Should I go fishing or get a friend to hang around? Celebrated GAY Summer 2012

haha i was just gonna say that friends' babies are fun cuz they're not yours. "here - it's hungry!" "here - it needs to be changed!" "oh it's happy again GIVE IT BACK!" "bored now. you look tired!" "oh it's screaming - well, must be off, see you in a bit"

i think the gay uncle role (not actual uncle obv) is one i can embrace anyway. i have literally zero inclination to be a father, and give thanks for this on a regular basis.

(btw i once put a baby in a bin when i was babysitting it)

yes, as Q. Crisp also said, why would you throw away the #1 advantage of being gay?

(yes, this is somewhat tongue-in-cheek except as it applies to me)

a bin is a bloody garbage can, isn't it?

been a Funny Uncle two years. So far she has better taste in music and books than her parents.

b and i hung out with a friend of his who has a 2-yr-old. i think between the three adults we had like, ten minutes of grownup talk and the rest of the afternoon was like "oh, she's hungry! you want this food? you want..no? ok, let's stomp around this museum for awhile! *thwacks benches for five minutes straight*"

xp lol wtf lex!

it IS the #1 advantage of being gay though.

it was a small woven rattan wastepaper basket which was clean and didn't have a bag in it. i wanted to make sure the baby didn't crawl off the sofa while i went to make myself toast. then i forgot about it. then its parents came home :/

(the baby basically fit perfectly inside the bin, i even checked its head was supported, and it DIDN'T EVEN CRY)

and you didn't even throw out the bathwater.

yeah i was actually quite psyched to not be expected to have kids, or get married back then for that matter. my mom's best friend my godfather was also gay so everything was a bit easy for me i guess.

yeah i was actually quite psyched to not be expected to have kids

you're not down with the new dire heteronormativity?

pshaw to the direness i say

My cousin who I'm least close to, who is my age and divorced, brought a very butch young woman with her to our last xmas gathering, but that's it for gay fam.

You did a good thing there, Lex.

been a Funny Uncle two years. So far she has better taste in music and books than her parents.

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My niece likes Tilly and the Wall, which I swear I had nothing to do with.

I got a sexually and ethnically diverse family but still got some hilarious comments at the first Thanksgiving w bf

i.e. "Oh you MUST meet my father's caregiver, she's from Laos! No, wait... Vietnam! Her name is Trinh, what ethnicity is that?" ".............."

There were a few comments that involved the word "chappie" that I shouldn't relate

Gotta admit my ignorance over the derogatory properties of "chappie." Please enlighten? More old-person gay slang?

My bf's ex-boss would occasionally refer to him and other gay employees as "fun boys." She was later forced to attend a "respect in the workplace" seminar.

The 60+ age group in my family uses the word "chappie" occasionally, and never to refer to any specific ethnicity, religious group or sexuality. It does almost always mean a non-WASP or non-heterosexual. And it's meant to imply a sort of jocular familiarity with that 'other'. "My parents would never have objected if I went on a date with a Jewish chappie" for example.

my dad asked how my "friend" was on the phone last week. guess he's not yet comfortable with appending "boy-" to the front of it

my mom's always been totally fine but has also always been "friend"

http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lwz715L9g31qbuel9.gif

"friend" is a necessary drabness, i don't let it bother me, but i bet would surprise myself by how much i'd be willing to part with if by doing so i could force everyone to call my bf "fun boy" instead of "friend" from now.

ugh what a terrible sentence.

anyway, me and my fun boy

http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y153/struggin/IMG_1225.jpg

ka-yoot

yeah i'm not particularly upset about it. also my mom said my brother showed her a photo of us on our road trip and told me "you guys look really happy together"

aw

Pretty much the cutest

What a dashing couple!!

Important question: is 'dashing' one of those words like 'dapper' that while once a kind of foppish straight guy compliment now has a vague air of gay about it? or is it still the sort of thing one says of str8 dudes?

i didn't know dapper was va-gay, nor dashing

Don't ever hold a child in the kitchen, lex.

Guys there's a new Alanis single

Her new album is called "Havoc and Bright Lights"

It sounds like Evanesence and it's making me cry :-(

it took me a few seconds to get your dn

It sounds like Evanesence and it's making me cry

Well turn it off!

Hah I realized shortly after I came up w it that it'd be really not-intuitive and hard to decode but didn't care.

I always mix up Wild Things and Cruel Intentions and have seen neither; which one is the good one or are they both the good one? I picked Wild Things and Glitter up for 99c ea the other day.

i remember ci being fun and nothing about wild things. i was into buffy and crushed on phillipe tho so there was attachment already

cruel intentions is great and also has joshua jackson as a louche bleached-blond gay drug dealer. i've never seen wild things though, i don't think

never saw CI, liked Wild Things but then I have a taste for raw Bacon.

http://media.screened.com/uploads/0/5125/442786-willie_o_keefe_large.gif

also WT has Theresa Russell and Bill Murray, whaddya want

i'm in the "seen CI, never seen WT" camp as well

i don't think gay guys are exempt from feeling some form of desire to raise children, which is maybe an obvious statement but eh, ok. i kinda think it's maybe more cultural than biological for most people but our culture likes to pretend a uterus makes you crazy and that a woman's mind is simply at the mercy of the rest of her biology.

my bf and his best friend (bi/f) made a plan to co-parent a kid together if they were both single at 27. that didn't happen and THANK GOD for that.

right now on melrose place jake and allison are expecting and allison is freaking out, all the change is too fast for her

but jake is all ready for it!

remember when Grant Show was supposed to be hot

he's very sweet