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there's such a strong disavowal of any erotic context in the article & in the comments that i don't quite believe. i may be splitting hairs but i feel there is are subtle distinctions between what is explicitly sexual and what is vaguely erotic, in the sense of men's bodies seeking each other out. putting aside the male-on-male etymology of the word, i am of the opinion that a lot of visible masculine camaraderie & fellowship has an erotic component, a mutual recognition of bodies, not in the "i want to fuck you, bro" way, but "good job, i'm gonna smack your butt" sort of way.

the commenter who claims that he feels like gagging when he sees men of other ethnic backgrounds holding hands until someone tells him they're straight and then it's cool with him and he's comfortable? how does that not absolutely reek of his own denied sexuality?

Oh yeah, even the best of the comments were definitely no models of tolerance. Although iirc ONE person did note that if we stopped stigmatizing gayness then men showing affection wouldn't have any neg associations.

I just overheard in the hallway at work:
"So, do you think this is a masculine-looking lunchbox?"

these blogs are making people think, man

haha

i got v angry at a menswear blogger today, lol

dude's blog is pretty much the summation of so much that i find terrible and disgusting about men style blogs as distilled into one hacky joke tumblr, like basically all he does is reblog other dude's pictures and insults them with pop culture references and memes? and people EAT IT UP

anyway he basically made a rape joke, like pretty much a "this dude's pocket square is not positioned properly, imagine if he was forced to suck cock in prison" sort of joke

so that sucks and i really hate how angry it made me and i hate how popular this dude is for being so hateful. sorry for ranting, errbody

^^^ total idiot for taking him seriously

just a little rape humor, nbd

:(

always so fucking idiotic to me when ppl think "is offended by" = "takes seriously"

lighten up it's only a joke, I wasn't serious, there are no boundaries, nothing is off-limits or in poor taste and if it is that means you actually thought I was being literal

yea if you don't think it's funny then you obviously can't take a joke, totally unchill behavior bro

Link?

http://nicetrybro.com/post/30314050673/urbanemenswear-viktori-19-all-my-clothes-are

someone has a crush on the warden

this blog is horrible, and the combination of "bro" with people who are trying to be fashion-forward is still a really, really weird look

are any of the people who write these things people who look anything like the ones they're mocking?

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@eightinhand It's not edgy nor is it "rape humor." It's a ref to 2 movies. U mad at whites for sayin the N word when reciting a rap song?

anyway he basically made a rape joke, like pretty much a "this dude's pocket square is not positioned properly, imagine if he was forced to suck cock in prison" sort of joke

― real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Monday, August 27, 2012 9:37 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

so that sucks and i really hate how angry it made me and i hate how popular this dude is for being so hateful. sorry for ranting, errbody

― real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Monday, August 27, 2012 9:47 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

^^^ total idiot for taking him seriously

― the mandy moorhols (Stevie D(eux)), Monday, August 27, 2012 9:53 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

just a little rape humor, nbd

:(

― real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Monday, August 27, 2012 10:00 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

always so fucking idiotic to me when ppl think "is offended by" = "takes seriously"

― the mandy moorhols (Stevie D(eux)), Monday, August 27, 2012 10:29 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

lighten up it's only a joke, I wasn't serious, there are no boundaries, nothing is off-limits or in poor taste and if it is that means you actually thought I was being literal

― the mandy moorhols (Stevie D(eux)), Monday, August 27, 2012 10:30 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i don't get what happened here, were you replying to yourself?

no u r quoting 2 posters

stevie was speaking in the voice of blogger dude in that last post

"total idiot for taking him seriously" is refering to tweets between dude & i fwiw.

"U mad at whites for sayin the N word when reciting a rap song?"

omg

i can't even with this dude

Hahaha. ILX is way ahead of him.

this one's a treat

http://nicetrybro.com/post/29429541108/thefashiohttp://kkkorner.files.wordpress.com/2009/05/nbomb5.jpg?w=350&h=259-mens-fashion-flash-swizz-beatz

haha does ilx have an "n" bomb autoreplace??

http://kkkorner.files.wordpress.com/2009/05/nbomb5.jpg?w=350&h=259

lollll

kind of want to try, kind of worried this is just an attempt to get me to post n-bomb

i know it autoreplaced "n b o m b" but i ain't tryin it with the word itself

so I tweeted in response:

@NTBro Your defense is that it's "not your joke"? So you're just a guy who thinks coerced fellatio is worth a chuckle. Why else refer to it?
Eight In Hand
5 hours ago

@NTBro And it's pretty revealing of your attitudes that you don't acknowledge any racial issues with white bros "reciting" the N-word.
Eight In Hand
5 hours ago

after which he replied something along the lines of "it's just music, get over yourself, you sound like rush limbaugh, go have sex." and then promptly deleted that and all the previous tweets.

so... i win? i guess?

a pyrrhic victory, to be sure

Calling people out is doing the lord's work, elmo. I think? Just not letting it go tacitly approved of.

thanking you elmo, for being our crusader

tbh i'm still completely baffled that dude thought "white dudes reciting the n-word" was gonna be, like, his rhetorical ace in the hole

guy seems to get really imperious whenever a black celebrity wears a label, hmm, interesting

well yknow swizz beatz is a real trashbag, what with all that stuff he did and such.

*steeples fingers*

http://www.amazon.co.uk/BIC-For-Amber-Medium-Ballpoint/dp/B004FTGJUW/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top/278-8929982-9275700

Designed to fit comfortably in a womans hand

You can tell it's for women because it looks like nothing so much as a box of tampons.

ok, i see now: i think dude forgot that all his recent tweets show up on the front page of his blog WHOOPS xpostsss

looool

that nicetrybro tumblr really exemplifies one of the things that bothers me about bro fashion or w/e: this obsession with universal fashion RULES like your tie must be a certain length or your blazer must have this many buttons. these rules might once have had something to do with what "looked good" or fit "well" or something but as applied by a lot of these dudes they're basically meaningless conventions/shibboleths. feel like this is also connected to like, denim fetishization. something abt trying to remake fashion as a more "masculine" hobby/interest...?

shibboleth is a v good way to describe for the sort of classist / gender essentialist gatekeeping going on, yes

I might be wrong but the writing always seems like it's coming from hetero dudes who like to pretend they're traditionalist gatekeepers in some way

which makes no sense in that fashion really has its own language, and they're not engaging with that but with their own perceptions of "correct"

just my two cents as a misguided hetero dude

my brother has developed a scholarly & light-hearted interest in suits/formal wear probably to distract himself from his job, & his line is that a lot of these ludicrous standards e.g. tie knots &c. are derived straight from the royals (at least in england). there is definitely an appeal for some guys that they are buying into a tradition w/ firm, esoteric rules & a glacial rate of change. it does seem peculiarly anti-aesthetics

or that if you have a fancy tumblr about pretty pictures of men in pretty clothes you have to justify the whole exercise by being a fascist hardman about it