Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

RELATIVE TO RUSSIA (IN MY EXAMPLE), CALIFORNIA IS CLOSE

I myself often forget there's only a very tiny sliver of Oklahoma which keeps Texas from touching Colorado... in my head Utah and Colorado are reversed, making Denver a West Coast town.

you are ALL in a foreign country to me.

oh god
--homosexual II

I just mean you think similar, like relative to California, Canada is close is all

xpost

I think you should date him but take gps just in case

also make sure he knows that the sun is bigger than the earth.

Men my age, whose desired age range for a partner ends 2 or 3 years below their own: why do I want to punch them in the face so badly?

This is an endless refrain, I know.

Anyway, I am going on this date tomorrow.

yeah i want to punch all those people in the face too. i think what those dudes aren't realizing is that they are also alienating younger women who ARE in their age range because it makes them look like a tool. i frequently get messages from 40 somethings who don't want to date women their own age and it's an automatic dealbreaker. but i WILL go out with 40 somethings that do want to date women their own age and older in addition to younger women. i don't know why you wouldn't just hedge your bets.

I have the overwhelming desire to send them just a one-liner that says "you are a repulsive human being" just to give them a tiny taste of how shitty and worthless they have just made me feel. But, of course, I don't, because I try to be a decent human being ~most~ of the time. (Though with the full and searing experience that there are so many dudes out there who have felt perfectly justified in sending me one-liners saying stuff like "yuck you are LOL-old and LOL-fat and LOL-ugly and LOL speccy ginger geek LOL" etc blah blah forever.)

But my god, I think about it.

WHERE IS DIRTY DRONEROCK PERSON OF INDETERMINATE GENDER WHO AIMS SERIOUS FAT SPECCY GINGER GEEK?

it's just a thing. Like sketching people in public, it's a thing, that might look weird if you did not know that life drawing was a thing.

Several years ago a woman I lived with was taking a life-drawing class, and I was stoked when she asked me to pose for her to make a pencil line-stroke drawing of me. Me, a nude model! Only later did I learn that life drawing art teachers instruct their students to choose average- (or worse-) looking models for maximum realism and to avoid attractive people of the sort usually associated with modelling. Knocked my body image down a few rungs after having it artifically inflated for awhile....

Uh, I know I went to art school a while ago, but no one ever told me that. And FWIW, all of the people I've asked to pose for me (and there have been a few) have been people I thought were v v good looking. But, like, everyone I've approached to draw, I've told them "I want to draw you coz I really like your look." (mainly to prevent shenanigans.)

Her drawing made me look much better than I do in real life.... All I remember is that 20 minutes feels like 2 hours when you have to maintain an uncomfortable (yet relaxed-looking) pose, and how cold and breezy it was in a room temperature set to be comfortable for clothed people.

(the artist OTOH was v v good looking; me, less so).

My small experience with figure drawing says they like a wide range of types - fat to skinny, young to old, good looking to not so good looking. I've also modelled casually, and done some awful drawings.

http://desmond.imageshack.us/Himg708/scaled.php?server=708&filename=ga020607.gif&res=landing

I wish I had some cuter/hotter blouses
probably part of the problem is using the word 'blouse'

You and me, Beckott, we are "date tonight" sisX0rs.

I will have to iron my blouse, though. It will not make up for having potato-face from being in bed with an ear infection all week and - even worse - I have broken one of my canine teeth (I now only have the requisite 2 instead of my former 3) but they still wanna meet me, even sans tooth, so I hope that's a good sign.

Hope that yours goes well! Actually a scruffy music teacher sounds kinda dreamy (but I might have read Ex Cordite Caritas too many times.)

hope you have a nice time!

yes, I hope it goes well!

It might just be the sun but head feels kinda spiny in a totally good way.

We have already made plans to go for vegan dinner some time.

I don't really care what happens but it's a long time since I have felt so ~comfortable~ with someone so quickly. Not passive aggressive at all, just very very literal.

aww

Spinny not spiny. I am not a hedgehog.

I had a ton of fun last night. The dude brought his own travel Scrabble board just in case! I can defs get behind that kind of preparedness. We went back to my place for drinks & scrabs after mini golf. P clear the guy never ever drinks though based on his reaction to one gently poured vodka drink, which is ok. Played some XTC records (he's a big fan of them too! holy shit!) and gabbed and looked at comic books until way past my bedtime. It was really refreshing.

He BROUGHT HIS OWN TRAVEL SCRABBLE BOARD? Beckotts, this one is a keeper. For reals. ;-)

x-post. Was your date Michael Cera?

he's 35 but he does have kind of a scruffy Jewish Cera thing going on phenotypically

ooh good dates! i am v happy for you crabbs & wcc :)

i might go out on a platonic date with someone...we had a really low match (~50%) and couldn't figure out why but it turns out it is because he wants to have children in 3-4 years and i don't want to have children ever. meeting friends is fine and everything but it seems kind of weird.

Well, so long as it is a Platonic date and he doesn't think he can change your mind with the power of his sexy? I don't see why not.

no one is changing my mind about having children...trust me. it's not even a question.

haha i just got a 'quiver' featuring a woman who is basically beyoncé

thank u for ur vote of confidence okc!

someone just wrote me a message that ended with "you're quite a woman." something about that turn of phrase is odd to me.

"you're some dame!"

a load has been gotten of your gams.

I will marry the first lady who messages me and tells me I look like an urchin.

A spiny one?

You want to be made into sushi?

I don't not want to be made into sushi.

I meant "I don't see why not" in terms of meeting him. Not in terms of his sexy changing your mind.

Shocked at how many seemingly cool people answer yes to the question "Do you find arrogance to be a turn-on?", even ones who say in their profiles that they can't stand douches (maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I've always thought of arrogance as the main defining characteristic of a douchebag. Vancouver's a weird fucking place).

i love it when someone messages you and so you check out their profile, and then they message you again because they saw you visit their profile, clearly not remembering that they messaged you only yesterday.

I have a date tomorrow with someone who appears to be a real, live grown-up who likes similar things to me and can write very capably and appears to have thoughts that make sense? Kind of don't know how to what to think of this tbh. I think dating grown-ups might raise the bar for me more than I'm comfortable with--at least when I date fuck-ups, I don't have to worry about not meeting their standards.

That makes it sound like I'm not into this date, and I totally am! It's just...he lives in a more gentrified neighborhood than I do, one that I couldn't afford anymore, and that makes me feel...funny.

i've seen this episode of New Girl

You might need to think less about whether you meet their standards, and more about whether they meet yours? Probably not a helpful observation to make, but still. Unless your problem is actually "argh, will this person want to drag ME kicking and screaming into adulthood?" which is a different issue.

I...it's complicated. I think I'm also transferring some feelings from a previous sitch that was v similar to this one, but which don't nec apply here. Ho hum. Will wait for actual daet.

Well I hope it's fun at any rate.

Haha. Thank you for tolerating my neurosis. I just washed two buckets of nice tops so hopefully I'll have something I feel like wearing by tomorrow evening.

OKC experiences are also pushing me to the edges of my tolerances... sympathy.

Totally understand where yr coming from tbh, L! I feel... intimidated by the kind of men who are my age/older with established homes/jobs/adult pursuits. And really. they dont interest me either? Terrible thing to admit, but I am who i yam!

(think Im gonna delete my okc profile fwiw)