Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

OK, so books? Books never hurt anyone, did they?

only atlas shrugged

And Mein Kampf.

I guess even a bizarre or a bad date is more interesting to me than reading a book, I've met some unique people on OKC that I wouldn't have otherwise.

I definitely look for book people. Music people often annoy me and Movie people sometimes do, too.

I've completely given up finding someone with shared interests in music, all I ask is tolerance for my apartment full of vinyl and keyboards. Having shared interests might be nice but its better in a friend than someone I'm interested in romantically.

As an experiment I tried rewriting my profile without mentioning music or movies at all.

It came out looking very leftie and sort of dull.

siah what do you do? i thought grad students found blue collar workers sexy?

talk about your efforts to oust granny-starving homunculus scott walker

I make picture frames for Walmart = very unsexy. I'd love to find a union job but they're rare.

"hi i'm the frame guy and you look pretty as a picture, let me tell you about stretching canvas over a can of mat spray"

this fuckin guy

I used to work in medical manufacturing, full clean room and everything, but this actually pays better.

The less said about my job the better, which really doesn't work with that initial question of: "So what do you do?"

Honestly I think the one thing that really has been making things difficul being bi, a surprisingly low amount of nice progressive women are willing to date someone like me. Maybe its just the Midwest and people are more conservative, maybe its me. I switched my profile to straight just to make things less complicated.

Wait Ive missed a step here, Josiah are you new, or a reg whos namechange I blanked on?

I've been around a little while, 2007? Maybe?

Mostly on ILM and under 3 different names. I picked a lot of fights on dance music threads.

I think the late great, Tim, and the Reverend are the only people who were familiar with me.

My profile on OKC is under Sigha (the late great's going to laugh @ that), if anyone wants to correct my grammar or tell me my profile pictures look funny.

well that was *beyond* awkward

i just walked past these girls at the pizza place, one just turned to the other (she's on her iphone) and loudly goes "watcha doing stalking guys on your weird dating site"

i don't know maybe, maybe i imagine that

can we talk more about moai please

peak timber, they e nded up resorrgting to cznnibalism

you can't potlatch w/ the pacific ocean, fool

It's shallow to care about hair colour? The first thing I did was look through all the gingers. But I am admittedly v v shallow.

Someone messaged me and I'm trying to get up the courage to read it.

Josiah, I know two couples where the woman has a grad degree (from Madison, even) and the men were machinists when they got together. So, it happens.

I know this isn't how it works! but my first cynical thought about dating someone bisexual is "I'm already competing with all the women in the world, now I have to compete with all the men, too?"

i had a great night in last night reading octavia butler and listening to the cure and cooking dinner. i sometimes forget how much i like hanging out with myself.

and yeah i'm a little intimidated by bi guys, mostly because of how easy it is for men to find other men to have sex with (grindr, etc) and it seems like their dance card would be full.

whaaaat? I would love to date a bisexual man!!

I'm trying to think of how to iterate what I find appealing about it and it mostly comes down to us being pervs together.

I dunno, I feel like if you're bi you should put that you're bi, but I guess if Josiah is only looking for girls then it doesn't really matter.

I think your profile is pretty good, JA, but I might suggest changing the main profile picture to one of the clearer/lighter ones? For one thing, you can't really see your eyes in the main profile pic, and people like to see eyes (even if they are over-imbued with mystical significance at times).

Ironically, someone in my twitter feed just posted this, which feels apt for the turn this thread has taken...

https://twitter.com/Izaakson/status/228147257738948608/photo/1

chiming in a bit late -- i def prefer guys who identify as bi, all other things being equal of course. the most decent of the slew of menfolk i've met on okc was a guy who identified as bi

whooo got a date

i should be more open-minded i guess. i definitely don't have a problem with it conceptually or morally (or even consider myself rigidly heterosexual...though i actively am only trying to date men). i think with online dating though it's just another minor personal detail like "favorite band is coldplay" or "dislikes cats" that will give me pause when replying.

kind of wish I could see profiles of past exes that I really hit it off with, for comparison's sake. also, like 90% of my top matches have kids. don't know about this.

People with kids are a whole other basket of I don't know what to do about.

yeah, for real. i've never even gone on a date with a child-haver.

People who want kids are a whole other basket of I don't know what to do about.

ok this thread prompted me to reply to a couple of messages i let pile up, since i've been feeling fairly negatively about OKC. if only there were a similar thread for job hunting, since that is what i should really be doing instead...

or maybe i'll just update my profile...

my date has two little kids but i think parenting is hot and she's a hot parent and i work with kids so i figure it's something i can get by, besides since we're both divorced we got stuff to talk about

i went on a date with a child-haver a while ago -- she was pretty great, but it was fairly obvious that we were 'in different places' so to speak

In ten or fifteen years, my husband will be dead. Pretty much all of the people I date then will have teenage or older children. I'm not looking forward to having to deal with that.

what's wrong with kids? if kids didn't exist we wouldn't be here

tbh dealing with kids, or your ability to deal with kids, is a pretty good indicator of how you'd do in life's trying moments for some people.

i was the last good kid

Nothing's wrong with kids, I just don't really want to have to live around someone else's? And I want my own!

Shoot, when I say "live around" I mean "plan around and take into account in all/most parts of my life" not, like, live NEAR them.