "straight"?

If they're actually straight, they aren't cruising, so you don't find them.

i meant "men who i would theoretically want to cruise or would respond to if they theoretically cruised me"

which they don't b/c they are usually str8

i'm sure cruising happens out in the open, on the street, etc. but most of the cruising i know about takes place in specific semi-public locations

i thought cruising happened at gay bars

public restrooms, rest areas, hiking trails, parks, adult bookstores, etc etc

now is there like a key, like a signature look - like the "i'm a creep" look ? is it all about the eye contact ? omg so shaday

it's kind of fun to be somewhere and have that "this is a cruising spot" flag drop on you.

xp it's bedroom eyes iirc, lots of peoples' bedroom eyes are creepy

so creeps

i mean, i am not the most accomplished cruiser but there is definitely a whole series of nonverbal cues and signals involved, some intuitive, some less so. it can be confusing.

Oh, gotcha. I don't know.

I am apparently pretty adept at it cruising - I'm fairly sure that on any given night I could score within an hour in the 1.5 miles between my place and Boystown - but I'm over it and I wish I had even a tiny percentage of that skill for flirting. If communicating with words was a big part of cruising, there wouldn't be much chance for me.

i'm sure cruising happens out in the open, on the street, etc. but most of the cruising i know about takes place in specific semi-public locations

wow i literally have no idea where these would be :/

i know j ur good at it

One "tell" is the upward-nod, like "'sup," followed by a second look, then a mutual glance as you pass each other.

xp - anywhere, really!

I'm now confused. Is cruising just picking up for sex? Or is it something else entirely?

i remember reading a book about body language -- i think published in the 1960s? -- that had a section on gay body language and cruising and it documented specific, predictable cruising 'moves'.

cruising involves the take home for sex yes

not necessarily! with a lot of cruising, sex happens on-site with no second location involved

last thanksgiving i came *this* close to cruising someone. i ran out to the store on tgiving eve to get something for a pie i was baking, but ralph's was for some reason closed. and this younger guy who was standing outside and i locked eyes for like five seconds in that "ok, we both know" way and it was crazy tense but then i just went back up the escalator and went home. also iirc my oven was preheating so it was probably for the best.

One "tell" is the upward-nod, like "'sup," followed by a second look, then a mutual glance as you pass each other.

--(*・_・)ノ⌒ ☆ (Je55e)

Oh man, I'm an even bigger tease than I realized. Looking at guys would be so much easier if one of us wasn't there.

lex i believe time-honored tradition of sex in public toilets is known in your country as 'cottaging'

yeah i am aware of cottaging but tbh i find the idea of sex in public toilets completely gross

xpost What is staying at bed and breakfasts called? Drippy rimming?

i mean, so elma what would you have done had you wanted to proceed with the interaction

just like nodded

lol elma, i kind of like that

elma!

i think the main thing, in the book, was the nature of the eye contact, held for longer than normal in passing. then a second glance over the shoulder two steps after you pass. if someone turns to follow the other, it's on.

or if you notice someone following you, you stop to loiter for a second -- like, pretend to look into a store window -- and make eye contact in the reflection as they pass.

obviously this was all written in a different time, and i'm sure most cruising happens online now. the old traditions, they are dying.

Have you ever grindr'd?

this is all making me feel weird

did u guys hear about this gonnorhea thing recently, that w are running out of medicines to treat it effectively

like p soon we won't have treatment that works

"then a second glance over the shoulder two steps after you pass. if someone turns to follow the other, it's on."

have always waited 3 steps, no wonder he was never looking.

xpost I did. Who's laughing now?

red bandannas in the left back pocket work too

my current relationship is p strictly monogamous and predates grindr, so no

Someday I want to reenact this scene if someone attempts to cruise me.

Eric, I posted this elsewhere, but did you know that Duluth just got its first gay bar? This picture makes me chuckle - the club is divided between the American side and the gay side.

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i just sometimes wonder how often sex is pretty, like doesn't it get messy

i don't know i guess it depends on what u do

Some visitors to the club stop in their tracks and say, ‘Wow, this is like what you find in the Twin Cities,’ ” Berg (owner) said.

which is the American side?

I find it hard to believe that is that town's first gay bar.

I bet there was one when all the millionaires lived there 125 years ago.

Superior, WI has had one for 6 years, according to the news article I read.

Oh right, they had to cross The Reach in those days.

i need to see a picture of a tourist in that bar with one foot in America and one foot in Gay.