Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I have updated my profile to say that I am a nice lesbian.

I am so confused now.

(Not that it matters in the slightest. It's just amusing when someone who has been posting and you have been interacting with for years turns out to be a different gender from that you assumed.)

Haz, apologies for my flippancy. I am an equal-op dater w/r/t height, but I recently saw a guy's profile where he spent most of it complaining about and mocking women who specify their pref for taller men blah blah. I hadn't realized it was such a thing on okc cos I don't read other women's profiles much but maybe it is?

Also 38 is close to my age! Totally age-appropriate. What are you doing on Thursday?

so i met up with "i can't fall in love with you" guy and he feels really bad and thinks he made a huge mistake and wants to give things more time. it felt a bit like a therapy session with me as the therapist. but it wasn't a bad conversation. i'm sympathetic/empathetic to being full of neuroses, even though i've been kind of magically transformed by brain drugs and therapy to a calm rational being over the last year.

i said i was not going to commit to anything, that i need to keep my distance but that we could try hanging out and taking things really slowly. but over the course of the evening i started to think this might not be the best idea for me. i had the nagging feeling that he was evaluating me and my lovability that i couldn't shake. plus he kept checking his phone and texting with his ex and complaining about the texts his ex was sending him trying to harangue him to adopt a cat she found and it turned me off pretty hard. so i called it an early night and said goodbye.

i guess the one thing i think is cool is that we can have these therapy-esque talks about our feelings, and neither of us can really afford to be in therapy right now, so maybe we could serve that purpose in each other's lives. however it seems pretty one-sidedly about him and his issues so far. i guess i should just walk away.

unless you have the time and energy to volunteer as a therapist, yeah

ex sounds needy too

http://i.imgur.com/LOpIX.jpg

Texting excessively while out with someone is kind of a dud, but with HIS EX jesus christ man. Tell him to get a cat, embark on a voyage of self-discovery, and maybe you can chill in a year.

btw I am a big proponent of voyages of cat- and self-discovery

plus he kept checking his phone and texting with his ex and complaining about the texts his ex was sending him

sounds p chill

plus he kept checking his phone and texting with his ex and complaining about the texts his ex was sending him trying to harangue him

Please who complain abt drama are often nurturing it for their own reasons, I just saw a lot of that recently w/r/t texting exes & friends & message boards and not being able to stop responding to ppl or move on. Nagl.

if he's going to take your willingness to be understanding about neurosis as carte blanche to be egregiously and inconsiderately neurotic, that could end up pretty annoying.

texting exes & friends & message boards

brb guys, this lady just got back from the restroom, she seems to not get why I keep typing to "that ilx thing"

A fair cop, since we're quoting Python now.

No but my ex-bf used to cause/get into crazy insult wars on a music board, offending & alienating everyone and being incoherent, and then having to "defend" himself from those same people later. He would stay up all night and be miserable and useless and have anxiety attacks (supposedly) and then stay home all the next day being depressed about it. He stopped when we got together but at the end it was happening again, so... just say no to this kind of thing.

would be tempted to live blog my OKC dates on ilx thread

I used to get in the most bizarre pseudo-arguments where I would not necessarily be devil's advocate, but not really have a point? idk, the entire time period seems really bizarre and and inexplicable now that I'm older and medicated

He was a little over-medicated already.

It's a very easy thing, when already unhappy/depressed, to use messageboards etc. as an eternalisation of one's own self loathing.

Combine with poor impulse control and an addictive personality = deep trouble.

whither f.hazel goest, ilx will go.

if he's going to take your willingness to be understanding about neurosis as carte blanche to be egregiously and inconsiderately neurotic, that could end up pretty annoying.

yep, this.

pretty easy to get other people to loathe you as a way to externalize, yup

been there, done that, paid the check and went home

Laurel, what was missing from that 'not on OKC' pie chart was "read about OKC on ILX."

Also true. In her defense I don't think the art is one of us one of us one of ussssss

Artist, rather. Although personally my favorite slice of pie is "not into soul patches or 50-year-olds," with respect to 50yos who are perfectly respectably not trying to date 30yos or something. There are some people claiming to be 40 or 41 on this thing that are at least several years off.

would be tempted to live blog my OKC dates on ilx thread

Pato refused to do this when he was OKCing >:(

tbh when people do that for sites like nerve/gawker, i kind of hate it. using people for your snarky judgmental article is mean.

>For the record I was trying out giving people high star ratings to see if it would encourage them to contact me

not everyone gets these b/c of email settings. just realized that yesterday with my own settings.

f hazel would never give in to that temptation, don't worry

I am all but ignored by dudes in Denver, but lately I am getting a lot of msgs from people in other states--most notably in the Chicago area and/or East Coast. This only supports my theory that I am just not the Mile High City's type.

Must be a lot of outdoorsy camping type people in CO, no? Can't really see you and them being each others things, you know?

On the other hand you seem to find way more eclectic group of people to hang with on a regular basis than I would expect out of CO so idk.

Majority of people are outdoorsy hiking camping snowboarding people with a oh-so-tiny hipster edge.

Maybe I need to import a boyfriend from the midwest.

your workplace has an office here, iirc

Yep. We do. We have a small one in chicago, too. But part of my job relies on a huge office wherein people are semi clueless so not sure how it'd translate to a smaller place.

what is the etiquette for when you messaging someone and they don't get back to you? can they block you? i was thinking of messaging someone again but if they can't block me i don't want to be creepo harasser

also it only took 24 hrs for the well of cute matches above 70% to run dry, wtf okcupid

they can block you if they find you creepy. i take a while to return messages, a lot of the time.

imo, a second message (after some elapsed time) doesn't seem creepy. a third seems a bit much. (this guy msged me a third time about how lonely he was and WOW is that not a motivation to respond)

yeah i wouldn't stoop to a third

this lady has a picture of herself napping on a real tiger's stomach though and i have to hear that story

oddly enough my top three matches atm all have pics olf themselves feeding or playing with tigers in thailand

That is the staff robot at work no doubt.

feeding a baby tiger with a bottle just went to #1 on the bucket list

they look v soft

pretty sure there was either a bh ideas or 77 content image related to that

is feeding/playing with tigers the lady equivalent of men posing in front of machu pichu?

shit, I have never been to machu pichu! I knew there was a reason women never call me back.

i don't know b_g is standing in front of maccu picchu super-hot because if so yes

We have great news!

Your personality: Really great
How bad girls want you: So bad
Your profile, as of 8 milliseconds ago: Approved!

ok wtf does this email mean

your bones are gonna get jumped

btw b_g = tza?

mh i don't believe that's what that email means

Nope, b_g is bell labs.