itt blogs instruct you how to be a man

um

btw her favorite song is "you look like a jew" by pussy galore

...i'm really sorry about that joke, that was pretty tasteless esp. given the last bit of discussion here

hahaha i actually have that album (well whatever compilation that song is on, i don't have it on vinyl or anything), everything on it is tasteless! but at the time i bought it, i would have told all these gentleman blog guys that my v ladylike favorite song was 'boilermaker' by jesus lizard so

To be fair to that piece of crap advice, it is probably true for me. Still crap for other, less socially dysfunctional people, though.

it is an incredibly naive piece of advice to begin with, i mean it assumes that the way a MAN interpret a woman's feelings based on songs is objective? and beyond that presumes women are incapable of expressing themselves even if they want to, god they don't even know what THEY FEEL, magical irrational creatures that they are, and encourages dudes to judge women on the music they like? yup

yes but what does einsturzende neubauten say about my feelings

it says OOOOWOOWOWOOWOWOOOOOOOooooooOOOOwoooOOOOO

It's all really cute tbh, like these guys know that they're missing something called "empathy", but they're not entirely sure what that is, so fill it in by trying to judge how someone feels by their Most Recently Played list on their iPod.

that is so not my definition of cute

it's a stretched definition, granted

Ahh, no. Lack of empathy is cute if you're a sociopath, maybe. Everyone else needs to get some.

These guys are certainly trying to get some, but they're not going to be passing any voigt-kampff tests

https://twitter.com/iBoyFriendTips

And here I thought those would be tips about being a boyfriend. No. No, they are tips from a fictional boyfriend, to tell girls how to be less ugly, skanky, and stupid.

hey guys, the art of manliness blog posted a how-to for a ridiculously specific niche skill while proclaiming its essential manliness, really super impressed with how in-touch they are with the challenges and needs of modern man, wow

http://artofmanliness.com/2012/07/17/how-to-restore-an-heirloom-axe/

I encourage you to try to find an heirloom axe to restore. With the success of Gransfors Bruks, boutique axes have mushroomed in popularity over the last decade or so. If you are lucky enough to compare a Gransfors, a Wetterlings, a Council Tool, or any of the other available high quality axes to the generic trunk-slapper available at your nearby hardware store, you will be amazed at the cutting ability of even a small camping axe.

GUESS WHAT SUNSHINE THIS IS NOT MANLY

going through their "100 books every man should read" list and i'm just gonna go ahead and guess that there is one female author on the entire list and that it's you-know-who

Real men rip trees from the ground with their bare hands

rhymes with shmamille shmaglia? xp

http://artofmanliness.com/category/manly-skills/

holy shit this is hilarious and pathetic

wtf is with these people and axes

give me a goddamn machete any day of the week

"jesus christ, you're such a wimp! why don't you ever do manly things like making rope ladders or stabbing things with a broken cell phone spear?"

ok, there's four - frankenstein, the book of deeds of arms and of chivalry (it was written by a woman so it's all totes legit!!!), to kill a mockingbird and atlas shrugged

what a dull list

Christopher Battles July 17, 2012 at 8:53 pm

Thank you Josh for this detailed article. I am putting it on my Pinterest for when the time comes.

K, bye

DO YOU EVEN HEAR YOURSELVES

lol at ayn rand's vision of manliness being an aspiration

goole, I refuse to believe that is anything other than a clever trolling post

lol goole

rhymes with shmamille shmaglia? xp

thanking u

ok, there's four - frankenstein, the book of deeds of arms and of chivalry (it was written by a woman so it's all totes legit!!!), to kill a mockingbird and atlas shrugged

what a dull list

You can't find fault with a list that includes 4 biographies of Teddy Roosevelt though.

he's like ron swanson for old ppl

the author of those self made man columns i posted upthread has a new piece on salon:

http://www.salon.com/2012/08/07/trans_but_not_like_you_think/

i didn't understand the salon piece. i mean, i think i got the basic idea, but i don't understand the 'not like you think' part. maybe it's just me but it seemed a little incoherent

I don’t think I was born in the wrong body. I am not “finally myself.” I’ve never spent a day being anyone else.

idk. the author had pretty serious surgery done and took hormones - i can see how the term "born in the wrong body" might not feel like a perfect description to the author but surely it is true even here? like, the narrative read (to me at least) fairly traditionally.

I dunno why but I find the term "memoir-in-progress" sort of irritating

mordy, i'm really not interested in engaging you on this subject. i posted that link here for people who previously read & enjoyed the author's other work, which i posted upthread. the author happens to be a neighbor & friend so i'd appreciate your understanding in not second-guessing his intent. if you'd like to take the subject to a different thread, by all means do so.

how about first guessing?

how about stfu

i liked that article, thx

here's a fun one:

http://artofmanliness.com/2012/07/29/bosom-buddies-a-photo-history-of-male-affection/

As this new conception of homosexuality as a stigmatized and onerous identifier took root in American culture, men began to be much more careful to not send messages to other men, and to women, that they were gay. And this is the reason why, it is theorized, men have become less comfortable with showing affection towards each other over the last century. At the same time, it also may explain why in countries with a more conservative, religious culture, such as in Africa or the Middle East, where men do engage in homosexual acts, but still consider homosexuality the “crime that cannot be spoken,” it remains common for men to be affectionate with one another and comfortable with things like holding hands as they walk.

i'd recommend not reading the comments on that, fwiw

I thought they were mostly shocking reasonable, if frequently lacking any non-mainstream perspective? Pretty stodgy and some obvly prejudiced but not the overall virulence & ignorance I expect from internet comments.

The pictures are wonderful btw.

There are a couple comments that really betray a weird mindset about affection and sexuality that leads me back to the "closeted people are the worst homophobes" idea

more than a few comments lament the decline of the intimacy in male friendship and then seem to blame it on the increased visibility for gay men... riiiight.

there's such a strong disavowal of any erotic context in the article & in the comments that i don't quite believe. i may be splitting hairs but i feel there is are subtle distinctions between what is explicitly sexual and what is vaguely erotic, in the sense of men's bodies seeking each other out. putting aside the male-on-male etymology of the word, i am of the opinion that a lot of visible masculine camaraderie & fellowship has an erotic component, a mutual recognition of bodies, not in the "i want to fuck you, bro" way, but "good job, i'm gonna smack your butt" sort of way.

the commenter who claims that he feels like gagging when he sees men of other ethnic backgrounds holding hands until someone tells him they're straight and then it's cool with him and he's comfortable? how does that not absolutely reek of his own denied sexuality?

Oh yeah, even the best of the comments were definitely no models of tolerance. Although iirc ONE person did note that if we stopped stigmatizing gayness then men showing affection wouldn't have any neg associations.