Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Its ok Ive had a profile for ages and I never end up messaging anyone because everything I start writing seems daft and I lose courage :|

okcupid

i'm going on a date with a cool girl i met on this next week!

Have a date with an okc dude tmr. Seems like a cool person--am currently having issues with an IRL person so maybe this will just push all that outta my mind. Expectations too high?

my friend who is also on it let me look through the messages she has received from guys and it was pretty shocking both the depravity of some of them (you wanna watch me wank off on skype? etc) and the template messages that had obviously been sent to hundreds of ppl. gave me confidence actually.

After a couple weeks of fussing with my profile and sending out dozens of messages with virtually no reply, someone sent me a brief message that ended up turning into a great conversation. We're meeting up tomorrow! The takeaway is to put as little effort into the site as possible, evidently.

ts: neways guy vs. anti-seducers

met the dopest girl from here right when i was at my dating nadir - i was gonna post something all dopey about it a while ago, and then thought better of it. next thing i know we've been seeing each other for a month

i swear i keep expecting to wake up some morning with my kidneys gone

Waiting for date. Not really feeling up to it today but oh well!

Abort abort

?

Sorry, that was written in a moment of desperation. Super nice but self-described talker. Like he talked the entire time. I felt like I was in a movie because I did not realize that people talked that ceaselessly in real life.

Aaaand I'm a terrible person. Oh well.

That doesn't make you a terrible person! You're calling it like it is.

The date I just came back from was confusing. Fun conversation, I had a good time, but I'm so bad at reading interest. Seemed like she wasn't feeling it, but I could be way off.

I worry Im a talker/babbler with new people tbh :( I get so nervous, I compulsively fill lulls and silences with inane chatter. I cant help it. I know it must be irritating and it upsets me to think I'm dateless because I'm actually a complete fucking git.

I like inane chatter

Daet this week :D

Did he do any listening? When I'm amongst people I know and like, I am usually really, really talkative, but I it's not a one-way flow b/c I care about what the other person is saying.

Also, WTF @ this profile http://www.okcupid.com/profile/SeekAdventure25

is it sfw?

Yes. He's a strain of dipshit I don't think I've seen before.

Oh ugh, one of those 'my rudeness! Its so hilarious! HAW!' assholes.

http://ak2.okccdn.com/php/load_okc_image.php/images/16/150x150/558x800/157x168/531x542/0/5134688914353916608.png

^this has meme potential

Ha - I hadn't looked at his pics before and I thought you added the text, forks.

A few years back I was posted to Kiribati, an island south of Hawaii which straddles both the equator and the international date line. In Kiribati at that time (they've changed it since) the day of the week depended on where you happened to be on the island. Using a dating agency (a bricks-and-mortar one with two card index trays, one pink, one blue) I started seeing a woman who lived on the eastern side of the island. She ran a beaded headband business from home. On Wednesdays (her time, Thursdays mine) I'd straddle her in her bungalow, making a short detour on my way home from the office.

This worked out pretty well, since I never had to lie to my wife. She'd say "What did you do today?" and I'd reply "Oh, nothing special, hon, just a regular Thursday at the office, then straight home." Luckily she never thought to ask "So what did you do yesterday, today?"

This is a good gimmick account.

there's one that viewed my profile recently who's name was bintje, as in the type of potato. with a pic of a potato. and a profile describing the ... merits of potato hood.

sounds like he has a chip on his shoulder

Re: je55e's question up there, he asked me a few questions but once he started talking I had to interrupt
him every time I wanted to say anything. I hve talkative friends too--I have nothing against talkers--this was just really extreme! Didn't mean to make any talkative folks self conscious. He was super nice which is why I felt bad for wanting to end the date but it really was beyond what I can take...

― King Boiled Potato (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 26 February 2009 05:37

Think I got my profile successfully deactivated. Thought it was months ago, but apparently not! My sister jokingly messaged me the other day that we should be friends as we are a high match for that o_O

lol I also looked at yr profile recently too I think. Sort of by accident, I was going thru my old messages and clicked on you.

Been messaging/emailing guy I am going on a date with this Friday. Trying really hard to quell my nerves/anxiety/trying-too-hard usual enthusiasm that squashes everything. He seems lovely and I really want to just have an easy nice encounter for a change instead of Rampant Issues Man #34534534

uh huh accident

lol

your sister is hilarious btw

lol mh ;P

my sister is... unique

i got my brother to go on okcupid a few months ago but i'd already forgotten that i was even on okcupid still (i finally disconnected in May bc it is unfair to stay on something like this when not paying any attention to it imo), and then he dropped off it within like 2 weeks bc he is better at real life anyway (tho it was prob the push he needed to get going irl), so i guess we will never have an awkward sibling encounter on okcupid! or know if we are compatible be friends :/ lol

I'm kind of glad I stuck around cos of the guy Im talking to now, but I had been feeling a little guilty that all the other people messaging me I was just ignoring - none of them were even remotely my type.

there is something to be said for patience, sometimes

I'm trying to steel myself for another let down, in all honesty :(

the past is a foreign country

Good point! Mustnt let other experiences taint new ones :) Onward with gusto! TBH I'm a little bit of excited. He's a lovely fey blonde morrisey and glam rock fan and he's terribly cute.

it might seem harder to go into things with an open heart because it feels vulnerable and can result in pain or not in pain, but ultimately going in with a closed heart can result in the same pain or not pain. i think we hurt ourselves unnecessarily more by closing our hearts even a little in steeling ourselves for let down. it can be hard not to, i know, especially when experience piles atop itself... so it's like, here i am, with my big bad heart, and that feels good to me, love me for who i am or not.

xp go forth!

aw

When you close your heart to love, you eliminate the risk of a broken heart. You also assure yourself of a dull, lonely, pointless life. Despite the risk, I'll take openheartedness.

yay trayce! who cares what the future holds, give into the excitement now.

might seem harder to go into things with an open heart because it feels vulnerable and can result in pain or not in pain, but ultimately going in with a closed heart can result in the same pain or not pain. i think we hurt ourselves unnecessarily more by closing our hearts even a little in steeling ourselves for let down. it can be hard not to, i know, especially when experience piles atop itself... so it's like, here i am, with my big bad heart, and that feels good to me, love me for who i am or not.

― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Monday, July 2, 2012 9:41 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

ilu

<3 <3 <3 <3

I might get back on this thing. Updates/hilarity/heartbraek TK!